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Which jobs would put you off dating someone?

392 replies

BobbyBiscuits · 21/05/2024 11:27

Of course, everyone has to do something, so this is light-hearted.

But which jobs would be red flags for you and you can't imagine going out with someone who does this?

Mine would be-

Tory MP/aide/minister- or anything to do with the Tory party
Scaffolder
Stripper
Porn star
PT/fitness instructor/gym owner
Nightclub owner/ manager

Interesting to hear yours!

OP posts:
chocolatecoveredpeanut · 21/05/2024 20:10

I really can't understand why people come onto threads to declare they are somehow morally better than everyone else on the thread because the thread is stupid/typical of MN/not right because...

As with life - don't chew on a sandwich if you think it's made of turd.

TheTigerWhoCameToEatMyHusband · 21/05/2024 20:03

DizzyBumble · 21/05/2024 11:36

What's the problem with scaffolders?

Putting up scaffolding is an absolute no but a roofer or tall building window cleaner is ok?

The only job I'd be put off by is someone who doesn't have one

Edited

Scaffolders tend to be massive coke heads

KnitnNatterAuntie · 21/05/2024 20:01

Vicar

tennistimetomorrow · 21/05/2024 19:59

banker
trader
police
army
politician

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 21/05/2024 19:57

Revelatio · 21/05/2024 11:33

What’s wrong with a scaffolder? Are you worried they might fall off?!!

I was wondering that too - baffled! 😁

Beezknees · 21/05/2024 19:53

Cityandmakeup · 21/05/2024 19:52

Teacher. But not because I am a teacher troll, because you would never see them.

My best mate is a teacher, he doesn't usually work past 4.30. He goes in early though.

Cityandmakeup · 21/05/2024 19:52

EverythingYouDoIsaBalloon · 21/05/2024 19:43

I generally find public sector workers to have an entitled mindset.

Well, obviously I can't comment on your experiences but it's quite the sweeping generalisation. It wasn't my experience during the years I worked in the public sector, put it that way.

I would find someone who thought that to be the entitled one

Cityandmakeup · 21/05/2024 19:52

Teacher. But not because I am a teacher troll, because you would never see them.

StarbucksQueen1 · 21/05/2024 19:50

Unemployed
Fisherman/fish monger- eurgh the smell!
Police/army or anything dangerous like that
Sex worker/stripper etc
Someone who was away alot or did shift work as we’d be apart too much

RubberyChicken · 21/05/2024 19:46

Bramble picker

EverythingYouDoIsaBalloon · 21/05/2024 19:43

I generally find public sector workers to have an entitled mindset.

Well, obviously I can't comment on your experiences but it's quite the sweeping generalisation. It wasn't my experience during the years I worked in the public sector, put it that way.

Madamebrioche1 · 21/05/2024 19:43

Police (been there, done that)
Pro rugby player (also been there)
Only fans
Trader
Big 4
Army/marines (never known one that wasn't a cheat)
Doctor or really anyone that works shifts vs 9-5

Cathbrownlow · 21/05/2024 19:37

Any job working for royalty
probably all of the above
banker
frakker
anyone famous

Chirawehaha · 21/05/2024 19:22

Ragingbull1 · 21/05/2024 17:52

So, you don't know any Police Officers, you've never been a Police Officer, but you think you know more than myself, who has actually been a Police Officer for 5 years and who is married to a Police Officer who has been one for 20 years?

Got to love the armchair know it all's. Give your head a wobble.

So, because you personally know a few police officers, your views are more valid than the findings of multiple inquiries and the statements of the NPCC?

I don’t think I’m the one who needs to give their head a wobble.

Chirawehaha · 21/05/2024 19:17

Ragingbull1 · 21/05/2024 17:48

You don't know what you're talking about I'm afraid.

He was drafted, then?

OhHelloMiss · 21/05/2024 19:05

NecessaryNC24 · 21/05/2024 16:54

Another vote for Police, due to their reputation/attitude towards women.

What? All of them?

CurlewKate · 21/05/2024 19:03

@Boomer55
"I wouldn’t care what sort of job anyone had. I look at the person. Having said that, anyone unemployed would put me off."

That made me laugh. The lack of self awareness is staggering!

KnitFastDieWarm · 21/05/2024 18:54

I’d always have said no military men. Until I met DP, who is a gem. Tbh I’d still say no military men - he’s my exception 😁

ILikeItWhatIsIt · 21/05/2024 18:50

EverythingYouDoIsaBalloon · 21/05/2024 18:46

I'm curious, why not NHS/public sector?

I generally find public sector workers to have an entitled mindset.

Elphame · 21/05/2024 18:50

Butcher
Abattoir worker
Anything like the above
Vicar ( or whatever title they go by)

EverythingYouDoIsaBalloon · 21/05/2024 18:46

ILikeItWhatIsIt · 21/05/2024 18:43

Police
NHS/public sector
Unemployed

I'm curious, why not NHS/public sector?

OneTC · 21/05/2024 18:45

Ragingbull1 · 21/05/2024 18:35

Well no, I wouldn't. I would happily slate rapists all day long. However, I wouldn't slate rapists all day long, and then call one for help when I'm in trouble.

And its a stupid analogy anyway. ALL rapists are bad people. Are you really saying that ALL Police men and women are bad people? If you woke up at 3am, and someone was bashing your door in, would you call 999? If your child went missing, would you call 999? If you were attacked would you call 999? I wager that you would. And when you make that call, a Police Officer will come to your aid, even if that means placing their own life in danger.

Some people think that ALL coppers are quite bad because they cover up for, work with and tolerate some of the biggest scum bag cunts you'll ever meet.

That's why I wouldn't ask one for an unbiased view of policing, because they're all at least a bit tainted by association.

Same would apply for any discussion on the controversial aspects of any job.

But as evidenced on this site again and again the cops are the biggest and most routine Not All Coppers Are Like That's out there

muggart · 21/05/2024 18:44

I'd be a little put off a spy too, it'd be weird not knowing anything about their work life.

ILikeItWhatIsIt · 21/05/2024 18:43

Police
NHS/public sector
Unemployed

Ragingbull1 · 21/05/2024 18:35

OneTC · 21/05/2024 18:02

Do you turn to rapists for a balanced view on rapists?

Well no, I wouldn't. I would happily slate rapists all day long. However, I wouldn't slate rapists all day long, and then call one for help when I'm in trouble.

And its a stupid analogy anyway. ALL rapists are bad people. Are you really saying that ALL Police men and women are bad people? If you woke up at 3am, and someone was bashing your door in, would you call 999? If your child went missing, would you call 999? If you were attacked would you call 999? I wager that you would. And when you make that call, a Police Officer will come to your aid, even if that means placing their own life in danger.