Which jobs would put you off dating someone?

‘Influencer’
social worker
tattoo artist
someone who worked for the vegan society
yoni masseur

Anyone who regularly goes on business trips.

I’m a 30 yo management consultant at a big 4 firm. It has SHOCKED me how prevalent cheating is on work trips. The number of sad men (clients and consultants) who just want to get trashed on these all expense paid dinners and then go have sex with any willing participant….

Even the boring, overweight middle aged guys.

Sometimes I feel like a Geisha on work trips.

I couldn’t cope with the OINK OINK OINK in my home either, tbh

So, you don't know any Police Officers, you've never been a Police Officer, but you think you know more than myself, who has actually been a Police Officer for 5 years and who is married to a Police Officer who has been one for 20 years?

Got to love the armchair know it all's. Give your head a wobble.

Beekeepers. Yes, they are right SOBs. And bees aren’t much better.

If you’ve actually read my comments, it should be extremely clear that I have zero inclination to know any police officers ‘personally’. Doesn’t change the repeated findings of institutional racism.

I also don’t personally know any arms dealers. Doesn’t stop them existing, either.

‘Institutionally racist’ is not ‘a few bad apples’. That kind of minimising is part of the reason they get to keep being institutionally racist, homophobic and misogynistic.

The majority of police in this country do not ‘risk their lives everyday’, and they do their jobs for a quite decent wage and excellent benefits - not out of some noble desire to ‘protect the public’. Additionally, DH CHOSE to be a police officer. He wasn’t drafted. There was no coercion. And he chose to remain a police officer.

How many bent coppers do you know personally? Hmm.

Police

Thank you for this. Police risk their lives on a daily basis, to protect the public, and yet the public are so fast to tar them all with the same brush, if there are a few a bad apples. They are over worked and under appreciated. Most people have no idea of the horrific things that these people are regularly exposed to. My DH has 3 years left until retirement and he is counting the days. There's only so much evil/death that one person can take, and he will be walking out on his 55th birthday. He will never be able to wipe horrific scenes from his mind, he will have to live with those images for the rest of his life.

But systemic issues within an organisation doesn't mean that each individual within the institution espouses those issues.

It means that enough of them are those things (you can’t ‘espouse an issue’) for it to be systemic. That’s enough reason not to date them for me. If it’s not for you, crack on.

For a start, there are plenty of police officers who are from ethnic minority backgrounds and plenty who are gay.

There really aren’t. So much so that there’s currently a major push to recruit from minority backgrounds. There are certainly some officers from ethnic minority backgrounds and some who are gay. ‘Some’ does not equal ‘plenty’.

In fact, I would say there are far more gay women working as police officers than there are in most other institutions.

What is your basis for this? If you have any sources stating it, do please link them.

The majority of coppers are perfectly fine, just like the majority of priests don't rape little boys and the majority of journalists don't make things up and the majority of Muslims aren't terrorists and the majority of people who like football aren't hooligans.

Indeed. However (apart from the Catholic Church, which I tar with the same tainted brush) inquiry after inquiry hasn’t revealed those institutions to be systemically those things.

Perfectly fine not to want to date a police officer, but it's just silly to suggest that systemic failings in an institution mean that each individual working within it must embody them.

What do you think ‘institutionally racist’ means, exactly? Who do you think is targeting and brutalising young Black men? Individual police officers. Lots and lots of individual police officers. Enough police officers that Black parents have to have ‘the talk’ with their kids, to make sure they are aware they won’t be treated in the same way as their white peers and need to act accordingly.

That is what ‘institutional racism in the police force’ means. You seem to think the police officers are alright, it’s some vague amorphous ‘institution’ that’s the problem. No. That’s not even ‘just silly’, it’s dangerous ignorant racism apologia.

The funniest thing about this frankly dumb thread, is how there's a silent Venn diagram being created from every post.

The people who wouldn't date nightclub owners, personal trainers, or gym owners... well... would any of those guys even look at you?

The people who say they wouldn't date venture capitalists or hedge fund owners... ditto?

The silent professions which have not yet been named on here, but to which so many people are probably either dating, married to, or dreaming of dating -

• Architect
• Senior project lead (on something inoffensive that brings in £60k+)
• Head of dept (again on something inoffensive, doesn't have to wear suit)
• Finance but not the sharp elbowed sharky stuff, just good old advisory, or consulting
• Consulting in any domain
• Owner of building firm
• Property developer
• Farmer but not too rural right?

The above are all the professions I reckon MN'tters secretly want from a man

Honestly , this forum is just ridiculous at the best of times. 😃

The funniest thing about this frankly dumb thread, is how there's a silent Venn diagram being created from every post.

The people who wouldn't date nightclub owners, personal trainers, or gym owners... well... would any of those guys even look at you?

The people who say they wouldn't date venture capitalists or hedge fund owners... ditto?

The silent professions which have not yet been named on here, but to which so many people are probably either dating, married to, or dreaming of dating -

• Architect
• Senior project lead (on something inoffensive that brings in £60k+)
• Head of dept (again on something inoffensive, doesn't have to wear suit)
• Finance but not the sharp elbowed sharky stuff, just good old advisory, or consulting
• Consulting in any domain
• Owner of building firm
• Property developer
• Farmer but not too rural right?

The above are all the professions I reckon MN'tters secretly want from a man

Honestly , this forum is just ridiculous at the best of times. 😃