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Yellowpingu · 22/05/2024 10:15

Collies, which Shetland Sheepdogs are, are herding dogs and are also protective. If they’re not used to children and your child isn’t used to being around dogs (no running, as an example) then you should keep them apart for the weekend.

BoudiccaOfSuburbia · 22/05/2024 09:27

OP, you need to discuss this with the owners. Find out if the dogs are socialised with and used to children, and also have the dogs meet you and your child in their home with the owners present. So that the dogs can see that the owners welcome you and your child in their home.

Are the dogs well trained?

Also is your child sensible and will understand (if you explain) not to bother or tease the dogs, approach them while they are resting or eating etc?

If they are normal well trained well socialised family dogs who have been introduced to your child, and you will not leave your child alone with them I wouldn’t worry.

Bellaboo01 · 22/05/2024 09:09

ThatBluntTealScroller · 22/05/2024 08:56

They're shetland sheepdogs lovely things I was more than happy to take my son with me . After seeing on local news about owner being mauled just put me off . So pple saying I'm a bad parent you don't know me . My son is my ride and die I have him 4 days a week . What's the saying don't judge a book by its cover. 🙄

That just doesnt make sense what you have just said!

I have always owned sheepdogs and they are the most protective dogs ever (we were in Wales and they were working dogs but, have also since had two wonderful sheepdogs since living in the UK). They are breed to protect and guard!

They are extremely clever but, they are territorial and they might not like a child in their territory if they arent used to them.

Bellaboo01 · 22/05/2024 09:05

ThatBluntTealScroller · 22/05/2024 07:27

So I'm after some friendly feedback , I have Been asked to dogsit for a friend while they are on vacation for a weekend. I said yes ofc , now my issue is I have only met these dogs once and theyve never been in a child presence . I have a 6yr old which I have on weekends . Am I right to be hesitant on bringing my son into the dogs home ? I feel like my only option is to leave him at home with his dad where i know his safe and sound .

Why did you say yes that you would dog-sit without knowing how they would behave towards your child.

That isn't your only option. The first option would to say that you can't look after the dog for a weekend rather than say that you cant look after your child for the weekend!

Also it IS relevant what breed of dog it is, is it territorial, has it been 'done', has it been around Children, etc etc.

TomeTome · 22/05/2024 09:04

It’s not saying you are a bad parent to say pet sitting shouldn’t be at the expense of your weekend with your child. It’s saying that you are prioritising the wrong things. Who are these people to you and why does their weekend away mean you lose yours? Do you owe them?

TheCultureHusks · 22/05/2024 09:03

‘Ride and die’? Jesus Christ grow up.

UntiltheGirl · 22/05/2024 09:02

ThatBluntTealScroller · 22/05/2024 08:56

They're shetland sheepdogs lovely things I was more than happy to take my son with me . After seeing on local news about owner being mauled just put me off . So pple saying I'm a bad parent you don't know me . My son is my ride and die I have him 4 days a week . What's the saying don't judge a book by its cover. 🙄

People are going only on what you've said on here. Are you extremely young, or something?

You're misusing the term 'ride and die', also.

FiveShelties · 22/05/2024 09:02

I have had Shelties all my life but would not be comfortable with someone house sitting who also had a child.

Shelties are great dogs, but you just never know how the child will be with them and how they will be with the child.

FilthyforFirth · 22/05/2024 09:01

Yabu for describing your child as your 'ride or die'.

Deathbyfluffy · 22/05/2024 09:00

ThatBluntTealScroller · 22/05/2024 08:56

They're shetland sheepdogs lovely things I was more than happy to take my son with me . After seeing on local news about owner being mauled just put me off . So pple saying I'm a bad parent you don't know me . My son is my ride and die I have him 4 days a week . What's the saying don't judge a book by its cover. 🙄

No one is saying you’re a bad parent, they’re just saying surely the time to consider this was before agreeing - which is absolutely correct.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 22/05/2024 08:59

What is a 'ride and die'?

Anyway, you'd be better off speaking to the dog owners if you don't want to leave DC with dad.

Chely · 22/05/2024 08:58

Type of dog etc etc is irrelevant.
Never take a child that has not met dogs to look after them when the owners are not around. Leave child with dad.

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ThatBluntTealScroller · 22/05/2024 08:56

They're shetland sheepdogs lovely things I was more than happy to take my son with me . After seeing on local news about owner being mauled just put me off . So pple saying I'm a bad parent you don't know me . My son is my ride and die I have him 4 days a week . What's the saying don't judge a book by its cover. 🙄

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Catza · 22/05/2024 08:54

Not enough information to make a judgement.
Did you ask the owners if the dogs are child-friendly? Have the dogs genuinely never met a single child in their whole entire lives or is it just your child?
Did you ask friends if they could arrange a meet up between all of you and the kid?
Does the child even want to come and stay with you at someone else's house?

determinedtomakethiswork · 22/05/2024 08:47

TomeTome · 22/05/2024 07:42

You are going to miss the weekend with your own child to look after someone’s pet as a favour?

I think your priorities are a little muddled.

Yes, this!

HereWeGoRoundAgain · 22/05/2024 08:40

PenelopeTitsdrop1990 · 22/05/2024 08:12

Don't you think this is partly on the dog owners too?

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Nothing to do with them, they asked a favour - it's on the OP to decide whether she can or can't, and what she needs to do to be able to answer that.

PenelopeTitsdrop1990 · 22/05/2024 08:12

HereWeGoRoundAgain · 22/05/2024 07:30

You should have thought that through before you said yes, tbh. And arranged a meet with your children as well. I wouldn't dream of taking my kids to stay in a dog's home for days without having done so.

ETA - Definitely leave your child at home. This is on you.

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Don't you think this is partly on the dog owners too?

TwattyMcFuckFace · 22/05/2024 08:10

CheeseDreamsTonight · 22/05/2024 08:09

@TwattyMcFuckFace I didn't read it as they only have them at weekends so have asked but think I may have been wrong about that.

There was no concern about cancelling arrangements with the dad so I didn't read it as an only weekends situation.

Actually I think you might be right now I've read it again.

CheeseDreamsTonight · 22/05/2024 08:09

@TwattyMcFuckFace I didn't read it as they only have them at weekends so have asked but think I may have been wrong about that.

There was no concern about cancelling arrangements with the dad so I didn't read it as an only weekends situation.

ExpressCheckout · 22/05/2024 08:01

Depends on the dogs and the child, I suppose. Bully XLs, nope ... beagles, yes. Plus, if you've got safe childcare available, you can have a nice weekend 'off' walking the dogs and doing what you like!

TwattyMcFuckFace · 22/05/2024 07:48

CheeseDreamsTonight · 22/05/2024 07:45

@TomeTome I find that comment a bit black and white. Friends can be a priority too, there an important part of life for lots of people. Always putting your children first can lead to isolation and loneliness. It might be nice to have a peaceful weekend both doing a favour for a friend and having some alone time. It does kids no harm to know their parents do other things.

When you only have them at weekends?

CheeseDreamsTonight · 22/05/2024 07:48

Do you only have him on weekends?

CheeseDreamsTonight · 22/05/2024 07:47

He will be with his dad, not a massive issue as far as I can see, and if you think on the Sunday they would be ok with him, bring him for a little visit but brief him on letting them approach him, no jumping about startling them etc.

Charliebrow · 22/05/2024 07:47

You’ve agreed to look after someone else’s dog at the expense of seeing your own child ?

CheeseDreamsTonight · 22/05/2024 07:45

@TomeTome I find that comment a bit black and white. Friends can be a priority too, there an important part of life for lots of people. Always putting your children first can lead to isolation and loneliness. It might be nice to have a peaceful weekend both doing a favour for a friend and having some alone time. It does kids no harm to know their parents do other things.