To think you shouldn't say she's ON the toilet

pontipinemum · 2024-05-22T08:57:45+00:00

I hate when DH says 'she's _on _the toilet' instead of 'she's in the bathroom' or 'she'll be back in a min, she's gone to the loo' or similar I've heard him say it a good few times most recently over the weekend. I do tell him I don't like it, he doesn't see why. This is meant in a light hearted way! It does not occupy much of my brain YABU - It's a perfectly normal thing to say YANBU - Bit graphic

Objectionhearsayspeculation · 26/05/2024 14:43

Married to a NI farmer and work with lots of them there's worse he could say believe me!

willWillSmithsmith · 25/05/2024 20:27

toomanytonotice · 25/05/2024 18:58

Even then people still know you’ve gone to the loo.

i’m interested in how pp gets through life making sure nobody knows she goes to the toilet.

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I think it’s more ‘on’ the toilet, it’s really not a very nice phrase. I agree it’s not very realistic that someone is never referred to as being in the loo. Most of us will say ‘I’m just going to the loo (or bathroom)’ if we are in company.

Owl9to5 · 25/05/2024 20:09

Carly944 · 24/05/2024 09:50

My uncle used to say he was going to the library when he went to the toilet. As he brought a thick book in with him.

It always made me feel a bit sick

😅😐

FrancisSeaton · 25/05/2024 20:08

Oh god grief how very uncouth ....how will you ever get over the shame!

Owl9to5 · 25/05/2024 20:06

ManilowBarry · 25/05/2024 19:56

My husband says 'She's powdering her nose!'

One of our neighbours pursed her lips at this and was off with me until I got to the bottom of it and she had thought it was a reference to cocaine !

I like this. I'm going to use this with a straight shiny face. Love it from a man! He's clearly civilised.

Owl9to5 · 25/05/2024 20:01

pontipinemum · 22/05/2024 10:02

@WaitingForMojo no, we are both Irish but different regions here and town v country. He's a farmer so probably more of a to the point sort of person!

I'm Irish and I agree! On the toilet is too accurate!! Tell him "thanks for the visual". Now I'm picturing somebody's knickers around their ankles!!

Luckily he's in the minority as most people just naturally avoid saying on the toilet.

I have heard "on the throne". Ew!

ManilowBarry · 25/05/2024 19:56

My husband says 'She's powdering her nose!'

One of our neighbours pursed her lips at this and was off with me until I got to the bottom of it and she had thought it was a reference to cocaine !

MadMadaMim · 25/05/2024 19:55

pontipinemum · 25/05/2024 12:45

TBF he doesn't do it to annoy me just says it unintentionally

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I didn't say he does it to annoy you

You said "I do tell him I don't like it, he doesn't see why" and my reply was he shouldn't do it because he's fully aware you don't like it - whether he sees why or not.

toomanytonotice · 25/05/2024 18:58

willWillSmithsmith · 25/05/2024 16:02

Gone to powder your nose 😁 that’s what people used to say decades ago but of course that could also mean something very different.

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Even then people still know you’ve gone to the loo.

i’m interested in how pp gets through life making sure nobody knows she goes to the toilet.

Apollo365 · 25/05/2024 16:50

willWillSmithsmith · 25/05/2024 16:02

Gone to powder your nose 😁 that’s what people used to say decades ago but of course that could also mean something very different.

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Hahahaa definitely not a good one to use these days..

willWillSmithsmith · 25/05/2024 16:02

toomanytonotice · 25/05/2024 15:24

Pp says they don’t want anyone knowing they go to the toilet.

Totally agree, I don't want anyone to know I'm on the loo, it's personal

how does that work.

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Gone to powder your nose 😁 that’s what people used to say decades ago but of course that could also mean something very different.

toomanytonotice · 25/05/2024 15:24

willWillSmithsmith · 25/05/2024 13:43

At work you can just say you're going to the loo, nicer than saying toilet imo.

I agree with OP.

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Pp says they don’t want anyone knowing they go to the toilet.

Totally agree, I don't want anyone to know I'm on the loo, it's personal

how does that work.

willWillSmithsmith · 25/05/2024 13:43

toomanytonotice · 25/05/2024 07:44

Why the fuck would you want to take a phone call while having a shit? No need for detail, “on the toilet” is too graphic but audio of the event is fine?

we all use the toilet, everyone knows everyone else uses the toilet, so why is it such a big deal that someone knows?

if you’re at work or out, or otherwise in company, do you never go to the toilet in case they realise you go to the toilet? If you’re out shopping do you just slope off, or ask them to wait while you pop to the loo?

how does it work living life trying to hide your bodily functions?

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At work you can just say you're going to the loo, nicer than saying toilet imo.

I agree with OP.

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pontipinemum · 25/05/2024 12:45

MadMadaMim · 24/05/2024 03:35

If he's aware you don't like it, he should stop doing it. It doesn't matter what his view is

TBF he doesn't do it to annoy me just says it unintentionally

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toomanytonotice · 25/05/2024 07:44

Catkin51 · 24/05/2024 08:02

Agree OP. Better to say ‘she’s not around at the moment but will ring you back soon’. Or ‘She’s not here. Can I take a message?’
How does he know you are on the toilet anyway? You might be brushing your teeth, washing your hands, cleaning the floor etc.Saying you are on the toilet might imply you need to spend a long time in there - no need for all that detail! Or he could just put the phone outside the toilet door allowing you to grab it and speak anyway.

Why the fuck would you want to take a phone call while having a shit? No need for detail, “on the toilet” is too graphic but audio of the event is fine?

we all use the toilet, everyone knows everyone else uses the toilet, so why is it such a big deal that someone knows?

if you’re at work or out, or otherwise in company, do you never go to the toilet in case they realise you go to the toilet? If you’re out shopping do you just slope off, or ask them to wait while you pop to the loo?

how does it work living life trying to hide your bodily functions?

T1Dmama · 24/05/2024 23:59

It kind of depends!
my mother calls ‘she’s on the toilet’ fine!
my boss - not fine!!

Carly944 · 24/05/2024 09:50

My uncle used to say he was going to the library when he went to the toilet. As he brought a thick book in with him.

It always made me feel a bit sick

Gemz1010 · 24/05/2024 09:45

Catkin51 · 24/05/2024 08:02

Agree OP. Better to say ‘she’s not around at the moment but will ring you back soon’. Or ‘She’s not here. Can I take a message?’
How does he know you are on the toilet anyway? You might be brushing your teeth, washing your hands, cleaning the floor etc.Saying you are on the toilet might imply you need to spend a long time in there - no need for all that detail! Or he could just put the phone outside the toilet door allowing you to grab it and speak anyway.

Totally agree, I don't want anyone to know I'm on the loo, it's personal

Catkin51 · 24/05/2024 08:02

Agree OP. Better to say ‘she’s not around at the moment but will ring you back soon’. Or ‘She’s not here. Can I take a message?’
How does he know you are on the toilet anyway? You might be brushing your teeth, washing your hands, cleaning the floor etc.Saying you are on the toilet might imply you need to spend a long time in there - no need for all that detail! Or he could just put the phone outside the toilet door allowing you to grab it and speak anyway.

Stephaniedecorum · 24/05/2024 06:46

I would hate it! Far too graphic and no one’s business! In the bathroom or on the loo or better yet “ busy for a few minutes”

Justleaveitblankthen · 24/05/2024 05:59

hcee19 · 23/05/2024 22:46

It isn't regional to say toilet...l live in the North and we say "loo"...?

Are you middle class then? 😁

MadMadaMim · 24/05/2024 03:35

If he's aware you don't like it, he should stop doing it. It doesn't matter what his view is

Gingernan · 24/05/2024 02:51

Many years ago my daughter answered the phone to my bank manager and told him I was on the toilet.I pointed out to her that was a bit too much information! He and I had a little chuckle about it later.

elliejjtiny · 23/05/2024 23:04

My ds1 used to shout "mummy's on the toilet" through the letterbox if I was upstairs when someone knocked on the door. Whether I was actually on the toilet or not. I asked him not to so he cheerfully told some Jehovah's witnesses through the letterbox that I was in bed! Even more embarrassing.

hcee19 · 23/05/2024 22:46

It isn't regional to say toilet...l live in the North and we say "loo"...?