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Which jobs would put you off dating someone?

392 replies

BobbyBiscuits · 21/05/2024 11:27

Of course, everyone has to do something, so this is light-hearted.

But which jobs would be red flags for you and you can't imagine going out with someone who does this?

Mine would be-

Tory MP/aide/minister- or anything to do with the Tory party
Scaffolder
Stripper
Porn star
PT/fitness instructor/gym owner
Nightclub owner/ manager

Interesting to hear yours!

OP posts:
dontcryformeargentina · 23/05/2024 01:09

HMRC, sewage workers, accountants, actors, models

Foxlover46 · 23/05/2024 00:31

Abattoir staff,
Politician ,
Pimp

DeeCeeCherry · 23/05/2024 00:29

Police, Military, Butcher, Nightshift, any stressful long hours job

JustMove · 22/05/2024 23:37

As long as the work is legitimate, I wouldn't care what their job was.

notprincehamlet · 22/05/2024 23:36

Why a circus clown?
The big shoes cluttering up the hallway? Always having to take your car because the doors keep falling off his?

Mt61 · 22/05/2024 23:17

Mt61 · 22/05/2024 23:17

Anything to do with working around mortuaries, pest control ( frightened of anything being brought home), people who clean up crime scenes, butchers, undertakers

Smell of death I guess

Mt61 · 22/05/2024 23:17

Anything to do with working around mortuaries, pest control ( frightened of anything being brought home), people who clean up crime scenes, butchers, undertakers

Ilovecleaning · 22/05/2024 23:09

TrishM80 · 21/05/2024 11:56

Circus clown

🤣
this made me laugh. Why a circus clown?

AnnieSnap · 22/05/2024 22:09

bonzaitree · 22/05/2024 22:04

Teacher. Couldn’t bare the constant whinging.

That’s just a weird and puzzling comment 🤷‍♀️ I’m married to a (now retired) Science Teacher. He has never been a winger!

AnnieSnap · 22/05/2024 22:08

Anon543210 · 22/05/2024 20:01

Bouncer. I used to work in a nightclub many years ago and I seen what nearly all of the bouncers got up to with multiple women and all of them had girlfriends or long tern partners
Also chefs, I was married to a chef for many years and he was very abusive blamed it on the long hours and being tired but to be honest that doesn't excuse coming at your 3 month pregnant wife with a sledgehammer.

To be fair, that is just one Chef. What makes you think other Chefs would be dodgy?

SpringerFall · 22/05/2024 22:05

Givemegoldensun · 22/05/2024 21:01

I haven’t read the whole thread, but this is what I get from the first couple of pages… a woman who doesn’t work is complaining about how unattractive she finds the job choices of men she hypothetically knows who do work? The hypocrisy and arrogance of some people is absolutely amazing.

I can imagine the thread 'I was seeing this bloke then he went a little funny on me I am now sat hear crying devastated about what I have done wrong then he told me it is what I do for work how could he do this to me'

Omg that is such a red flag you are better off without him

bonzaitree · 22/05/2024 22:04

Teacher. Couldn’t bare the constant whinging.

Annierob · 22/05/2024 22:02

When a guy told me he was a bailiff, I knew I couldn’t go out with him. Just killed the romance dead.
He told me cheerfully with enthusiasm that the contents of most people’s house was worth far less than they thought. He really enjoyed his job.

shehasglasses48 · 22/05/2024 21:43

Tory anything would me top of my list and so refreshing to see this on Mumsnet. Sometimes there’s only one thing you need to know about a person.

Givemegoldensun · 22/05/2024 21:02

Ps. A scaffolder is not beneath you love.

Givemegoldensun · 22/05/2024 21:01

I haven’t read the whole thread, but this is what I get from the first couple of pages… a woman who doesn’t work is complaining about how unattractive she finds the job choices of men she hypothetically knows who do work? The hypocrisy and arrogance of some people is absolutely amazing.

Bernardo1 · 22/05/2024 20:52

I forgot influencer, if that is a job.

pinkstripeycat · 22/05/2024 20:51

Bin man

I married soldier and police (same person) and it’s good 😊

Bernardo1 · 22/05/2024 20:48

Labour politician, of whichever faction. Estate agent, Undertaker (especially if they work from home!

CM97 · 22/05/2024 20:39

A tinder match just told me he's a funeral director... I didn't think a job would affect me until I read that!

Gwenhwyfar · 22/05/2024 20:30

ThisHumanBean · 21/05/2024 14:28

Why is gynaecologist such a popular choice for the list?

I’d have thought a gynae came with a mumber of benefits…no?

Yes, I would see it as a plus.

Didimum · 22/05/2024 20:30

Anything low income. Anything which has no work/life balance regardless of income. Armed forces. Police. Anything unsociable hours.

Jeannie88 · 22/05/2024 20:27

Salesman

Gwenhwyfar · 22/05/2024 20:25

stayathomer · 21/05/2024 12:08

Dentist- I’ve awful teeth so I’d be hiding my mouth all the time😅😅😅

But you'd have great teeth potentially with him. Unless it's a case of the cobbler's children having the worst shoes.

Gwenhwyfar · 22/05/2024 20:21

Over workers or awkward shifts.
Anything that makes him smell of fish.