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Which jobs would attract you to a partner?

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BobbyBiscuits · 22/05/2024 13:34

In the same vain as my last post about what jobs would put you off..

Which careers would you imagine would make you more likely to date someone?
Light-hearted of course.

Mine would be-

Musician
Artist
Academic
Engineer
Plumber
Joiner
Cannabis farmer

What would yours be?

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MidnightMeltdown · 22/05/2024 17:33

@BruFord I'm just imagining the conversations about how horrendous peoples teeth are, and getting lectured on how to use my toothbrush properly 😂

evilharpy · 22/05/2024 17:32

AnotherEmma · 22/05/2024 16:29

Not true of my DH, data analyst and loves to laugh.

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Definitely not true, although I'm sure there is a correlation between data people and having a dry sense of humour.

I would not say no to a skilled carpenter who makes furniture with dovetail joints, especially if he wears a shirt with rolled up sleeves while he does it. Or a landscape gardener because my garden is shit and I would like it to not be.

Alltheunreadbooks · 22/05/2024 17:31

This doesn't work the other way, strangely.

Men don't care what job a woman does unless it embarrasses them by earning loads more than them or is ' mans work'.

Butchyrestingface · 22/05/2024 17:31

Independently wealthy and nearly dead. âš°

UntiltheGirl · 22/05/2024 17:29

MidnightMeltdown · 22/05/2024 17:27

I've dated a couple of academics (science) in my time and found them same thing.

Very intelligent men, but something lacking that I couldn't quite put my finger on, but it relates to emotional intelligence and empathy. Academics tend to be a touch on the narcissistic side too.

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Based on your sample size of two scientists?

MidnightMeltdown · 22/05/2024 17:27

AnotherEmma · 22/05/2024 13:48

In the same vein

My husband has a masters and a well-paid desk job.

He doesn't do any DIY or gardening.

He has many qualities but emotional intelligence is not a strong point.

So if I found myself single again I would be attracted to men who are emotionally intelligent and do practical jobs, I think.

I've dated a couple of academics (science) in my time and found them same thing.

Very intelligent men, but something lacking that I couldn't quite put my finger on, but it relates to emotional intelligence and empathy. Academics tend to be a touch on the narcissistic side too.

groyard · 22/05/2024 17:27

Brother is a pilot for BA. Possibly would have said pilot prior to realising they are all very boring and borderline tedious.

groyard · 22/05/2024 17:25

Carpenter. I don’t know if it’s a case of being attracted to something outside my norm. My entire social circle has followed a very similar path uni -> corporate job/doctor etc. My neighbour recently built a treehouse for his daughter and it was possibly the most attractive thing I have ever witnessed. Almost broke up with my boyfriend (lawyer) when I saw him decorate it with bunting.

OhHelloMiss · 22/05/2024 17:24

Police!

BruFord · 22/05/2024 17:23

MidnightMeltdown · 22/05/2024 17:18

Dentist?! 🤣🤣🤣

I don't think that I've ever seen a sexy dentist

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@MidnightMeltdown One of my friends is a dentist and she’s very attractive- I don’t think her DH was attracted to her due to her profession. 🤣

I’ll be boring and say that I’d go for someone who works in finance but wants to become a sustainable farmer. That’s my DH!

MidnightMeltdown · 22/05/2024 17:18

kitteninabasket · 22/05/2024 17:12

Cannabis farmer Grin

Scientist (to talk shop)
Vet (so I could trust him to take care of my No. 1)
Engineer
Optometrist, as long as he didn't insist on displaying photos or diagrams of eyeballs in the house
Dentist
Anthropologist

Dentist?! 🤣🤣🤣

I don't think that I've ever seen a sexy dentist

labracadabras · 22/05/2024 17:14

I don’t mind what they do - as long as they aren’t a porn actor, cameraman etc or work for the porn or illegal drug industries.

i only don’t mind if they own their own home or not or have a large or small income or pension.

i do care if they are kind or not

kitteninabasket · 22/05/2024 17:12

Cannabis farmer Grin

Scientist (to talk shop)
Vet (so I could trust him to take care of my No. 1)
Engineer
Optometrist, as long as he didn't insist on displaying photos or diagrams of eyeballs in the house
Dentist
Anthropologist

GalileoHumpkins · 22/05/2024 17:10

Space Cowboy.
Bounty hunter (Din Djarin not Dog).
Legoland model builder.
Director of cat meme creation.
The person who writes those three-word descriptions of Netflix shows.

UpUpUpU · 22/05/2024 17:08

My partner is a chemist and well respected academic. He’s extraordinarily clever and a massive nerd, which I love!

Brains are my thing so any career that requires proper knowledge and expertise.

Or a farmer 😂😂

Spacecowboys · 22/05/2024 17:07

A job that involves 30-40 hours of work per week, no more than that. The job itself doesn’t matter. I’m all for people having ambition and drive but not to the extent that their family life is compromised.

Mummypie21 · 22/05/2024 17:06

Accountant
Pharmacist
Optician
Engineer
Psychiatrist

mrlistersgelfbride · 22/05/2024 17:05

Cannabis farmer 🤣
I know one of those too...trust me you wouldn't want to go out with them! 🙈😂

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 22/05/2024 17:03

Would loathe to date a creative sorry- screams emotional, financially unstable imo.

mrlistersgelfbride · 22/05/2024 17:03

Once again I'm quite different from the OP!
Musician and artist would be low on my list. Considering it can be seasonal and unsociable hours with a dose of dossing about 🤣 not meaning to offend anyone. I have friends who are both and they do plenty of dossing!

Teacher and scientist are high on my list, and car mechanic.

Ponderingwindow · 22/05/2024 17:02

I tend to get crushes on, mathematicians, composers, and some professors or researchers. Men who have to flex their intelligence are a huge turn-on.

TheCultureHusks · 22/05/2024 16:56

All these lusty people racing around doing their LUSTY thing

LeftLegRightLegYourBodyWillFollow · 22/05/2024 16:54

I just came on to say tree surgeon!

4-5 blokes in harnesses being all agile and manly while welding huge power tools in my garden a while back was an unexpected but marvellous spectacle 😄 And I reckon they must earn a decent wage, the amount we paid..!

0hno · 22/05/2024 16:51

Lusty tree surgeon?

SOxon · 22/05/2024 16:48

SOxon · 22/05/2024 16:31

a lusty farmer

failing this, I would consider any of these candidates

lusty horse breeder
lusty horticulturalist
lusty botanist
lusty garden designer
lusty architect
lustful designer (of the Terence Conran milieu)
lusty travel writer (of the Michael Palin type)
lusted after travel writer (of the Michael Woods only type)

I was so carried away thinking of Michael Woods … I meant an Historian/Writer