To think you shouldn't say she's ON the toilet

It’s not that bad, I’ve heard “so and so is taking a shit” or “having a dump”, but I agree it’s not very nice. I prefer the “gone to powder her nose” euphemism for women and “seeing a man about a dog” for men.

Yes I found that the Canadians thought that the word "toilet" was very graphic and offensive.

Isn't it interesting!

I guess it depends on the culture.

i say "John is in the toilet". Cause I refer to the whole toilet room as "the toilet"

I thought It was a totally normal thing to say .

Then I went to Canada for a summer. They thought it was a really strange thing to say.

A guy asked where my boyfriend was. I said "he's in the toilet"

The guy told me that he didn't need that much information about someone.

:)

Well, ask yourself why we want privacy to do those things? It’s an extension of that, I suppose. It’s interesting that there are some things for which we want to maintain a degree of privacy, even though we all know everyone does them. I can’t pretend to know why - it is what it is!

on the toilet is a completely normal thing to say!

I can’t be doing with all the pussy footing like bathroom or restroom. You’re not going for a bath or a rest! There’s no bath and who would want to sit or lie and rest in a toilet area, even if there was seating.

it’s all very Hyacinth Bucket.

TOILET TOILET TOILET.

This reminds me of the time years and years ago my dad was in the bathroom, and the landline rang. My brother answered it, it was the bank...

"Sorry he's on the toilet"

My dad was really cross. He told my brother off and said he shouldn't say someone is 'on the toilet' as it's rude 😂😂😂😂

I tend to say on the toilet. Sometimes I use ‘otherwise engaged’ in a sort of imaginary posh/trying to be polite but also amusing way 😂

I would never say in the bathroom, lavatory or loo.

I would say in the shower, if they’re in the bathroom but not on the toilet.

I used to work with someone who actually used to say that she was off to "wet her beard" whenever she visited the loo.

North America? Got one friend from the USA uses restroom and one from Canada who says washroom

I knew someone who said that. 🤣

So you have a shower room then, or a toilet/loo!

I come from a part of the world where we say bathroom, washroom, restroom or ladies room. They all mean toilet. But literally no one would ever say "toilet". Way too literal and graphic.

I think you may work with a friend of mine as that's what he says. I've never heard anyone else say it.

I've never heard anyone in real life refer to the lavatory, or loo, as the 'bathroom' unless they're American. Quite surprised how many people on here are using the term bathroom for the lavatory.

To me if someone said 'she's in the bathroom' I'd assume she's having a bath or shower because we're English.

That apart, I can understand why you're not happy if your DH is telling all and sundry that 'you're on the toilet' OP, if a stranger phones, for instance. However, if it's a family member or someone you know well, I can't really see the problem tbh. But if it bothers you, it bothers you so surely it's something he could just amend his words to accommodate.

Because there's a place between 'pretending we don't have bodily functions' and making explicit and unnecessary references to them. If a host asked you if your bed was comfortable you wouldn't reply 'yes, we had a good night's sleep and excellent sex in it' would you? Similarly, you can indicate that you're not available to someone without informing them that you're defecating. No one needs or wants to know this.

Apart from which, surely it's grammatically correct to reply to a "where" question with a "where" answer - e.g if someone asks where you are tell them the location. If they ask what you're doing tell them the activity.

E.g. if someone asked "where's x" when you were at work the right answer would be
"She's at work/she's in the office" not "she's on the computer/she's examining a patient." A because nobody can say exactly what someone out of their field of vision is doing and B because they didn't ask WHAT x was doing they asked where you were.

Seriously, though, I think the phrase "on the toilet" is much more evocative than "in the bathroom". You actually picture the person sitting on the loo doing their business, which is what some don't like.

"She's 'avin a Barry White." 🤣🤣🤣😭

Agree it points a bit too vivid a picture-plus it might not actually be accurate! He only knows WHERE you are, unless he's got x-ray vision he doesn't know exactly what you're doing....

At the given time he doesn't know whether you actually are using the toilet or if you have finished and are washing your hands/looking in the mirror/having a quick clean of the bathroom/disposing of a tampon/fixing your hair/using the weighing scales/brushing your teeth/changing the loo roll because no other bastard in the entire house is capable of doing so, etc. All of which are things I combine with a trip to the loo (not at the same time, obvs!)

I always say...I'm nipping to the loo.
Or can I use your toilet??

I don't see any issue!

In the loo

It’s a good rule not to supply information which is neither needed nor asked for, especially about bodily functions. Yes, we all have them, but nobody needs to know about yours, unless they are a healthcare professional.

As long as they don’t announce that they’re going for a shit I don’t really care about the exact phrasing!