Feel like I’m living in an episode of gossip girl - teenagers!

It's really surprising to me that you also have a daughter.

Maybe she's saying I may be 18 but I'm going to set the bar I'm not going to be a pushover to any man.your son did chest on her and people react in different ways your son is 18 now he needs to deal with the consequences of his actions himself.

Now imagine the girls wasn't so academic and instead of rebounding quickly, she was devastated and fucking up/failing her own exams. And that you got a message from her dad .

She's both being vindictive. She's dealing with being cheated and the end of her relationship. Just because your son doesn't like it, doesn't make her vindictive. Perfect example of "you play stupid games, you win stupid prizes."

I'd also take what he says with a pinch of salt considering he has been hiding things from you and his account differs from his sister's.

@Guideley He says she came up to him but DD says all her Y13 friends say he went up to her so I’m very confused.
He is most upset about her publicly kissing his best mate which I do think is petty.
I tried to tell him if she’s out kissing other lads then she’s obviously not that hurt and he shouldn’t be either.

Ah yes, very confusing... That or DS knows how to spin a tale so he's mummy's special boy despite his bad behaviour. I'm not sure your logic makes sense, I imagine she kissed the best friend because she's so hurt

I think kissing another girl while dating her is far more vindicative, but I suppose boys never have to take responsibility?

Don’t concern yourself with her – encourage his revision.

You are way too involved in your 18 year old son’s love life. He’s an adult

Also his exams aren't her responsibility and neither are his feelings anymore. It's his responsibility to manage the consequences of his own actions

Perhaps you could help him by explaining how he has hurt her, and that her actions will be as result of the humiliations and anger she feels by being publicly cheated on. He's 18, which is young but old enough to know better and hopefully he can learn his lesson now before he does the same to someone else

Seems to me she just did the same to him as he did to her public wise. As for his best mate, up to him to say no as she clearly doesn't need to hage any loyalty to him. Actions have consequences and these are his.

Why does your son get a free pass in all of this? She's vindictive, she's petty, she's not hurt, she's pushing boundaries, she's bitchy... While your son is a mess and distraught.

Why aren't you gunning for the best mate? Can boys do whatever they want and girls should pipe down about it?

Not really. He cheated on her. She's hurt. He didn't consider her when he kissed someone publicly right before her exams

Apart from kiss his best mate what has she actually done to be hell bent on ruining things for him?

I get he did wrong but kissing his best mate soon after a break up is a bit vindictive no?
No. Why is it vindictive when she kisses someone but not when your son does it?

I don't understand why is so terrible that her kiss was pubic when clearly his was or he wouldn't have been seen!

Apparently she was seen kissing his best mate the same day as one of his exams, she messaged him over the weekend to say she’s made summer plans with some other lad and honestly it feels very vindictive.

Ok, so it's exam time. He's effectively left school so no classes with her. If he blocks her and asks his friends not to pass on what she is and isn't doing/feeding the drama, that's a start.

Of course you can't contact her dad! Not at 18.

I don't think people are trying to paint him as anything. It's fine that he's made a mistake but this girl isn't middle aged either.

She's sixteen or seventeen and she's entitled to break up with him when he's kissed another girl - whether it's the night before his exams or not.

My youngest is a seventeen year old girl and if a boys mother came round and asked me to tell my daughter to 'call a truce' when she hadn't done anything wrong at all...I'd be quite cross.

You think she's vindictive and bitchy. Sorry, a bit bitchy.

I definitely don't think you should give him reassurance that there is a chance that this relationship can be saved.

Haha yes, I think that's the major point.

@Beezknees I forgot to add that contacting other parents is a no no at this age!

I don't think anyone is saying he won't do stupid things. We're saying that OP shouldn't get involved. He's 18, not 8.

If he didn't want to get broken up with around exams he shouldn't have cheated. He clearly wasn't distraught enough about the thought of a break up not to cheat

He treated her like shit and showed absolute no respect for her, publicly cheating and for what sounds like months. His own stupid fault if he's now upset.

She's entitled to do what she wants, he didn't give a shit about her feelings so why should he?

I'd advise your son to block all avenues of contact until after exams. Ask his friends not to share updates with him / keep social media on the back burner for now.

Have a chat with him. He's just got to get through this crucial time and then he can go back to all the drama. Remind him that, although it's hard for him to imagine right now, all this really will be of no consequence in years to come but the exams matter and to nail them first time would be the best thing he could do for himself

And once they're over, I'd open up a chat with him about how we treat girls / relationships etc and how he could have handled this differently

I get it OP. My youngest is a 17 year old boy and I often hear all the stuff going on - it's very normal for this age. Ignore posters trying to paint him as some sort of middle aged adult - he's still very young and he will do stupid things.

Why would she not break up with him the night before the exam! That's when she found out.

What was she supposed to after being told her boyfriend had snogged someone else!

Surely as soon as came to his senses he would have known he was going to get dumped.

I can't see how she's being vindictive.

Honestly I might admire her a little bit 🤣

What do you mean by "He has blocked her but she seems to find ways to get to him"? How?

If it's through friends then tell DS to block the friends until his exams are done. If she's turning up at your house with a tambourine at midnight then call the police. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Your plan to talk to her dad is hilarious! What could you say? That she isn't allowed to kiss anyone whilst the Little Prince is doing his A levels even though he can kiss whoever he likes!

Of course you need to stay out of it.

All of this is your son's fault. All of it.

He cheated on his girlfriend very publicly. If he wanted a smooth exam time, he shouldn't have kissed someone else!

So what if she has now kissed his best friend. She can do what she likes.

And of course she has made summer plans with someone else!

My dad would have laughed and told you to fuck off. Who the hell are you to go around demanding parents tell their children not to upset your precious little boy.

And we wonder why we end up with all these men. Mothers like you.

He's 18 years old! Do not talk to the dad.

My DS is 16 and I don't involve myself in his friendships or relationships. It's for him to deal with, not me!