Which jobs would put you off dating someone?

Thank you for this. Police risk their lives on a daily basis, to protect the public, and yet the public are so fast to tar them all with the same brush, if there are a few a bad apples. They are over worked and under appreciated. Most people have no idea of the horrific things that these people are regularly exposed to. My DH has 3 years left until retirement and he is counting the days. There's only so much evil/death that one person can take, and he will be walking out on his 55th birthday. He will never be able to wipe horrific scenes from his mind, he will have to live with those images for the rest of his life.

Sorry I should have quoted Krafer above.

awwwww are you married to a policeman ? 😂

I'm assuming this is aimed at me?

No. But it does make you statistically less of a risk to me, and others (if we're talking about the police comment I made).

Why on earth would anyone bother to post that they would not date a prostitute, or a pornstar?

Isn't that a bit of a given?

As in, yes, statistically someone dates these professions, but it's a high likelihood many would find this incompatible?

The funniest thing about this frankly dumb thread, is how there's a silent Venn diagram being created from every post.

The people who wouldn't date nightclub owners, personal trainers, or gym owners... well... would any of those guys even look at you?

The people who say they wouldn't date venture capitalists or hedge fund owners... ditto?

The silent professions which have not yet been named on here, but to which so many people are probably either dating, married to, or dreaming of dating -

• Architect
• Senior project lead (on something inoffensive that brings in £60k+)
• Head of dept (again on something inoffensive, doesn't have to wear suit)
• Finance but not the sharp elbowed sharky stuff, just good old advisory, or consulting
• Consulting in any domain
• Owner of building firm
• Property developer
• Farmer but not too rural right?

The above are all the professions I reckon MN'tters secretly want from a man

Honestly , this forum is just ridiculous at the best of times. 😃

All the Ps for me:

porn
prostitute (and only fans)
police
politician

and then probably butcher, because I am veggie and trader, because all the ones I know are massive dicks.

As well as most of those already mentioned I'm going for
Tory MP
SPAD
Venture Capitalist
Hedge Fund Manager
Investment Banker
Influencer
Basically people who have jobs which in my opinion don't offer much to society yet often earn a ridiculously high salary.

Being a gay woman makes you an automatic goodie?

But systemic issues within an organisation doesn't mean that each individual within the institution espouses those issues.

It means that enough of them are those things (you can’t ‘espouse an issue’) for it to be systemic. That’s enough reason not to date them for me. If it’s not for you, crack on.

For a start, there are plenty of police officers who are from ethnic minority backgrounds and plenty who are gay.

There really aren’t. So much so that there’s currently a major push to recruit from minority backgrounds. There are certainly some officers from ethnic minority backgrounds and some who are gay. ‘Some’ does not equal ‘plenty’.

In fact, I would say there are far more gay women working as police officers than there are in most other institutions.

What is your basis for this? If you have any sources stating it, do please link them.

The majority of coppers are perfectly fine, just like the majority of priests don't rape little boys and the majority of journalists don't make things up and the majority of Muslims aren't terrorists and the majority of people who like football aren't hooligans.

Indeed. However (apart from the Catholic Church, which I tar with the same tainted brush) inquiry after inquiry hasn’t revealed those institutions to be systemically those things.

Perfectly fine not to want to date a police officer, but it's just silly to suggest that systemic failings in an institution mean that each individual working within it must embody them.

What do you think ‘institutionally racist’ means, exactly? Who do you think is targeting and brutalising young Black men? Individual police officers. Lots and lots of individual police officers. Enough police officers that Black parents have to have ‘the talk’ with their kids, to make sure they are aware they won’t be treated in the same way as their white peers and need to act accordingly.

That is what ‘institutional racism in the police force’ means. You seem to think the police officers are alright, it’s some vague amorphous ‘institution’ that’s the problem. No. That’s not even ‘just silly’, it’s dangerous ignorant racism apologia.

Yes. There are many bemused and disappointed members of the NRLA for sure. But the heart wants what the heart wants, and you can't fan the flames of passion if there's no spark...

Anything to do with meat sales or the production of meat.
Tory MP or councillor
Anything sleazy

Chef

Another vote for Police, due to their reputation/attitude towards women.

But systemic issues within an organisation doesn't mean that each individual within the institution espouses those issues. For a start, there are plenty of police officers who are from ethnic minority backgrounds and plenty who are gay. In fact, I would say there are far more gay women working as police officers than there are in most other institutions.

The majority of coppers are perfectly fine, just like the majority of priests don't rape little boys and the majority of journalists don't make things up and the majority of Muslims aren't terrorists and the majority of people who like football aren't hooligans.

Perfectly fine not to want to date a police officer, but it's just silly to suggest that systemic failings in an institution mean that each individual working within it must embody them.

I don't think I'd really have a firm line but I'm struggling to imagine even liking a copper never mind going out with one

Yep butchers/abattoir workers are #1 no for me, I don’t know how you could be around death so much and be seemingly unaffected by it.

Farmer for similar reasons.

Police officer

Traffic warden

Anything in a sleezy/sex industry

Influencer

That applies to most of the jobs people have listed, though. I'm sure all the people who don't want to date scaffolders and roofers would acknowledge that they do a necessary job. And I'm pretty sure most of the people who say they don't want to date a police officer or an undertaker or a gynaecologist are all fully aware that people absolutely do benefit from those jobs - that doesn't mean they'd want to shag them.

The thread is about who you would/wouldn't be attracted to, not whether their jobs should exist or not, or whether they're good or bad people for doing them.

Anyone who works in a slaughterhouse
Butcher
Surgeon
Police

I personally think that the career that you choose is generally a big part of your life and reflects your values, so there are a LOT that I would rule out.
That said, if someone had fallen into something convenient and non-morally wrong (eg accountant) but had a good personality I wouldn't hold that against them.
But I do think that how you choose to spend the majority of your time says a lot about you as a person, and if you were say a used car salesman I can't think that we'd have much in common!

As a PP says most of the people I've dated were at least degree-educated "professionals". Not to be too much of a snob but I'd want someone who can challenge me intellectually.

Oh, actually.

Bailiff.
Bouncer.
Anything in security.

Traffic warden
PIP assessor
Scaffolder (all the ones I know are a nightmare)
Surgeon
Porn (if they were male, I'd date a woman who did porn)
Trawler fisherman (couldn't cope with the stress and worry)
Police (again, only if they were male. I'd probably date a female police officer).
A Tory (job, opinion, whatever).

my list is pretty similar to yours but I'd add boxer. And any sports where people get repeatedly hit on/hurt the head. they end up with brain damage and other such things very early on in life.

Policeman is the only hard no for me I think.

I've known (not biblically) fisherman and builders and they don't smell, The seem more careful about hygiene because of what they do.

I suspect it's because he would look at fannies all day long but I really don't know. My gynae was married to a midwife, so I suppose it was something they had a mutual interest in 🤣