I (injured) should have been DHs priority, not BIL (unwell)

What has he said about it all after the event?

No, he shouldn't have left.

I understand he was worried but there were other adults to help BIL. You should have been his priority.

I actually can't believe he left you with a head injury, to look after two children by yourself.

It sounds as if he panicked.

It does sound as if BIL’s episode seemed v alarming to begin with.

He shouldn’t have left you , no. Was it that you seemed stable and OK and he just panicked?

In the end, nothing bad did happen. But it isn’t surprising that you feel he didn’t take your concussion and injury seriously enough.

Have a serious calm talk. Tell him how vulnerable and taken for granted you felt / feel.

This is one of those situations where the variables are important. If your SIL was panicking and your BIL was super sick and there were no other options, probably okay. But in this case, there were other options ranging from calling an ambulance, PIL, or SIL taking him to the hpspital himself. It was absolutely not okay for him just to leave. Very selfish and inconsiderate.

Seems to be about a lot more than this specific occasion. If it was only related to this I would think you were being v unreasonable - but then I have rugby playing kids who sadly often have mild concussion. It doesn't sound like yours was particularly serious and a seizure is a totally different kettle of fish - very terrifying to witness and potentially with a very serious cause - I'm glad not on this occasion.

Seems like you generally feel he de-prioritises you which is a different discussion.

To be fiair. I think I'd be far more panicked by a fainting spell than a facial injury. You had been seen by a doc and if they had any real concerns they wouldn't have let you homeI know you were feeling rubbish and could have done with some tic but if my bil rang me to say my sister had lost consciousness for no reason I'd be out the door like a shot.

Your husband is a twat.

YOU are not being selfish, he was idiotic, stupid (leaving you with a very small child, and a 7yo with SEN) when you'd had a fall. He was unloving, unkind & didn't act in the best interest of you or his children!!

id be hurt, but also absolutely fuming at the situation he left you & the children in.

BIL had his wife & both parents, he didn't NEED DH.

what has the fuck muppet had to say for himself?? I actually think this could be marriage ending material.

He shouldn’t have left you.

He shouldn't have left you in charge of the two dc. YANBU

To which the correct response is ‘let me know how he is as soon as you know’ not to flee your sick wife and kids for a drama.

I agree he shouldn't have left you. That was wrong. However, I can kind of see it from his perspective - you perhaps seemed perfectly fine, were behaving normally. The he gets the call to say his brother had passed out and was having convulsions. He immediately panics and rushes to help his brother. He wasn't to know it wasn't actually too serious.

I think it reveals you come pretty low down his priorities.

I'm guessing he does other things that make you feel like this?

Take a leaf from his book and treat him as an afterthought next time.

If he’s sick, don’t run around after him.

Have you told him how what he did made you feel?

Did he call you after he left to check up on you?

YANBU - medical advice was to stay with you for 24 hours.

He buggered off to be with an adult who had another adult, and no other responsibilities, leaving you alone in sole charge of two children.

I can understand him being concerned for his brother, but it would have sufficed for him to be at the end of a telephone line which he could do from home!

All eye rolling over dramatic tbh. If you were ok to go home from a&e then chances are you were fine. If SIL was that worried she should have called an ambulance or driven herself.

Exactly.

💐 OP.

They say not to be alone to cover their arses really, if they don’t think anything is majorly wrong they’ll send you home and advise someone is with you ‘just in case’. Lots of people will get dropped home by a taxi/friend/relative and just be on their own, it’s not a law or anything, just advice.
He should definitely have asked if you were feeling okay to be left and called to check in maybe.
Weird that sil couldn’t go with him to hospital alone if she had a car and didn’t think it necessary to call an ambulance.
I don’t think you’re being selfish, I think you’re feeling a bit hurt and not his priority, I imagine he was feeling you were settled and comfortable and then his brother had what seemed to be a seizure and he became a more pressing priority. It’s very bad luck that these 2 events happened so close together.
Hope you feel better soon op 💐

Having had concussion myself, it makes you feel very peculiar and you definitely weren't in a fit state to look after DC's.

Your DH was totally out of order just leaving you like that. Very worrying to see him demonstrate where his priorities lie.

I think you need to have a serious talk to him.

He should of stayed with you. YANBU.

Your SIL & bil sound quite selfish. Why couldn't they get a taxi?

To be fair, my friends husband had a small seizure like that and seemed completely fine by the time the ambulance arrived. Conscious , laughing about it, having a cup of tea. They took him to hospital anyway just to be safe and he had a grand mal seizure followed by a massive stroke on the way in and almost died. If he'd not been en route to the hospital already he probably would have.

So with respect you're being a bit unfair that they shouldn't have been worried because he "only" convulsed for a short time. Convulsions are fucking terrifying. By the same token I could say your husband shouldn't have been that worried about you because you "only" banged your head and cut your eyebrow and had nothing immediately life threatening wrong with you.

Fwiw I think you're right and he shouldn't have left you concussed with two kids, that was selfish and irresponsible, but you can and should express that to him without minimising his brother's illness and his wife's worry.

Idiotic DH and SIL.

Couldn’t SIL have called a cab to A&E?

I 'found out' last week concussion can lead to a stroke. Any medics to confirm this?.. Your dh's db had enough people fussing over him. He left you with 2 dc unattended.. Quite shocking imo.. Ask him if his priorities are skewed.