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Someone mispronouncing sons name

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Neodymium · 21/05/2024 14:14

Would you consider this rude? To be fair I have not corrected this person, who we speak to regularly, as he is representing my son in a professional way. But despite hearing how my husband and I pronounce his name, he pronounces it in a different way. It didn’t used to bother me but it’s starting to get to me. Like he thinks he knows better than us and we are too ignorant to know how to say it.

for reference it’s a name starting with J that can be pronounced is a Spanish way with a ‘ya’ sound (not what we do) or with a J sound which is what we do as he is named for the English origin. In fact it is more common with the J sound but it is an uncommon name and so I think that he just thinks we are wrong and he’s trying to correct us.

Not sure if I am being unreasonable here to be slightly annoyed.

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PoochiesPinkEars · 01/06/2024 16:23

Agree with @TruthorDie correct every time until he learns.

TruthorDie · 31/05/2024 22:58

Neodymium · 31/05/2024 22:23

I did correct him. He’s still saying it wrong. Or using his stage name.

I would correct him EVERY single time. I would do it unrelentingly and make it very awkward for him. He might think he knows best but he doesn’t. I have a name that has a very definite pronunciation (l am from the culture it’s from). I was raised in the north of England, lots of people would mispronounce it due to their accent and then get irritable when corrected.

I used to have a cockney colleague who did the same. My husband still chuckles about how she managed this, he is 100% English and he knows she was barking up the wrong tree

Neodymium · 31/05/2024 22:23

Catza · 26/05/2024 18:05

I think that he just thinks we are wrong and he’s trying to correct us

I am fairly certain you are not as important as you think for a random professional contact to be allocating head space to correcting your pronunciation. If it bothers you, say something. They can't read your mind, you know...

I did correct him. He’s still saying it wrong. Or using his stage name.

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Catza · 26/05/2024 18:05

I think that he just thinks we are wrong and he’s trying to correct us

I am fairly certain you are not as important as you think for a random professional contact to be allocating head space to correcting your pronunciation. If it bothers you, say something. They can't read your mind, you know...

Jfw82 · 25/05/2024 20:53

Swisscheeseplanted · 21/05/2024 15:37

How many Manx people are reading this and thinking lol, Juan. Grin
OP, I'd correct them.

Grin
Demonhunter · 25/05/2024 16:40

It's Jamie / Jaime pronounced "Hi-me" isn't it.

penjil · 25/05/2024 16:20

I think his name is Julius Caesar and the OP wants it pronounced "HOOlius CezzAHR".

😂😂😂

Hazyjaneishere · 25/05/2024 14:39

If you haven’t even corrected him then YABU. Also you’re assuming he’s being pompous about this when you have no idea how why! Perhaps he knows someone with the same name who pronounces it differently and it’s just a habit? Perhaps you just have a bit of a chip on your shoulder.

Neodymium · 25/05/2024 11:32

penjil · 25/05/2024 01:10

Are you American, OP?

As I noticed you said "our son is named for the English origin"

And not "named after the English origin".

Americans say "named for" instead of "named after" don't they?

I have no idea? I’m not America. But also not from UK either. But we do have English heritage hence why it was an old family name.

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pictoosh · 25/05/2024 10:38

I do agree with you @SuzySizzle

SuzySizzle · 25/05/2024 10:04

@pictoosh

On this one though, I'd be pissed off. It does seem like he's daring to insist and educate you, which would make me double down

But what's the point. It's one person. He's in the wrong and he is being rude but why care about it. He's saying a name incorrectly. It doesn't actually matter. People get so bothered about stuff that really doesn't matter.

deeagwitch · 25/05/2024 08:46

How do you pronounce Xavier / Javier ?

pictoosh · 25/05/2024 08:25

Personally I'm usually in the 'ignore it' camp as I have an unusual name that is often misheard, mis-spelled and mis-pronounced. It doesn't bother me and I think people who get salty about it are being a bit precious.

On this one though, I'd be pissed off. It does seem like he's daring to insist and educate you, which would make me double down.

LlynTegid · 25/05/2024 08:23

Correct him.

If once he knows the correct way to pronounce the name and persists, then he is behaving in the same way as some racists do.

pictoosh · 25/05/2024 08:19

ra-pooon-zel

you what?

user1483387154 · 25/05/2024 08:10

I now live in a German speaking country and there are some letter sounds I just can't replicate. My mouth literally can't physically make the shapes needed to be accurate. I try my best but I know I say names etc not quite right

However I have a name that people always say wrong and with about 6 different variations, I really don't care. Even my mum says my name differently to how it should be.

Cassie71 · 25/05/2024 08:06

Jorge pronounced Hor-hay

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 25/05/2024 01:56

penjil · 25/05/2024 01:15

I have never ever heard Rapunzel pronounced "Rah-poooon-zul". Ever.

And I, nor many other British people would pronounce Gustav and "Goo-stahv".

We just don't pronounce out letter u like that.

Edited

Julie/Juliet/Julian?

Rupert/Hubert?

JustJoinedRightNow · 25/05/2024 01:17

What about in the word "flute"?

penjil · 25/05/2024 01:15

TeaGinandFags · 24/05/2024 22:30

Just tell them then inwardly fume.

I know it's not the same but my cat is called Rapunzel pronounced ra-pooon-zel. Mum keeps calling her ra-puh-n zel.

Drives me mad.

BTW she manages to pronounce Gustav Goo-starv.

I have never ever heard Rapunzel pronounced "Rah-poooon-zul". Ever.

And I, nor many other British people would pronounce Gustav and "Goo-stahv".

We just don't pronounce out letter u like that.

penjil · 25/05/2024 01:13

maxandru · 24/05/2024 21:17

Obviously correct him. If you have done so already and he’s just not bothering to try then yes, it’s rude.

My FIL has been mispronouncing our daughter’s name since she was born (she’s now 3.5y). Her name is Freya, so not difficult either. P1sses me off every time 😂

How is your FIL mis-pronouncing "Freya"?!

penjil · 25/05/2024 01:10

Are you American, OP?

As I noticed you said "our son is named for the English origin"

And not "named after the English origin".

Americans say "named for" instead of "named after" don't they?

Aria999 · 25/05/2024 01:03

I have a very common name with the totally standard spelling and people still fairly often miss off a letter or call me by an entirely different name that begins with the same letter.

(Think Claire = Clair or Chloe)

I think people just don't bother to think sometimes.

SuzySizzle · 25/05/2024 00:18

I still couldn't get worked up over this. You are giving this way too much headspace.

TeaGinandFags · 24/05/2024 22:30

Just tell them then inwardly fume.

I know it's not the same but my cat is called Rapunzel pronounced ra-pooon-zel. Mum keeps calling her ra-puh-n zel.

Drives me mad.

BTW she manages to pronounce Gustav Goo-starv.

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