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Someone mispronouncing sons name

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Neodymium · 21/05/2024 14:14

Would you consider this rude? To be fair I have not corrected this person, who we speak to regularly, as he is representing my son in a professional way. But despite hearing how my husband and I pronounce his name, he pronounces it in a different way. It didn’t used to bother me but it’s starting to get to me. Like he thinks he knows better than us and we are too ignorant to know how to say it.

for reference it’s a name starting with J that can be pronounced is a Spanish way with a ‘ya’ sound (not what we do) or with a J sound which is what we do as he is named for the English origin. In fact it is more common with the J sound but it is an uncommon name and so I think that he just thinks we are wrong and he’s trying to correct us.

Not sure if I am being unreasonable here to be slightly annoyed.

OP posts:
Neodymium · 24/05/2024 06:36

Createausername1970 · 23/05/2024 22:25

What does your son prefer? Have you had a conversation about this with your son?

Maybe your son has told his promotor that he prefers that pronunciation and to ignore mum?

No he hasn’t. He doesn’t talk in person with him without me

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ChoccieCornflake · 23/05/2024 22:28

I have a friend with this name. It's pronounced JAY GO. Not yay go, yah go, jar go, or any other variation thereof 🙂

Createausername1970 · 23/05/2024 22:25

What does your son prefer? Have you had a conversation about this with your son?

Maybe your son has told his promotor that he prefers that pronunciation and to ignore mum?

thelifeofbriancant · 23/05/2024 22:17

apintofwine · 23/05/2024 13:17

It has got to be Jago

This is what I thought. And which I would pronounce Yago but I think I'm wrong!

Neodymium · 23/05/2024 22:04

I don’t think I’m going to get an answer unfortunately. My son also uses a ‘stage name’ (which is an extremely ordinary name) the person has now started calling him his stage name in messages.

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Gcsunnyside23 · 23/05/2024 13:39

apintofwine · 23/05/2024 13:17

It has got to be Jago

I vote this name too

apintofwine · 23/05/2024 13:17

It has got to be Jago

Neodymium · 23/05/2024 12:56

HotChocolateNotCocoa · 23/05/2024 09:51

But why doesn’t it make sense if we don’t know the name? It makes perfect sense to me.

There are two issues here, and one clear solution to the problem. One issue is that this person keeps mispronouncing OP’s son’s name. The other is that she (up until now) hasn’t corrected him and believes he should have known without being specifically told, because he’s heard her and her partner use the name. Maybe this person is being deliberately ignorant, but OP can’t be sure of that, because she’s dug her heels in and complained that he SHOULD know rather than simply saying, “Actually, it’s pronounced XYZ”.

Tell me what changes about all of that depending on the name. Go on.

I think because

  1. people don’t believe me that I’m actually saying it correctly
  2. people think that the Spanish pronunciation couldn’t possible be ‘ya’

to be honest, maybe that’s not the proper Spanish way to say it. I honestly don’t know as I don’t know any Spanish. Maybe it’s not even how it’s said it Spanish. But the ‘ya’ sound is how he (and others) have said it. Maybe they are wrong about that too. The correct way it the English way, and it’s not a ya sound.

kind of like how Jacob can be pronounced ‘ya-cob’ I don’t know if that correct or not but I’ve heard it said that way.

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HotChocolateNotCocoa · 23/05/2024 09:51

peachyqueens · 22/05/2024 23:39

This is one of those threads where it doesn't make sense without the actual (oh-so-outing) name.

Honestly, just say what it is, you can name change/cover up afterwards but in a thread you start specifically to discuss a name, it's disingenuous not to reveal it! Surely you see this??!!!

But why doesn’t it make sense if we don’t know the name? It makes perfect sense to me.

There are two issues here, and one clear solution to the problem. One issue is that this person keeps mispronouncing OP’s son’s name. The other is that she (up until now) hasn’t corrected him and believes he should have known without being specifically told, because he’s heard her and her partner use the name. Maybe this person is being deliberately ignorant, but OP can’t be sure of that, because she’s dug her heels in and complained that he SHOULD know rather than simply saying, “Actually, it’s pronounced XYZ”.

Tell me what changes about all of that depending on the name. Go on.

RookieMa · 23/05/2024 02:26

Just keep correcting him till it sinks in

Some names just are really hard for people to get right they just are

It's not their fault it's just the way it is because it's unfamiliar

DaoineSidhe · 23/05/2024 00:41

Is the name Julian v Julen? I couldn't get that bothered about it. The letter J is a bit contentious eg. Juventus the club. I pronounce it without the J sound, my husband with. We are both from the same place (i.e not Italy), but I have moderate italian and know the J is dropped.

MercyDulb0ttle · 22/05/2024 23:41

Marking place to see if he still does it.

peachyqueens · 22/05/2024 23:39

This is one of those threads where it doesn't make sense without the actual (oh-so-outing) name.

Honestly, just say what it is, you can name change/cover up afterwards but in a thread you start specifically to discuss a name, it's disingenuous not to reveal it! Surely you see this??!!!

QueenCamilla · 22/05/2024 22:14

Joeblo?
Jarvis?

Jedi?

Neodymium · 22/05/2024 21:52

TinkerTiger · 22/05/2024 14:58

I don't know how to properly describe this, but some people have an audio dyslexia, it may even better part of dyslexia, where despite hearing names pronounced they ust cannot get it right.

My friend keeps pronouncing the shop Dun-lem despite me repeatedly saying Dunelm in the same conversation with her. She does this with a lot of words.

That could be true as well, but I don’t get the feeling it’s the case. I would consider him to be quite well spoken. I definitely get more of a feeling like he thinks we are too ignorant and stupid to know how to (in his opinion) ‘correctly’ say our sons name.

there has been a few other incidences that have made me feel he thinks we are abit beneath him. He can act abit posh and stuck up. Our family is kind of the opposite of posh and stuck up. We are not posh, but we are also not stupid!

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Neodymium · 22/05/2024 21:46

hydriotaphia · 22/05/2024 14:22

I agree OP, hearing you and your DH pronounce the name should be enough, you shouldn't have to correct him. However, as he is not taking the hint, you should put him right. Some of the replies are mean.

I am looking forward to our next catch up to hear what he says!

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FrogTheWarrior · 22/05/2024 17:25

Javier

mimmu · 22/05/2024 17:10

Dd has a foreign name and people usually try to pronounce it in English way. Dd or I correct and then they follow. But in secondary school some kids on purpose pronounced it English way just to bully her. Luckily that has stopped but I can see that she will have to correct it rest of her life. But she likes her name and is happy as it's unique.

Flugelb1nder · 22/05/2024 17:03

Javier?

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 22/05/2024 16:28

TeaandScandal · 22/05/2024 16:22

😁

Excellent Grin

TeaandScandal · 22/05/2024 16:22

TommyWooWoo · 22/05/2024 16:17

JABU

😁

TommyWooWoo · 22/05/2024 16:17

JABU

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 22/05/2024 14:59

DuckyLuck · 22/05/2024 10:55

And Jago is Cornish for James or Jacob, and the Welsh and Spanish variant
is IAGO, perhaps it's this?

Edited

I reckon you might be onto something with that guess!

TinkerTiger · 22/05/2024 14:58

I don't know how to properly describe this, but some people have an audio dyslexia, it may even better part of dyslexia, where despite hearing names pronounced they ust cannot get it right.

My friend keeps pronouncing the shop Dun-lem despite me repeatedly saying Dunelm in the same conversation with her. She does this with a lot of words.

TinkerTiger · 22/05/2024 14:54

Is it Jesus?

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