To ask if you put kisses at the end of messages

I've posted about this before. I live outside the UK, and I can tell the difference between British women who have just moved out here and those who have lived here for a while - the newbies stick all these fake kisses on the ends of every message (in our local social media groups), then they stop after a while as they realize nobody else here does it.

I know it doesn't really mean anything, but there are times when I've had to forcibly remind myself (when reading a message from a British women in the UK) that "She's probably quite intelligent really, it's just the kisses on the ends of her messages that make her come across as being a bit dippy."

Yes to friends and family, but not at work (although I sometimes do it by mistake out of habit!)

Emojis are fine. Kisses sound weird/creepy/horribly forward/flirty unless it's someone you'd actually kiss.

If in any doubt always avoid.

No, not usually.
To friends and family I do. I have done by accident to other people but not deliberately.

Only to my loved ones.

The flirtatious nature of them do not sit with me at all. Red flags if a man puts kisses to me. I'm a happily married woman and it gives me the ick.

Only if I mean it. I'd never write an 'Okay, see you Saturday Xx' type of message if we were arranging to go out somewhere, for example.

No. I used to but an American told me one kiss means you want a hug, 2 kisses a kiss, and 3 kisses you want sex.

I was horrified and stopped doing them immediately.

After that, it just started to look tacky and dumb. I think it makes a person appear simple. Especially when they use them in place of proper punctuation.

What a waste of time to put xxx on the end of everything, if nothing else!

Yes I do judge people. Tacky

I hate this so much. I hate the passive aggressive pressure that comes with it and the implication that if you don’t do it you are a cold, horrible person, and most of all I hate that sometimes I cave and do it, and I actually resent the people who do it all the time for perpetuating it. It feels as though we are regressing as a culture because we can no longer interpret the sentiment behind words without great big non-verbal cues. And you know what I’ve noticed? It’s a British thing. Americans don’t do it. We have managed to introduce and embed a custom that is too saccharine and unnecessary for the US to bother with. Brilliant.

Often yes, depends who to, and how they've written to me. I don't really think of it as "I want to kiss you", more like a modern form of "end transmission". (Which reminds me of the film Jumpin' Jack Flash; showing my age there).

all so sad - i would never do that to anyone other than my oh, blings gc, kids etc

Never! I did once to DD because she remarked on the fact that I never do.

Yes I do to try to convey friendliness - tone can be hard to read in texts and sometimes they can sound a bit curt without.

I feel like I'm uptight if they do and I don't but I hate it

I do if they do. It’s a bit tedious but socially polite so meh.

My DH did this too! His boss was a Phil Mitchell from Eastenders kind of man and when his boss text him about a project, he wrote back ‘Ok babe xxx’, which is how he answers me. He was mortified, but luckily his boss saw the funny side 😂.

With friends and family I always do.
With people I don’t know (like a parent of my children’s friends) I tend to mirror what they do. Sometimes I just put the smiling emoji. It seems friendlier to me.

I do

I had a colleague who sent 😘 🥰 in work mails. I was very confused by that. I mean, I got that she was grateful for the information I provided, but work - not professional! Not keen on xxx either, and use them only sparingly with those I know well on a social level - even those with whom I've shared a bed don't get them often. So definitely not at work.

Current man uses emojis a lot. Nearly every comment on WhatsApp gets a ❤- he sends one after we've just finished a phone call. I have pointed out I don't really use emojis and he will be aware I use them very sparingly indeed. Another friend, I quite often have to ask him what he means with the little emoji that is barely large enough for me to tell what it literally is, let alone what it's symbolising. Though I suspect he does it partly to wind me up.

At least I do understand xx. But I'm still not going to use them often.

I never do it for anyone unless wishing them a happy birthday or whatever.

i don’t mind if people do it with personal messages, but I raise an eyebrow if people are doing it in the school WhatsApp group with the teachers, and I massively judge if it’s included in a message from a business.

Rarely and only to good friends

To others who use xx themselves I sometimes use if I think my message needs a happy signoff

But usually no

I've been corresponding with a police officer recently by text (professionally, not personally!). She's quite new, and has been putting kisses on the end of her messages. It is unprofessional, yes, but also weirdly sweet.

Absolutely not. To husband, kids and occasionally very old friends.

My job involves lots of emails to schools & there’s so many HT/Teachers (the ladies) that use emojis/kisses!

I really like it!

I sometimes do, but never to people I hardly know, or to business type emails.

I also put an x (or up to 3) when writing birthday and Christmas cards to close family and friends.

I'm in my 60s.