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To think you shouldn't say she's ON the toilet

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pontipinemum · 22/05/2024 09:57

I hate when DH says 'she's on the toilet' instead of 'she's in the bathroom' or 'she'll be back in a min, she's gone to the loo' or similar

I've heard him say it a good few times most recently over the weekend. I do tell him I don't like it, he doesn't see why.

This is meant in a light hearted way! It does not occupy much of my brain

YABU - It's a perfectly normal thing to say
YANBU - Bit graphic

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steff13 · 23/05/2024 18:06

"OP can't come to the phone right now, can I take a message," seems sufficient. It's what was common here (US) when landline phones were the norm. If it was your cell, he should let it to to voicemail.

JudgeJ · 23/05/2024 18:05

Samlewis96 · 22/05/2024 12:08

North America? Got one friend from the USA uses restroom and one from Canada who says washroom

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At least they seem to have lost 'comfort station' for a loo in a public space.

When I first met my now late OH he would say he was off to point Percy at the porcelain.

Leedsfan247 · 23/05/2024 18:02

I use ‘temporarily indisposed’

CathyBrown · 23/05/2024 18:01

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DiduAye · 23/05/2024 17:53

If he's a farmer it could be worse!

katebushh · 22/05/2024 21:59

I say it to v close family because it's funny, imo!

LunaandLily · 22/05/2024 18:03

fieldsofbutterflies · 22/05/2024 16:31

lol, do you not see the irony of your comment?

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Wiunthoopered · 22/05/2024 17:35

We say in the loo.

NeedToStopSpendingOnCrap · 22/05/2024 17:25

Wouldn't bother me.
If he was to say something actually vile like ' she's on the loo curling one out' then I'd be pissed off.
But to be honest, on the toilet doesn't mean having a poo. Us women sit to pee too

anunlikelyseahorse · 22/05/2024 17:23

CoffeeAndPeanuts · 22/05/2024 16:54

Who uses landlines these days??

We do....we have zero phone signal and extremely patchy Wi-Fi.

anunlikelyseahorse · 22/05/2024 17:22

'S/he is in the tinder box room' is our normal response (although it slightly depends on who's calling!)

Flopsy145 · 22/05/2024 16:55

I find it way worse when people, think it's a localism round me, say "she's having a toilet." Wtf is that!!

CoffeeAndPeanuts · 22/05/2024 16:54

Who uses landlines these days??

mathanxiety · 22/05/2024 16:47

EarlHickey · 22/05/2024 13:26

We've lost sight of how to say we're having a dump

Not in my house we haven't.

mathanxiety · 22/05/2024 16:44

isthesolution · 22/05/2024 14:37

I know what you are saying but he could be saying much worse! It's hard for him to remember to not say what he has said for his whole life I guess?

It grinds on me when people call it 'the bathroom' when they need a toilet. I think it's quite American too but restaurants, pubs, shopping centres etc don't have bathrooms. They have toilets!

The toilet is surely the actual commode itself, though?

Americans tend to use the word "restroom", or "men's"/ "ladies'" in bars, restaurants, etc., for the room where the toilets/ urinals are located.

It's called "the bathroom" in people's homes, and every family has their own phrases for what goes on in there.

Going potty/ taking a dump/ dropping a deuce/ seeing an old friend off to the coast/ befouling the facilities...

MistyGreenAndBlue · 22/05/2024 16:43

I've always said bathroom and I'm from Manchester. My mum and grandparents are from Scotland though- maybe it's more common there?
In our house, the loo is now known as "The Depository" Grin

mathanxiety · 22/05/2024 16:36

user1492757084 · 22/05/2024 14:44

She's gone to the toilet.
She's at the toilet.
She's at the loo.
She's gone to the lavvy.

All fine by me.
She's gone to the bathroom I would not like as it is too American.. American's don't use the word toilet.

Really?

mathanxiety · 22/05/2024 16:35

The correct phrase is "She's on the throne".

fieldsofbutterflies · 22/05/2024 16:31

LunaandLily · 22/05/2024 16:14

I’m amazed so many people think this is ok! It’s just such an uncouth turn of phrase! Very unnecessary and I would also ask DH not to say it. I’m the least prissy person in the world but YANBU

lol, do you not see the irony of your comment?

Parky04 · 22/05/2024 16:22

"She's/he's on the bog" is how it is said in our house!

LunaandLily · 22/05/2024 16:14

I’m amazed so many people think this is ok! It’s just such an uncouth turn of phrase! Very unnecessary and I would also ask DH not to say it. I’m the least prissy person in the world but YANBU

user1492757084 · 22/05/2024 14:44

She's gone to the toilet.
She's at the toilet.
She's at the loo.
She's gone to the lavvy.

All fine by me.
She's gone to the bathroom I would not like as it is too American.. American's don't use the word toilet.

isthesolution · 22/05/2024 14:37

I know what you are saying but he could be saying much worse! It's hard for him to remember to not say what he has said for his whole life I guess?

It grinds on me when people call it 'the bathroom' when they need a toilet. I think it's quite American too but restaurants, pubs, shopping centres etc don't have bathrooms. They have toilets!

Unopenedpackofmenssocks · 22/05/2024 14:27

Sorry haven’t read all the answers but has anyone mentioned this:

What does he say if it is a man? If he is just having a wee he would not be “on” the toilet. If he says a man is “on” the toilet, then it’s clear that means doing a poo. But how would he know what the man was doing?

Tlolljs · 22/05/2024 14:19

My ex used to say he was going to shake hands with Nelson.
Im much more genteel and say I’m going for a wee.