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To wonder why people seem to forget that if they're sitting talking in their gardens, WE CAN HEAR YOU!

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Eeepsh · 19/05/2024 15:45

I'm sitting open mouthed listening to the personal details of the life of our next-door but one neighbour. Does she think no-one else might be sitting in their gardens on this gorgeous sunny day.

And yesterday, I was waiting in the car with the windows open waiting to pick up DS1, and had to endure a racist rant from the man in the garden of a nearby house.

incredible!

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petermaddog · 19/05/2024 22:35

17 and 18 fighting standing 80meters apart,i live across the street and could hear both sides and they were yelling in their phones
moved yea ! one is in jail now

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justhetwoofus · 19/05/2024 22:20

My ex next door neighbour moved in a convicted rapist,recently released but still on licence….. had to listen to her defending him constantly whilst on loud speaker to her friends…. Grim,.. thankfully she’s gone now,and not with him….
he left her for some other fool !

BingoMarieHeeler · 19/05/2024 22:18

YABU to start this thread and not include what they were saying that’s so shocking.

JohnSt1 · 19/05/2024 22:09

My local council bought a house beside me, and housed tenants that they had previously evicted from council flats for anti-social behaviour. The screaming matches can happen at any time of the day. The drug dealing goes on all day and night. Their callers climb through other people's back gardens to access the house from the back. We hear them knocking on the windows of the house and calling the tenants.

Whycantiwinmillionsandsquillions · 19/05/2024 22:07

Some neighbours across had friends round. DD’s bedroom faces their garden and she had her window open. She heard one man exclaim ‘I’m going for a piss.’
However dh’s slammed her window shut on hearing one man say’Yeah all lives matter.’

MiniPumpkin · 19/05/2024 22:00

I’m very aware that my neighbours who are twice our age with no children can probably hear me call on my kids about 100 times a day .. and the rest of it. Especially when ive tried every trick in the book to resolve whatever problem and I’m about to lose it 😂
they wear ear phones these days 🤣🤣 so yeah I’m very aware people can hear lol

Lifeomars · 19/05/2024 21:57

noctilucentcloud · 19/05/2024 16:56

Some folk are loud, I can hear my neighbour half way up the road!

Same here, I can hear mine as I walk down the road as soon as I am about 5 doors away from my house and that is in the winter, they communicate at full volume all the time and when they are having a row it is just a screaming and screeching contest. Come summer they fling all the windows open and also the front and back door so the entire street is treated to their dulcet tones. They have endless visitors too who hammer on the door and yell at the same time.

Lifeomars · 19/05/2024 21:45

My neighbours shout and yell all the time, I have to wear earplugs in my kitchen when they have their door and windows open and there is no way I am able to use my outdoor space, In fact I was only thinking that before they moved in I would be pottering around in my back yard attending to my plants but I have given up now as the noise makes me feel ill. My back yard is getting in a state now as I can't be out there due to the noise. I have given up trying to communicate with them (they do not speak any English) and just have to accept that this is how it is now. I am waiting for the council's anti-social behaviour dept to do something, the endless noise is just one aspect the difficulties I experiencing with them, I am not holding my breath though, I have had two years of this.

JohnSt1 · 19/05/2024 21:43

They probably like being heard.

abracadabra1980 · 19/05/2024 21:40

5128gap · 19/05/2024 18:28

Am I the only one who loves it when this happens? When you accidentally through no fault of your own, couldn't be avoided, so guilt free..get a proper nosy into other people's lives?

It's divine, an unexpected 'prize' 😜

OutOfTheHouse · 19/05/2024 21:38

Yesmate · 19/05/2024 16:16

Next door but one? You must have been straining to hear unless they were shouting? Are you sure it was your neighbour, could they have had people over that didn’t realise how close by the neighbours are?

You’ve not met my next door but one neighbours. The woman on one side has a foghorn of a voice.

I was woken up at 3am a few weeks ago be next door but one on the other side talking to his wife in the garden. He was pissed but I could hear both of them clearly.

VeraForever · 19/05/2024 21:37

My neighbour at the back works from home.
We're already enduring her work calls as she's now working in her garden.

It's so effing annoying as we don't usually hear from them apart from their parties.
She can't seem to just speak at normal level... it needs to be at shouty level. She's quite unpleasant and is quite cruel to whoever she's talking to.
Makes us hate being in the garden but she's obviously allowed to do what she wants too.

Onemonkeyand3wisemen · 19/05/2024 21:31

noctilucentcloud · 19/05/2024 16:56

Some folk are loud, I can hear my neighbour half way up the road!

We have one of those we call him the air raid siren!!!! He likes to give a running commentary of what his plans are for the day as if you give a shit lol. I've started wearing my headphones to drown out the sound of his bellowing winey voice.

LumiB · 19/05/2024 21:28

OhYoko · 19/05/2024 20:46

We have a neighbour so loud and so close over the back that when he summons his Alexa, our kitchen one responds. I assume he's a bit deaf or something. Never seen him but fuck can I hear him all summer long.

Oh God my neighbour has an Alexa, one day she spent ages trying to get it to add up ...Alexander what's £11.95 plus £3.76...no response....

Alwxa what is eleven pounds and nintey five pence...on slo.mo voice

It couldn't understand her and she repeated it over 10 times. At this point I felt like shouting the answer, would of been quicker to use the calculator on her phone!!

Did give me a good laugh how she kept changing how she spoke

tovarisch · 19/05/2024 21:27

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listsandbudgets · 19/05/2024 21:26

My neighbours are tri lingual.. I've nonodea what they talk about in their garden but they understand every word we say in ours.. not fair!!

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 19/05/2024 21:23

I have the joy of listening to two dogs be encouraged to do the necessary at 11pm.

Miley1967 · 19/05/2024 21:12

We just overheard our neighbors saying that the wife fancies one of the next door neighbors. DH is now speculating whether it is him who is ' hot' or the seventy year old guy the other side or whether they are talking about our son or whether possibly someone else has moved in with the older guy ! Our speculation has dominated our whole evening dog walk !

Nail123 · 19/05/2024 21:11

We have it both sides, I enjoy hearing about their lives as I’d never be in on the conversation otherwise!

Taurusenergy · 19/05/2024 21:02

LauderSyme · 19/05/2024 20:48

I am frequently tempted but I don't want to embarrass him. It's hard to resist when he breaks into a stirring Bohemian Rhapsody though 😁

Oh mamma mia mamma mia mamma mia let me go

Would be funny tho 😂. You sing it girl 😂

Disturbia81 · 19/05/2024 20:51

It's one thing I don't like about summer.. hearing other people and knowing they can hear me.
I love my garden and being able to use it on warm days but I do love the silence and privacy of winter.

Theunamedcat · 19/05/2024 20:51

My neighbour used to take her private calls at the front of the house so the kids couldn't here her unfortunately I had a weird vent at the front I could hear everything I used to walk out the back and chat to the kids in the garden because it was embarrassing eventually I told her daughter I was avoiding eavesdropping and she moved away she wasn't exactly gracious about it either I mean I spent about a month avoiding listening in you don't need to act like I'm in the wrong here! (from what little I overheard she would have been slaughtered on aibu)

Katemax82 · 19/05/2024 20:50

SherlockHomies · 19/05/2024 15:55

I don't know why you sound so shocked?

There are racists everywhere unfortunately, the chances are we all have at least one racist neighbour.

Or parent

greenbeansrock · 19/05/2024 20:48

sugarrosepetal · 19/05/2024 20:09

Love this. People need to mind their own

packed train
we had a loud, detailed conversation

they really didn’t have much choice but to listen

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