Someone mispronouncing sons name

I agree OP, hearing you and your DH pronounce the name should be enough, you shouldn't have to correct him. However, as he is not taking the hint, you should put him right. Some of the replies are mean.

Just a though,...he could have a longstanding/childhood friend with the Spanish pronunciation so automatically defers to that witout thinking...unless I stop and think I always spell clare (without an i) or hanna (without the second h) as they were the first only spelling of thoes names I knew for a long time

Not that I'm saying it's not rude... and I do try to check for all the new Claire and hannahs in my life

Hope he gets the name right from now on, OP. I do think it's rude that he hasn't made an effort to learn how to pronounce your child's name correctly. It happens to me and my son constantly, but it's rare for people to be consistently and openly rude about it. (Did happen recently in hospital though - a Dr pointedly continued to call my DS by an incorrect name. He politely corrected her once and asked that she call him by his name, he more abruptly corrected her a second time and the third time he refused to speak to or co-operate with her and when she got shitty he said 'why should I bother answering you when you can't be bothered to get my name right?')

Not to mention all the people outside Britain who read it! The membership is what, three million or so iirc?

YABU

So you’ve picked a ‘super super uncommon’ name which sounds like it may be Spanish, but its origins are English and are annoyed when people pronounce it incorrectly. Like someone else said - get used to it, it’s going to happen all his life.

We don’t need to know the name. People just want to know it.

As you have done, just keep correcting him and teach your son to correct any mispronunciations of his name. If it's an uncommon name, whatever the origins, people will struggle, even if they've heard you say it before.

I have a friend who has an uncommon name that is not pronounced phonetically how it's spelled in English (it's not a British name). As a child so many people mispronounced it that she actually just changed her name and went by the typical English pronunciation. I met her as an adult and knew her for years and then we travelled to the country where her name is from, and everyone called her something completely differently. And she was like, yeah, that's my name. Everyone gets it wrong, so I just stopped correcting them and go by that other name. So only her family calls her her actual name. She introduces herself as something else because she thinks people will have an easier time with the pronunciation.

Btw, it's a perfectly easy name to pronounce! If she had introduced herself by her actual name years before when we first met, I would have had no trouble getting it right after a few tries.

If this forum was restricted to the Isle of Wight, the name could be outing. But with 67 million people in the UK? Very funny and precious.

It is your son's name however you pronounce it is correct wether it is the common pronunciation/traditional pronunciation or something else.

Whenever this person mispronounces it you should confidently correct them. Instead of feeling judged just judge right back eye roll and think how arrogant he is or stupid if he is incapable of remembering.

And Jago is Cornish for James or Jacob, and the Welsh and Spanish variant
is IAGO, perhaps it's this?

I've got a Jago, who is now 17 and at college has a tutor who calls him "Yahgo" - he's too embarrassed now to correct him as it's been a while, but his advice would be to do it straight away!

OP, if this was going to bother you, why did you give him a name that could be pronounced multiple ways?

I've known a:

Javier (Jav-ee-air)
Javier (Hav-ee-air)
Javier (Yav-ee-air)

I'm glad they corrected me nicely

My dd does a sport and several parents have complained about how the young helpers are pronouncing the names, rather than just getting the child to correct them. This is leading to the helpers avoiding helping the students so they don't get more grief from the parents. Try to encourage your dc to correct them each time rather than going in all guns blazing.

Just keep correcting them

Yes, that won't make the OP look like a complete tit 😄

He’s not a fucking mind reader 😅
If you’ve not corrected him, get a grip. He probably has no idea he’s doing anything wrong if you’ve not pointed it out.

I was wondering what it might be. Not that Elijah is so vanishingly rare that everyone reading MN would recognise her!

Do you not think your being grossly unfair to this guy who is pronouncing it how most people pronounce it and you haven’t even corrected him???

how the hell is he supposed to know he’s saying it differently to what you want???

I think it's Elijah. Which can be pronounced with a hard or soft j. If that's the case, then it isn't an old English name it's a Hebrew name technically.

Have a card ready with summary of the provenance/history of the name written on it
Now you've told him, if next time you see him he carries on you can give him the card and say pronounce it correctly please. 😁

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