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To think you shouldn't say she's ON the toilet

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pontipinemum · 22/05/2024 09:57

I hate when DH says 'she's on the toilet' instead of 'she's in the bathroom' or 'she'll be back in a min, she's gone to the loo' or similar

I've heard him say it a good few times most recently over the weekend. I do tell him I don't like it, he doesn't see why.

This is meant in a light hearted way! It does not occupy much of my brain

YABU - It's a perfectly normal thing to say
YANBU - Bit graphic

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Hadalifeonce · 22/05/2024 10:29

I always say that DH isn't available at the moment.

maudelovesharold · 22/05/2024 10:29

I agree with you, op. The thing is if he says ‘she’s in the bathroom’ you could be brushing your teeth/washing your hair/applying make-up - any number of wholesome activities! ‘She’s on the toilet’ immediately conjures up a picture of you sitting on the loo!

TheHeadOfTheHouse · 22/05/2024 10:28

Years ago when I banged my head of the corner of a shelf at work I immediately went to sit down as I felt sick. The closest place was on the toilet (it was in a nursery, and I was next to the toilet area directly from the room) so I sat on the toilet with the seat down.

when they did a report on the incident, they put I had banged my head then went and sat on the toilet instead of went to sit down.

she couldn’t understand why I objected to her writing that.

Apollo365 · 22/05/2024 10:28

Omg someone at work used to say - dropping the kids off at the pool… 🫣🤢

ObliviousCoalmine · 22/05/2024 10:28

midgetastic · 22/05/2024 10:00

But any euphemism means the same thing so ?

But by that logic you'd think "she can't because she's shitting" was ok.

Catsmere · 22/05/2024 10:26

SpikeGilesSandwich · 22/05/2024 10:23

Could be worse, I once answered the phone as a child and called for my dad... he must have been really stressed because he didn't normally swear but for some reason, he answered with, "I'm having a shite" which I promptly repeated down the phone.

Didn't go down too well Blush

🤣🤣🥹

DanielGault · 22/05/2024 10:24

Iwrotethelyricstoaxlf · 22/05/2024 10:22

Indisposed = gone for a shit, back in a bit

Now that's classy!

SpikeGilesSandwich · 22/05/2024 10:23

Could be worse, I once answered the phone as a child and called for my dad... he must have been really stressed because he didn't normally swear but for some reason, he answered with, "I'm having a shite" which I promptly repeated down the phone.

Didn't go down too well Blush

Iwrotethelyricstoaxlf · 22/05/2024 10:22

Indisposed = gone for a shit, back in a bit

DanielGault · 22/05/2024 10:21

pontipinemum · 22/05/2024 10:09

@TheYearOfSmallThings what can I say, I'm from D4 where we don't even fart let alone sit on a loo 😂(I am far far far from D4 I'm a bog head from a small midlands town)

In the jacks so surely 😂

Catsmere · 22/05/2024 10:21

Wizardcalledoz · 22/05/2024 10:05

The loo is the equipment you're using, if you're in it, then you're using it wrong. It is only a bathroom if there's a bath in it!

Snerk - that means my current place has no bathroom, 'cos it doesn't have a bath! 😄

Actually when I hear "she's on the loo" I picture one of my cats standing on the lid.

fieldsofbutterflies · 22/05/2024 10:20

I really don't see the issue 🤷‍♀️

Catsmere · 22/05/2024 10:19

pontipinemum · 22/05/2024 10:05

@Catsmere I would associate 'restroom' with Americans. I thought they usually got confused when directed to the bathroom because they wanted the toilet not a bath

I'm trying to remember if I heard any American friends say restroom when I visited, but if talking about their homes it was definitely bathroom (confusing, as you said). I associate restroom with public loos which may have room for couches, say what used to be known as the Ladies' Lounge in big department stores.

BeTwinklyBee · 22/05/2024 10:17

I dont like it because I'm a very visual thinker so it conjures up a mental image I'd rather not have.

For the same reason, I feel really uncomfortable when someone says (outside of a clinical conversation) that they have diarrhoea or worse, 'the runs'. An upset stomach, food poisoning, ate something that disagreed with me, are all preferable to me.

I'm very aware I'm a bit unreasonable though.

Sahara123 · 22/05/2024 10:15

I don’t like it either , and I wince every time my husband says he’s going to “use the bathroom “ , it feels too graphic ! Actually, most of the time I don’t know why he needs to announce it at all, just go !

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pontipinemum · 22/05/2024 10:09

@TheYearOfSmallThings what can I say, I'm from D4 where we don't even fart let alone sit on a loo 😂(I am far far far from D4 I'm a bog head from a small midlands town)

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DuploTrain · 22/05/2024 10:08

Gone to the bathroom / toilet / loo is much better than announcing you are “on the toilet”.

Unless you’re three and it’s a big achievement, no-one needs to be told you’re on the toilet.

SiobhanSharpe · 22/05/2024 10:08

I agree OP, a little TMI.
Mind you, my DH could well say 'she's on the bog'...

WimpoleHat · 22/05/2024 10:07

It’s generally considered polite not to mention loo trips directly; hence you’d say “excuse me” not “I’m going to the loo” in any sort of formal setting. So yes - more “U” (a la Nancy Mitford) to say “she’s indisposed for the moment”. But depends who’s on the other end of the comment. Okay in a family context, but not more formally, probably.

Wizardcalledoz · 22/05/2024 10:05

The loo is the equipment you're using, if you're in it, then you're using it wrong. It is only a bathroom if there's a bath in it!

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pontipinemum · 22/05/2024 10:05

@Catsmere I would associate 'restroom' with Americans. I thought they usually got confused when directed to the bathroom because they wanted the toilet not a bath

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 22/05/2024 10:05

It wouldn't bother me at all (I'm Irish too but not a farmer Grin)

cakecoffeecakecoffee · 22/05/2024 10:04

Totally usual thing to say I think…. I’m in Devon.

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pontipinemum · 22/05/2024 10:04

CaptainMyCaptain · 22/05/2024 10:01

It creates a picture you don't really need to see.

That's what I think. It's an imagine you just don't need out there. 'She's in the loo' well she's just washing her hands or standing there like an inanimate object for a few minutes. She's on the loo, well, OK

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Wizardcalledoz · 22/05/2024 10:03

Raised in the south and it's very normal there.

So long as you're not saying she's on the shitter, I dont think there's a problem with it.