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Which jobs would put you off dating someone?

392 replies

BobbyBiscuits · 21/05/2024 11:27

Of course, everyone has to do something, so this is light-hearted.

But which jobs would be red flags for you and you can't imagine going out with someone who does this?

Mine would be-

Tory MP/aide/minister- or anything to do with the Tory party
Scaffolder
Stripper
Porn star
PT/fitness instructor/gym owner
Nightclub owner/ manager

Interesting to hear yours!

OP posts:
thecatneuterer · 21/05/2024 12:40

I forgot pest controller.

Also musician - if touring/in a band. Bad experience there.

HebburnPokemon · 21/05/2024 12:39

Anyone in a desk job who works 9-5/months-fri!

But a non-desk 9-5 job is fine?

thecatneuterer · 21/05/2024 12:38

Oh (and I realise I've been watching too much Top Boy), I would also give drug dealers/OCG members a swerve.

OhHelloMiss · 21/05/2024 12:38

*mon/fri

OhHelloMiss · 21/05/2024 12:37

Anyone in a desk job who works 9-5/months-fri!

Bluesclues1 · 21/05/2024 12:37

Pilot. I used to be cabin crew and sadly a lot of them live up the stereotype of forgetting they have wives when down route!

thecatneuterer · 21/05/2024 12:36

All animal related:

Abattoir worker/butcher
Livestock farmer
Cat/dog/rabbit breeder
Anyone involved in animal testing

A vet, however, would be my dream match.

Mischance · 21/05/2024 12:34

Armed forces
Hedge fund manager, or similar gambling with others' money.

CurlewKate · 21/05/2024 12:34

Anything to do with the gambling industry.

Youcannotbeseriousreally · 21/05/2024 12:34

Police officer.

I’ve not met one yet who can stay faithful!

CurlewKate · 21/05/2024 12:33

Anything to do with the "sex industry". Bailiff. Anything connected with the Conservative Party. Armed Services. Police.

KreedKafer · 21/05/2024 12:33

Oh, I have a list longer than my arm. I'm going to leave out things like criminals and the sex industry, as to be honest I think most people would take that as given.

  • Management consultant
  • Armed forces
  • Gamekeeper
  • Farmer
  • Chef/restaurateur/bar owner
  • Sales rep
  • Banker/trader/stockbroker/fund manager/finance in general
  • Pest controller
  • Actor/comedian/singer/any kind of performer at all really
  • Anyone who worked for a right-wing political party, think tank, campaign group. lobbying group etc
  • Alternative therapist of any kind
  • 'Nutritionist' (a proper dietician is fine though)
  • CEO
  • Start-up tech bro
  • Recruitment consultant

I could probably go on.

ICantThinkofAnythingClever · 21/05/2024 12:33

Police or army- they have much higher rates of abusing their partners than the general population. I would avoid as a rule. What I've heard over the years from friends who've dated policemen only reinforced my decision.

VillageLite · 21/05/2024 12:31

I don’t think any job would be an automatic no from me.
Though I wouldn’t really like something dangerous that involves lots of time away - military or similar. But I expect for the right person you would get past that.

But I would easily be put off by certain hobbies (I have a list as long as my arm!)

You have to have a job to pay the bills, and some people just fall into certain things. I don’t really think it’s fair to judge someone for their job.
On the other hand their hobbies are an insight into who they really are.

ManilowBarry · 21/05/2024 12:29

Labour MP/aide/minister- or anything to do with the Labour party.

Manual worker or labourer. Anything unskilled.

Low earner.

Butcher.

Works in an abattoir.

Medical profession.

Sex worker.

Dancer.

Teacher.

Works for The Guardian.

WetBandits · 21/05/2024 12:29

Military. Been there, done that, got cheated on. 😂

NO FANX

thecatsthecats · 21/05/2024 12:25

Ooh, I'm going to attempt to be controversial and add SAHD to the list. Not many of them, but I wouldn't be keen.

IT roles are a good source of blokes who are decently paid and relatively flexible. Generally well educated, not usually that into sports.

Rumors1 · 21/05/2024 12:20

I worked in an abattoir and I am now a lawyer. Lots would be put off by me :)

Original poster
BobbyBiscuits · 21/05/2024 12:19

@TwattyMcFuckFace probably. I don't know now. Gawd. I'm sorry to the scaffolding community.

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LaPalmaLlama · 21/05/2024 12:19

Honestly it would probably depend on life stage and family situation. If I was planning to have kids, I’d avoid someone who works unsociable/ unpredictable hours but isn’t well paid for it, because their hours can affect your earnings potential but you wouldn’t have the cash to buy in help.

Now I’ve got older/ grown up kids that’s less relevant so it wouldn’t put me off. I do like my own space though so I’d actively be happy with someone who travels or works away a fair bit.

There’s good money in scaffolding though- don’t understand that one- especially if you own the company.

Dearg · 21/05/2024 12:18

Having a job is always better than being unemployed, for me. But an absolute no would be a career politician - of any creed- but any jingoistic, nationalist types in particular.
The rise of the councillor, MSP, MP who has not actual life experience to bring to the job is so deeply ‘look at me’ Urgh.

ISeriouslyDoubtIt · 21/05/2024 12:18

It's so interesting seeing other people's preferences and dislikes. In my family and friends group we have surgeons, vets, teachers, police, big 4 corporate management, HR management and they are all lovely people, all married to their first and only spouse or in long term partnerships, so dating people with those jobs seems perfectly normal and positive to me, yet on this thread they're all a no-no!
I wouldn't touch scaffolders, roofers or any trades with a bargepole for dating purposes, the only exception being if they were university educated and had had a professional career before deciding to learn a trade, doubt there are many of those.
Wouldn't want anyone who worked in sales, if they're good at it they're used to acting, not being genuine, bending the truth and telling people what they want to hear.

TheaBrandt · 21/05/2024 12:18

Anecdotally military seem to be either excellent husbands and fathers or really awful. Nothing in between

TwattyMcFuckFace · 21/05/2024 12:18

BobbyBiscuits · 21/05/2024 11:35

@Revelatio something like that. Lol. I guess I don't think they seem massively trustworthy or sophisticated, even for me, an unemployed benefits claimant. Haha.
That's probably awful. I'm sure they are fine...

Would you rather date an unemployed benefits claimant than a scaffolder then?

Somerandomgirl · 21/05/2024 12:18

😆
The ones emptying bins
Butcher

Anything with dirt and germs and all that grim stuff 😂