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Which jobs would put you off dating someone?

392 replies

BobbyBiscuits · 21/05/2024 11:27

Of course, everyone has to do something, so this is light-hearted.

But which jobs would be red flags for you and you can't imagine going out with someone who does this?

Mine would be-

Tory MP/aide/minister- or anything to do with the Tory party
Scaffolder
Stripper
Porn star
PT/fitness instructor/gym owner
Nightclub owner/ manager

Interesting to hear yours!

OP posts:
TheCadoganArms · 21/05/2024 15:22

5128gap · 21/05/2024 14:40

Abattoir worker
Butcher
Bailiff/debt collector
Vicar
Landlord
Armed forces

Landlord?? A bit random

WeeOrcadian · 21/05/2024 15:20

Butcher / abbatoir worker
Sales (unless higher management)
Call centre worker (been there myself)

BobbyBiscuits · 21/05/2024 15:20

Thanks everyone for their posts!

It's really interesting to see quite a lot of things repeatedly come up.

I think it's often down to how your morals don't align, or you'd feel you'd have little in common in terms of interest. Or that we feel the person must lack compassion etc. Also working hours seem to play a big part.

I think authority figures in general (police, military etc) would probably put me off more than a gym owner really.

Or people who seem to have lots of money but you don't really know where it comes from...

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Pickingmyselfup · 21/05/2024 15:12

Not many but off the top of my head...

Anyone who works stupidly long/antisocial hours meaning we would never see each other
An MP

I would give anyone a fair shot to be honest, I'm not perfect, I'm a waitress earning minimum wage although my hours are "normal" hence someone in the same industry with irregular hours just wouldn't work. If I still worked shifts I can imagine someone else working shifts would suit.

whirlyhead · 21/05/2024 15:10

Accountant
Anyone who works for HMRC
Military
A member of the royal family (shudder)

HcbSS · 21/05/2024 15:05

thecatsthecats · 21/05/2024 11:30

Anything corporate/big 4. I'm not into wage slave overworkers.

Totally agree.

Ohthatoldchestnut · 21/05/2024 15:05

Anyone who is, was or wants to be famous.

BobbyBiscuits · 21/05/2024 14:54

@XenoBitch yeah, I was ignoring that one. I stated I'm on benefits myself. Idk about who these scroungers are? Openly faking not having a job, or debilitating illnesses? That's just a dishonest person, not a profession.

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Westfacing · 21/05/2024 14:52

Toomanysquishmallows · 21/05/2024 14:03

Totally petty , but anyone who works with drains !

Now... the two young chaps with their pressure hoses and camera who came to sort out the tree roots that were blocking my drains were handsome, charming, polite and efficient - if I were 30 years younger...

They did both say that they don't do the big sewers, the ones you can walk through!

SeriaMau · 21/05/2024 14:41

Bumblebeestiltskin · 21/05/2024 12:54

Tory MP (or any other right wing party)
Dairy farmer
Pig/cattle/poultry farmer (anything in animal agriculture, basically)
Beekeeper
Riding teacher
Podcast bro
Slaughterhouse worker
Butcher

I'm only interested in left wing vegans, anyway, so anyone in any of those jobs would be discounted straight away anyway 😂

Oh, and police!

Edited

Beekeepers. Yes, they are right SOBs. And bees aren’t much better.

5128gap · 21/05/2024 14:40

Abattoir worker
Butcher
Bailiff/debt collector
Vicar
Landlord
Armed forces

XenoBitch · 21/05/2024 14:40

CMZ2018 · 21/05/2024 14:01

Anyone who’s a professional benefits scrounger

That is an oxymoron.
I am on benefits, so clearly not a professional.
People can not date me based on that, and that is ok. But there is s much more to me than my job (or lack of it).

SeriaMau · 21/05/2024 14:39

Certified (not chartered) accountant
juggler
stevedore
tobacconist
anybody in the navy
teaching assistant
manager of a garden centre
mobile ice cream vendor
podiatrist
racing car driver

Knitgoodwoman · 21/05/2024 14:38

I really fancy men in uniform, I’ve dated police, military, ex military, pilot etc I can see they’re not popular here, more to go around 😄

I love how calm they are in a crisis and responsible. I like to know someone can handle themselves should the need arise!

For me it would be influencers or investment bankers.

MountCaramel · 21/05/2024 14:37

There's nobody left to date after reading through everyone's suggestions!

pontipinemum · 21/05/2024 14:34

Farmer - I married one 😂 at least he isn't dairy and we get away from time to time. But farm = life. Not just a job. It's marrying a full life style

I couldn't be with someone who had no drive. As in happy to be on the dole and never work, between jobs is fine happens most of us.

Politician - any party
Police
Fisher man - the smell

Men that work in offices never really floated my boat either and that would have been an easy place for me to meet someone. Before DH my LTR was an electrician

ThisHumanBean · 21/05/2024 14:28

Why is gynaecologist such a popular choice for the list?

I’d have thought a gynae came with a mumber of benefits…no?

Fink · 21/05/2024 14:27

I don't have a list of absolute no gos, but there's a lot of professions that would be off-putting and I'd take some persuading that the person who did them had a similar enough outlook on life to me for us to be compatible. I did previously date an accountant and I really couldn't stomach how he saw professional tax avoidance (through complicated loopholes rather than merely not volunteering to pay the maximum possible) as just a normal job and in no way morally repugnant. Same with lawyers: I briefly dated a barrister and in my mind there's a difference between someone who genuinely wants to help other people and someone making a lucrative career choice to defend rapists.

There's no job I'd mind in terms of smells, shifts, or perceived prestige, but I'm very picky about moral values.

Toomuch44 · 21/05/2024 14:17

I don't eat meat, so as others have said abattoir/similar and to be honest I'd probably want to avoid a farmer who breeds for slaughter.

Sex industry, porn star, that sort of thing.

Other than that, if he was a decent person, no problem. Many that do jobs that are messy/dirty will either shower at work (where they have that option) or immediately on return home.

There are some odd things on here to choose. We've got scaffolding up at the moment, chaps arrived a couple of days early so we hadn't moved things out of way - they were so pleasant and it was no trouble to them.

larkstar · 21/05/2024 14:14

police
fire
builders
teachers (they have no life)

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 21/05/2024 14:13

Ventriloquist - I think they would be constantly putting words in my mouth.

Toomanysquishmallows · 21/05/2024 14:10

Regarding trades , my partner used to be an electrician and he’s lovely.

muggart · 21/05/2024 14:10

If planning children then anything that takes them away for long periods like a geologist. Or shift work with unsociable hours (full respect to people who can handle that though!).

Teacher, if showing signs of a superiority complex.

I'd also be suspicious of anyone trying to break into politics too. I don't trust people who make it their mission to convert people to their way of thinking. Seems a bit too power focused for my liking.

New age hippy stuff/ life coaching.

Porn industry work.

Willywaitingforbreakfast · 21/05/2024 14:09

There is more!

Porn star, obvious reasons.

Manager of a stripclub, they usually are pervs or degrade the women (I was a dancer once upon a time)

Rapper/drill artist although they wouldn't even get past getting my number an instance block! Yuk!

Anyone who does fraud or scams, never trust a thief.

Probably that's it! Anyone else is fair game

GingerPirate · 21/05/2024 14:08

I can think about teacher or entertainer/public figure.