I (injured) should have been DHs priority, not BIL (unwell)

Your DH definitely should have prioritised you. He should have told his family members to keep him updated. If he really felt he had to, he should have visited and suggested one of the othwr adults took him to at A&E or if absolutely necessary, dropped them off. Ridiculous that your BIL sat in A&E with 2 adults whilst you were home alone with 2 children. Medical advice not to be left alone is there for a reason. You needed someone to keep an eye on you in case things got worse suddenly and you needed to go back to hospital.

I wouldn't be happy with this.
Your DH should hav prioritised you not someone who had a wife and parents to help. I would be seriously reassessing my relationship

The brother was conscious and rational and had a wife and two parents available to assist with no children in the mix. You on the other hand were concussed, injured and left in charge of two children, one of whom was SEN. The fact that unless there is a massive drip feed, your husband is not a neurologist and would have been unable to provided any medical input of any use whatsoever. He could have stayed home and looked after his children and kept his eyes on his wife.

I mean when you were injured did your husband make a panicked call to your sister and parents. Did your parents and sibling drop everything and rush to the scene of the accident and you all troop off to A & E? If not, why not? The answer would be because it would be a daft thing to do

I would wonder whether it is worth keeping him when he so obviously prioritises other people over his own immediate family. The disappointment of the children would be particularly galling for me. Those sorts of people always seem to neglect their own family and financial interests. Do any of those friends repay him with favours? When was the last favour his brother or SIL did for him or you? How does he get on at work or is he always late/behind because he's finishing other people's work?

I'm literally experiencing the same as you. I was angry on your behalf from reading your post then as I've read some replies I've thought maybe they have a point

I guess it's a really random situation that is unlikely to ever happen again

I don’t understand why your SIL started frantically calling relatives rather than just getting him to hospital. Your DH shouldn’t have been called let alone be asked to leave you.

I guess he actually did think his brother was dying.

In that case someone would have called an ambulance. Not someone who was 20-25 minutes away FFS. Let's not just make shit up @Apolloneuro

Some families are those that all rush around, over dramatically, 'being there' for each other while doing no thinking at all. Sounds like OP's DH is one of those. They are tiresome. And performative.

If your wife is injured and you have kids at home, you stay there if there are 3 adults who can help the other person. Unless you're a dramatic White Knight.

YANBU

what exactly where 4 adults going to do whilst bil was unwell? Stand watching is what they did. Dh then went and cluttered an already busy A&E .Bil needed his partner there and that’s it. Are they normally a dramatic bunch?

people can argue all they like that the advice to remain accompanied after a head injury is ares covering, complications from concussion aren’t common but they aren’t unheard of either.

he doesn’t sound very caring to you op- you really aren’t being selfish and if you were my dd your dh would not be hearing praise.

Idk
I think he might have had a reason
Being as his brother might have been dying as he was having convulsions!

he should have arranged for someone to stay with you

I guess he actually did think his brother was dying.

That’s absolutely appalling of him! He 💯 should have stayed with you.

Even without children in the picture, he was told not to leave you alone. BIL had other adults with him, so no need to go there. With children in the picture, it’s just appalling that he left you.

Yes, it could have been serious @saraclara , but three other adults were available to get him to hospital.

Leaving a 7-year-old with SEN and a 3-year-old alone with a concussed adult, however, is downright dangerous. His children are his primary responsibility.

A head injury that's been assessed, diagnosed and treated sufficiently to send you home is a known quantity. And he reacted appr9to it when it happened.

An adult having convulsions is bloody scary and I can see why he panicked. Now's not the time to be playing pick me.

It's tricky really but given your BIL had three other people to take him to hospital, it's not clear why your SIL phoned your DH.

On balance, I don't think your DH did the right thing by leaving you alone with the kiddies AND not seeming to care about it!

Which is great, but that's unusual in an adult, and your DH had no inkling that that would be the case.

A serious issue is far more likely in an adult, and yes, I'd be hot footing it to any close family member adult who had a convulsion

Having had a concussion myself, there is no way that I would have wanted to be left in sole charge of children and for an unknown length of time. Your DH's priority was childcare, followed by keeping an eye on you. Not dashing off to be the hero of the hour.

I would be absolutely furious with him over it. How are you supposed to trust him when he pulls a stunt like this?

I don't think you are B U at all OP! It sounds like your DH has history for doing stuff like this, and quite honestly when SIL called him, he should have said I can't come now because 'Bottomburpsandpops' has concussion, but call an ambulance, or if you're really worried get him in the car and drive him to A&E yourself, or if you're too anxious to drive, call Mum & Dad, and get them to take you. Keep me posted once you know what the situation is, and if necessary, I'll see if I can find someone to sit with our kids, and 'Bottomburpsandpops', to make sure that they're safe while I come to you.

Are he and his DB really close as a rule OP? Or is he just a thoughtless knob for the majority of the time?

Well I've suffered from concussion and it felt as though my brain was being torn apart in my head. And OP was given medical advice that she should not be left alone.
I don't understand why SIL expected him to leave his wife in these circumstances when she had help from other relatives. Sounds like OP is low on the list of priorities of all the family.
To go off without a word leaving OP with 2 young children was thoughtless and irresponsible. To go off and not even arrange for someone else to be with OP is really uncaring of the possible consequences to his wife and children.

I'm not surprised OP is upset about this.

Fainting and convulsions? Sorry op Id have been straight out to my brother too

Unless he thought his brother was dying then he’s in the wrong. I would be handing him his arse.

But you know that now. Your DH didn't know that that was how it was going to pan out when he got the call.

I'd drop everything if I got a call that a family member was convulsing, even if they'd just come round. There are SO many serious reasons for an adult to have a convulsion, including a stroke or brain tumour. We adults aren't like kids who have brief ones with a fever.

I'm glad it worked out okay in your BIL's case, but your DH wasn't to know that it would.

Concussion can vary in severity

If you can't be left alone and have no family to monitor you they'll keep you in hospital

A minor head injury but she was specifically told not to be alone and he left her in charge of their two young children, one with SEN who wakes frequently during the night, solo. Without discussion or and agreement. Do you really think that was a sensible or reasonable decision for a father to make?