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To think I shouldn't have to justify my annual leave to my manager?

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Bubblegumtea · 22/05/2024 12:58

Or anyone for that matter. I'm moving house and I had booked leave because I have some routine health appointments this week ( nothing work needs to know about ) and I didn't want any more medical appointments or sick pay to show on my payslips after I was ill in the new year as I know the mortgage companies look at these from when my mum had to supply loads more than the usual three to her work after she had a hysterectomy, just to confirm she was back at work basically and earning. Anyway, I've not made any mention of this at work and taken annual leave instead to cover these appointments to ensure I don't have any sick pay or anything showing up on my payslips and my god, the amount of people asking why I'm on leave this week ( this is fine if it's normal 'got any plans?' sort of chat ) and when I don't want to lie but also don't mention said appointments and say oh I just want to relax etc I get loads of responses 'you'll waste your leave', 'no point taking it', 'you are the worst for taking leave when you don't need to'... erm shutup? You have no idea what I'm taking leave for and it's none of your business. My manager even suggested I cancel it! I'm a part of a big team we, quite a lot of responsibility on me but we all do a similar job on the whole so no major impact by me being off. Aibu or is what someone does with their annual leave none of anyone's business? I never pry over colleagues lives like this!

Yanbu - none of their business
Yabu - they own your time outside of work aswell as inside of it

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Bubblegumtea · 22/05/2024 13:01

Sunnysummer24 · 22/05/2024 13:01

This sounds like normal chat to me. It sounds like making it sound like you’re being negative about your holiday and they’re suggesting you could take it at a different time if you wanted.

Tbh it probably does sound normal but it's specific, really annoying colleagues saying it and repeatedly too.

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Sunnysummer24 · 22/05/2024 13:01

This sounds like normal chat to me. It sounds like making it sound like you’re being negative about your holiday and they’re suggesting you could take it at a different time if you wanted.

SpringleDingle · 22/05/2024 13:00

Wow, that's rude!! It's far more normal and polite to say "doing anything fun?" I'd go with "mind your own business!"