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To ask if you put kisses at the end of messages

61 replies

bamboofield · 21/05/2024 15:52

Even to people you barely know?
I've noticed a lot of people do this, how do you feel about it?

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BingoMarieHeeler · 21/05/2024 22:06

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 21/05/2024 18:31

I did to the assistant head this morning. ☺️

This is like something out of Motherland 🤣

EmpressaurusOfCats · 21/05/2024 18:38

Only when I mean it, so very rarely on MN.

It does mostly seem weird when people do it on here.

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 21/05/2024 18:31

I did to the assistant head this morning. ☺️

Planesmistakenforstars · 21/05/2024 18:17

Very rarely on messages. Of course not on SM.

Sahara123 · 21/05/2024 18:13

I accidentally did to my boss once , new headteacher of a secondary school . Luckily he thought it was funny

mumtoadhdadult · 21/05/2024 18:11

Only if I'd kiss them in real life.

So only DH, blow kisses to DSs.

hoarahloux · 21/05/2024 18:05

I can't stand it but feel pressure to do it back! I've graduated from xx to xxx with my manager! Every single message!

Disturbia81 · 21/05/2024 18:00

I do with all women, and men I care about

Pieceofpurplesky · 21/05/2024 16:37

To family and friends. And to the gardener earlier 😳 (not even my gardener but my parents)

PrincessHoneysuckle · 21/05/2024 16:35

I do

One kiss to an acquaintance e.g dc friends mum/neighbour
Two for friends
4 or more for dh

MarkandElizabethForever · 21/05/2024 16:33

I do to women I know reasonably well (mum friends etc) I don't when I message a business on Facebook but they generally message me back with a kiss. I reckon it's just become so commonplace now that people do it with everyone. Or they think a kiss will make their message seem more personal and they'll get more business that way. I never put kisses on the end of my messages to my mum though🤷‍♀️go figure!

Itsallsostressful · 21/05/2024 16:32

I do it to friends and family however this does mean I do it by mistake to people I don't mean to ! X

KreedKafer · 21/05/2024 16:30

I mostly put kisses in messages to people who do the same when they message me. So that's my DP, my mum, my sister, my MIL, my SIL and a couple of my friends. I don't add kisses as a default.

I also tend to add a kiss if it's a message of congratulations, sympathy or thanks - so if I'm wishing someone happy birthday on Facebook or something, or telling someone I'm thinking of them at a difficult time, or thanking them for doing something nice, I'd always add a kiss.

Lots of people who buy things from me on Vinted and eBay add a kiss to their messages. It's always women, though, never men.

BigGlassHouseWithAView · 21/05/2024 16:29

I’ve done it by accident to a couple of people I don’t know. 😬

But no, I only use them on messages to my partner, kids and friends.

orangeleopard · 21/05/2024 16:22

I don’t like doing it, but I’m very much if someone sends me a kiss - I send one back so I don’t look rude. For example, messages to my mum. She sends me two ‘xx’ and i don’t want to not send any back so I look blunt and ‘offish’ so I feel like I have to. Off my own back though, I don’t. It’s one of those things, when you’ve done it for so long with certain people, even if you no longer like it it’s ingrained in you to continue doing it as the norm.

SilverSimca · 21/05/2024 16:19

No, and I think it is really weird when people do it to me.

Confortableorwhat · 21/05/2024 16:17

Only when I mean it, so if I might kiss (or hug) them if we were having the conversation face to face. Not otherwise.

OneTC · 21/05/2024 16:16

No I don't, nor does OH

Don't really give it any extra thought if someone sends them to me

Waltdisnerd · 21/05/2024 16:15

Yes on social media or watsapp x

Idontjetwashthefucker · 21/05/2024 16:13

Rarely, not even to my partner, doesn't bother me when people do though

PoochiesPinkEars · 21/05/2024 16:08

Only friends and family.
One kiss is outer friendship circle then 2 or 3 or more for inner friendship circle or if recipient needs a fluffy tone because they've got things tough.
Never knew I had a policy until you made me think about it. 🤣

Hiddendoor · 21/05/2024 16:08

I do in messages to my DH and DC but otherwise no. Never. It irritates me when I get them from businesses - like the hairdresser or dog groomer confirming appointment booking x

Urgh. No need. Stop sending virtual kisses. Life can carry on pleasantly without them.

BingoMarieHeeler · 21/05/2024 16:06

Depends who I’m texting. As a default, no, but if someone xs me then I feel obliged to too. I have friends who have their own sign off for example a set amount/format of kisses. I don’t join in with that 😄

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bamboofield · 21/05/2024 16:05

I notice lots of people I don't know do it. I have a business on fb and lots of messages I get have xx at the end.
If people do it first I generally do it back or I feel miserable but I don't do it unless they do in case they don't.

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StarbucksQueen1 · 21/05/2024 16:03

With all my friends and family I do. Accidentally to my boss once and he did it back but said he assumed it was an accident but reciprocated to be polite 😆

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