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To think it’s a crime to pretend to be a registered doctor?

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Domino34 · 21/05/2024 22:53

Keep this short and sweet, please help me out!
I discovered that the ‘psychotherapist’ that ‘works for the nhs’ I’ve been having therapy sessions on the phone with, was actually not a doctor at all. Payed for by DH. I think I’ve been a victim of coercive control. Yet another tactic to manipulate me and be in a position of power. It sounds crazy, I know! My question is, is it a crime in the same way where if somebody pretended to be a police officer? I feel like my mind has been violated. I haven’t done anything about this. . . What can I do?

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Domino34 · 22/05/2024 00:04

isthisodd4 · 22/05/2024 00:03

So sorry OP. This is absolutely insane. I would also say police. Goodluck

You’re right. It is absolutely insane, I wanted to see if others would think this too.

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Hairyhat · 22/05/2024 00:04

Are you sure your baby has no passport? Could the father have obtained one without your permission? Is he on the birth certificate?

isthisodd4 · 22/05/2024 00:03

So sorry OP. This is absolutely insane. I would also say police. Goodluck

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Domino34 · 22/05/2024 00:03

Domino34 · 22/05/2024 00:02

Yes well I apologise for getting therapist and doctor mixed up? The point is I thought I had a genuine counsellor, who introduced herself as a doctor. But she is neither a doctor or counsellor she doesn’t even have a job. Imagine talking to someone you thought was your counsellor only to find out it’s some sick game your ‘husband’ has been playing all along.

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Needed counselling, received more trauma. 😅🤦🏼‍♀️

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Domino34 · 22/05/2024 00:02

bridgetreilly · 21/05/2024 23:55

I had NHS counselling. It never occurred to me that anyone would think the therapist was a doctor.

Yes well I apologise for getting therapist and doctor mixed up? The point is I thought I had a genuine counsellor, who introduced herself as a doctor. But she is neither a doctor or counsellor she doesn’t even have a job. Imagine talking to someone you thought was your counsellor only to find out it’s some sick game your ‘husband’ has been playing all along.

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bridgetreilly · 21/05/2024 23:55

I had NHS counselling. It never occurred to me that anyone would think the therapist was a doctor.

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Domino34 · 21/05/2024 23:52

StormingNorman · 21/05/2024 23:45

Please @Domino34 speak to the police about the possibility this may have been an attempt to abduct your child.

  • the “therapist” tried to convince you to grant him access without you present.
  • he fled abroad when you discovered what was happening - suggests he felt he needed to avoid severe consequences.
  • his parents live outside the UK. Could help house and raise the child for him.

These are big red flags.

You are right, only he has never directly asked to spend time with her without me present, and baby has no passport. This happened a couple of months ago. It took me a while to even process what has happened. Have cut all contact for mine and babies physical and emotional safety. I was just wondering whether I should report it really as I’ve had no outside input.

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StormingNorman · 21/05/2024 23:45

Please @Domino34 speak to the police about the possibility this may have been an attempt to abduct your child.

  • the “therapist” tried to convince you to grant him access without you present.
  • he fled abroad when you discovered what was happening - suggests he felt he needed to avoid severe consequences.
  • his parents live outside the UK. Could help house and raise the child for him.

These are big red flags.

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Domino34 · 21/05/2024 23:36

Domino34 · 21/05/2024 23:35

Things about how I feel about DH, which as you can guess I had things to say which could of put me in danger if it angered him as he is an awful person. about my past, about my father who I have no contact with. Lots of sensitive information I wouldn’t want anyone else to have.

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And again, offering to supervise my baby with DH, which I thought at the time as super strange and very unprofessional

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Domino34 · 21/05/2024 23:35

Vimtoad · 21/05/2024 23:34

What sort of information did she extract or try to extract.

Things about how I feel about DH, which as you can guess I had things to say which could of put me in danger if it angered him as he is an awful person. about my past, about my father who I have no contact with. Lots of sensitive information I wouldn’t want anyone else to have.

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Vimtoad · 21/05/2024 23:34

What sort of information did she extract or try to extract.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 21/05/2024 23:32

Your Husband feels like the bigger issue which needs reporting and from there an investigation will reveal if she is lying

Dr is a title which can be used by those with doctorates in many subjects

FreshStar · 21/05/2024 23:29

All you need to do is tell the police you’re not 100% sure what happened, it’s on them to find the answers and it’s absolutely normal for you to feel confused

mathanxiety · 21/05/2024 23:27

Domino34 · 21/05/2024 23:12

Not necessarily having an affair, but the woman is known to him yes, and I was speaking to her for a while and I thought she was a therapist/doctor paid for by him, he arranged the whole thing. She pretended to be a therapist, starting off the conversation with ‘hi it’s doctor such and such’ to extract confidential information from me to pass on to him. And yes he left when I discovered this.

You need to take this straight to the police.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 21/05/2024 23:27

Domino34 · 21/05/2024 23:24

The person that sent me the video is the mutual friend.

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And have you told them?

Fraaahnces · 21/05/2024 23:26

Absolutely contact the police.

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Domino34 · 21/05/2024 23:24

TwattyMcFuckFace · 21/05/2024 23:15

How well does the person who sent you the video know her?

The person that sent me the video is the mutual friend.

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StormingNorman · 21/05/2024 23:23

Domino34 · 21/05/2024 23:17

Well enough for her to pretend to be a professional therapist for him, she was so convincing too :( offering to supervise him with my baby if I wasn’t comfortable with him taking her. Which I was not!

Oh this is even worse as he was using it as a way to get to your child. And you say he has gone abroad to his parents after you uncovered what he was doing?

Is there a kidnap risk to your child?

Please speak to Women’s Aid AND the Police. You need this on record. You may even want to consider whether you can get a restraining order in case he comes back.

GivePeaceAChance · 21/05/2024 23:21

SpringerFall · 21/05/2024 23:19

well you can be a Dr of Philosophy and lots of other things so there is no pretending about it

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Yes of course.
But certain professions are protected in law. A doctor of philosophy isn’t.
A doctor of medicine is.

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Domino34 · 21/05/2024 23:21

She was silly enough to send a text and leave a voicemail stating herself as a doctor. There is no question this lady is not a professional of any kind as it turns out we have mutual friends. Small world? Womens aid will be my first point of call. Thank you

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TwattyMcFuckFace · 21/05/2024 23:20

The person who sent you the video OP

How well do you know them and how well do they know her?

SpringerFall · 21/05/2024 23:19

GivePeaceAChance · 21/05/2024 23:18

If they told you they were a doctor or sent anything declaring it then yes it’s against the law.
The same as architects and lawyers. They are protected professions in law.

well you can be a Dr of Philosophy and lots of other things so there is no pretending about it

StormingNorman · 21/05/2024 23:19

Domino34 · 21/05/2024 23:16

I apologise for the confusion, I’m still fairly confused myself. I want to call the police, I guess I’m just scared too? I think I’ve been a victim of coercive control I’ve been very isolated and manipulated for a long time. This is just crazy. . .

I would call the police.

Or maybe call Womens Aid first. They’ll be able to help you understand what’s happened a bit more clearly so you can explain it to the police.

GivePeaceAChance · 21/05/2024 23:18

If they told you they were a doctor or sent anything declaring it then yes it’s against the law.
The same as architects and lawyers. They are protected professions in law.

FreshStar · 21/05/2024 23:18

Domino34 · 21/05/2024 23:16

I apologise for the confusion, I’m still fairly confused myself. I want to call the police, I guess I’m just scared too? I think I’ve been a victim of coercive control I’ve been very isolated and manipulated for a long time. This is just crazy. . .

I think you should call the police and tell them what happened. You never know, the therapist might have duped him as well, but regardless she needs to be investigated just as much as he does.