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Which jobs would put you off dating someone?

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BobbyBiscuits · 21/05/2024 11:27

Of course, everyone has to do something, so this is light-hearted.

But which jobs would be red flags for you and you can't imagine going out with someone who does this?

Mine would be-

Tory MP/aide/minister- or anything to do with the Tory party
Scaffolder
Stripper
Porn star
PT/fitness instructor/gym owner
Nightclub owner/ manager

Interesting to hear yours!

OP posts:
IsThePopeCatholic · 22/05/2024 10:26

Butcher,astrologer, soldier, police, estate agent, Tory mp / councilor/ aide , furrier.

Dotjones · 22/05/2024 10:24

Anyone in the emergency services, armed forces, politics, sales, charities, prison service, investment banking, "event organisers", "influencers", lorry drivers, train or bus drivers etc.

ObliviousCoalmine · 22/05/2024 10:21

KnittedCardi · 21/05/2024 22:38

Public sector
Union Reps
Charity workers
Anyone in the arts ((lefty luvvvies)

Found the Tory.

SeriaMau · 22/05/2024 10:17

KnittedCardi · 21/05/2024 22:38

Public sector
Union Reps
Charity workers
Anyone in the arts ((lefty luvvvies)

That’s a pretty wide net. No doctors, nurses, healthcare workers, teachers, civil servants, local government, armed forces, police, firemen, social workers, environmental officers, probation workers, university lecturers, actors, artists, musicians, jugglers and pavement mime artists. I can agree with the last.

EverythingYouDoIsaBalloon · 22/05/2024 09:52

KnittedCardi · 21/05/2024 22:38

Public sector
Union Reps
Charity workers
Anyone in the arts ((lefty luvvvies)

Why on earth would you object to a charity worker? I'd have thought it's a good indictment that someone cares about others. Mind you, given the rest of your list... raises one eyebrow

Westfacing · 22/05/2024 09:37

A number of people have mentioned 'Porn' - isn't that bit like saying you wouldn't date a paedophile, in that it doesn't need to be said!

CeeceeBloomingdale · 22/05/2024 09:36

Not having a job would put me off more than any actual job.

TheDumpling · 22/05/2024 09:33

Any sort of Porno,

Butchers/slaughterhouse/animal labs/cruelty/death/breeders.

Tobacconist/vapes, e's etc.

Bailiff/debt collectors.

Those who are unemployed for long periods of time but only if it's not CAN'T get a job but WON'T!

TheaBrandt · 22/05/2024 07:21

Also farmers can never go on holiday and you get dragged in to be a farmers wife. Wouldn’t fancy that.

For me it’s place specific. When I was single and dating I turned down a nice man because of where he lived and would never have dated an Australian or NZ man either.

Beezknees · 22/05/2024 07:14

JacketPotatoFoodOfTheGods · 21/05/2024 22:45

What's wrong with fishermen & farmers???

Farmers have to work very long hours starting in the wee hours of the morning. I couldn't cope with that personally. I want some down time with a partner!

JacquesHarlow · 22/05/2024 06:10

sunflowerdaisyrose · 22/05/2024 00:02

Any politician
Anyone long term unemployed
I prefer someone with a career rather than a 'job'. I wouldn't mind a builder with his own company but wouldn't be attracted to a labourer for example.

I'm married to a wonderful, kind, loyal, generous, hard working police officer and he's the best husband and father possible. I count my lucky stars every day I have him.

This is so funny.

MaidOfBondStreet · 22/05/2024 05:59

ohtowinthelottery · 21/05/2024 11:49

@Revelatio Most of the scaffolders I've come across can't string a sentence together without at least 3 'F' words in it. That would be a definite no for me!

Yep. Had a couple next door the other week and they were awful. Crap music on loudly, swearing, shouting etc

groyard · 22/05/2024 00:04

JacketPotatoFoodOfTheGods · 21/05/2024 22:44

Why are you shagging them?

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I say I feel like a Geisha not because I have sex with clients on work trips. But as a management consultant (a junior one at that) I am very much encouraged to go to these boozy dinners and keep clients “happy”. Often I want to go back to my hotel order a takeaway and sleep but it is made very clear that that is not the done thing.

Low level sexual harassment is suppressed by partners who highlight the promotions that await those that comply. On my second work trip abroad I ended up in a strip club. The sick men that took me knew I was unsure and overwhelmed by the power disparity. I must have been 22 with these disgusting middle aged pervs.

sunflowerdaisyrose · 22/05/2024 00:02

Any politician
Anyone long term unemployed
I prefer someone with a career rather than a 'job'. I wouldn't mind a builder with his own company but wouldn't be attracted to a labourer for example.

I'm married to a wonderful, kind, loyal, generous, hard working police officer and he's the best husband and father possible. I count my lucky stars every day I have him.

FairviewRosie24 · 21/05/2024 23:33

Been with my 16 year ex army boy, now security for 8 years now. Fact that he’s a trained masseur is a bonus lol ☺️

Justleaveitblankthen · 21/05/2024 23:28

Any Scientist that tests on animals.

Iloveyoubut · 21/05/2024 23:15

JacketPotatoFoodOfTheGods · 21/05/2024 22:43

Funeral home person (brain fog! What are they called?
Abattoir worker
Anything to do with death really...
Tory
Debt collector
Prison guard
Police

Undertakers … and I agree with your whole list.

Iloveyoubut · 21/05/2024 23:14

Disability assessor for ATOS etc
Army
Police
Personal Trainer
Traffic Warden
anyone who volunteers for the civilian police or whatever they are
anyone who wanted to be a covid Marshall
YouTuber/Influencer
Vet… only because I’d be constantly picking on them for the prices
farmer (I’d fall out with him any time a sad/cruel thing happened to an animal

social worker - been there, it was a lot

JacketPotatoFoodOfTheGods · 21/05/2024 22:45

What's wrong with fishermen & farmers???

JacketPotatoFoodOfTheGods · 21/05/2024 22:44

groyard · 21/05/2024 11:41

Anyone who regularly goes on business trips.

I’m a 30 yo management consultant at a big 4 firm. It has SHOCKED me how prevalent cheating is on work trips. The number of sad men (clients and consultants) who just want to get trashed on these all expense paid dinners and then go have sex with any willing participant….

Even the boring, overweight middle aged guys.

Sometimes I feel like a Geisha on work trips.

Why are you shagging them?

JacketPotatoFoodOfTheGods · 21/05/2024 22:43

Funeral home person (brain fog! What are they called?
Abattoir worker
Anything to do with death really...
Tory
Debt collector
Prison guard
Police

Austrocock · 21/05/2024 22:40

Funeral director/mortician
Hunter

Anything military because of being posted away
Ditto diplomat

Fucking influencer.

JacketPotatoFoodOfTheGods · 21/05/2024 22:39

Revelatio · 21/05/2024 11:33

What’s wrong with a scaffolder? Are you worried they might fall off?!!

🤣🤣🤣

KnittedCardi · 21/05/2024 22:38

Public sector
Union Reps
Charity workers
Anyone in the arts ((lefty luvvvies)

Itsthedress · 21/05/2024 22:27

Poet!