Someone mispronouncing sons name

My friends have a Jolene, and I always accidentally say it in English rather than yolene. I feel bad and correct myself, they feel it’s the same name.

if it’s like the kids dr then I wouldn’t care (see them like once or twice a year). It’s how they read it and have it in their heads, maybe think you’re saying it with an accent and not wanting to screw it up!

teacher or singing needs to be corrected. And just correct them. Don’t stew on it.

I’ve had my name mispronounced and misspelled my entire life. Prople are stupid or ignorant, or both. Even when I correct they often continue to mispronounce it. Or they misspell on emails despite literally having the correct spelling above in the email. So I get it I really do, it drives you bonkers.

Having said that, being on the receiving end is one thing - I didn’t have a choice, but as a parent, you have to kind of accept that a unique name will be mispronounced? Because of my experience I purposely chose names for my kids that did not have ambiguous pronunciation.

With my name I tend to make the effort to correct people if they’re likely to be in my life long term and repeat saying my name - friends, coworkers, neighbours etc. but if it’s a temporary thing like professionals such as a doctor I’ll see once in blue moon I just don’t even bother, it’s not worth getting worked up over. Oh and don’t even get me started on Starbucks…

what’s his name then? I know Spanish so I can offer some insight

Obviously correct him. If you have done so already and he’s just not bothering to try then yes, it’s rude.

My FIL has been mispronouncing our daughter’s name since she was born (she’s now 3.5y). Her name is Freya, so not difficult either. P1sses me off every time 😂

He'd get on well with a couple of kids DH teaches : L'Za and her brother N'Zo:

OP, until you tell us the name we can’t really have an honest opinion. So many suggestions here. Surely a name can’t be that outing?!

My DD went to preschool with a lad called Xavier, pronounced Ex-ave-eya. I often wonder how he’s getting on in the world.

But she has corrected him. And he's heard them pronounce his name 100s of times. And chosen to ignore it because 'he knows better'.

People don't get to police the way other people pronounce their own names.

Our son is called Jago, it’s not particularly uncommon where we live although used to be more common as a surname.
Quite a few times we’ve had it pronounced ‘yago’, or ee-ay-go most recently at our Drs surgery, we always just smile and repeat his name how we say it.
It doesn’t really bother us as he’ll also correct people himself

If you give your child an ‘unusual’ name or one where the natural pronunciation isn’t what you want, you have to accept people will mispronounce it. It’s a decision you made to call them that, so you have to be responsible for correcting people.

What an ijjit this so called professional is@Neodymium . I hope he acts more professionally in helping your son.It's highly disrespectful to not pronounce your DS 's name the way you prefer...especially as you've now gone out of your way to make sure he knows the correct way to pronounce it. And I have auditory dyslexia so if I know I have trouble with a person's name, I will explain myself and ask them to help me pronounce it in their preferred way...eventhough, I'm nowhere near a professional.

It's Jago. The man is pronouncing it the Spanish way ie IAGO ee-ah-go, but the OP is hearing YA instead of ee-ah, which to be fair, is pretty similar.

I'm struggling to see how a name could be (according to you) as "super super uncommon" and cause your son to often use a more normal name in place of his actual name, yet not be pretentious.

My daughter has an unusual sounding name and people mispronounce it all the time. Our surname is not pronounced as it is written either. I tend to correct once but then leave it, other wise we would be doing it all the time

That’s what I thought.

"To be fair I have not corrected this person". Well you are clearly happy for him to crack on saying it how he says it then. 99% of school/college/uni teachers exist, plus all teachers of extra curricular activities like private music or dance teachers, because not everyone does pick up on everything without particular in put. Otherwise all teachers would need to do is switch on the right videos.

"Like he thinks he knows better than us and we are too ignorant to know how to say it."

My twattish ex-husband was exactly like that. My friend's grandson is called Aaron, pronounced Arron. Twat ex always insisted that they were wrong and it should be pronounced Air-ron. And did, in front of them. Countless times, despite me telling him the way the family chose to pronounce it. I know it could be pronounced either way but he would not understand or respect their choice.
One of the many, many reasons he is an ex.

You are not at all unreasonable to feel annoyed, OP.

Is that pronounced "Yah-boo" or "Jabbu"?

I bet it’s Javier / Xavier. Just correct them. If you’re going to go with a pretentious name in England, at least have the balls to correct people who mispronounce it. You don’t have to be rude about it.

Which does he prefer, though? Does he care?

It is rude not to call someone by their name.

Addressing someone by their assumed name which exists for other purposes in personal communication without invitation

Or mispronouncing it.

I think you're right, he doesn't want to use the name as you say it.

I'd send him a history of the name
'Dear X, you don't seem to be able to accept that 'abcdefghi' pronounced 'abc defg hi' is his name and this is rude. As you are representing him I feel it is not unreasonable that you accept his name and use it. Maybe it would help you to understand the names history so I provide it here, this is the last conversation I want on this and I expect you to use it correctly in future. Thank you.