I had a baby 22 months ago.
Prior to this, I was quite attractive. Not a boast but relevant to what’s happened since. I felt confident, make went on well, I looked good. Not model material but attractive and I could tell others thought it was too. Wouldn’t have thought twice about going on a date or meeting someone new or having a job interview. I knew if I did my hair and make up I looked nice.
Had my daughter and since then I’ve looked like utter shit. People have even commented things like am I ok, am I coping as I look tired, i look pale, I look thin. At the weekend I made an effort with my make up and afterwards a friend messaged to say was I looking after myself enough as I looked washed out (a good friend, she was being caring).
The thing is, im not surprised as these comments as I know I don’t look good! I can already tell no matter what I do I still look crap.
The only thing I can think is I’ve started buying cheap supermarket clothes as I don’t have time to shop and I do my make up quicker than I have in the past. I guess these days I spend 5 mins on it and in the past I would have an entire hour to ‘get ready.’ But even so, I don’t think that would make such a huge difference would it?!
Im going through an (amicable) divorce initiated by me and I am really wondering now if I will ever meet anyone again. I definitely don’t have the confidence.
oh and I should also mention I sleep loads! Daughter sleeps fourteen hours typically so I’m not sleep deprived and can’t blame that. I do sometimes wake in the night if I hear her stir but I have enough sleep.
I feel so shit about this. Is this just what happens sometimes? I feel like I will never dress up again and feel nice. I’m 37 if that’s relevant.