Page 3 | To wonder why people seem to forget that if they're sitting talking in their gardens, WE CAN HEAR YOU!

Eeepsh · 2024-05-19T14:45:29+00:00

I'm sitting open mouthed listening to the personal details of the life of our next-door but one neighbour. Does she think no-one else might be sitting in their gardens on this gorgeous sunny day. And yesterday, I was waiting in the car with the windows open waiting to pick up DS1, and had to endure a racist rant from the man in the garden of a nearby house. incredible!

MrsSunshine2b · 20/05/2024 13:14

Booksandwine80 · 20/05/2024 13:12

Oh god yes. Every Sunday without fail we have to listen to our neighbour’s daughter performance parenting the grandchild 🙄shrieking, animal noises and general “me, me,me…..aren’t I a wonderful mother”😩🤮

Parenting your own child by having fun with them in a private space is not a "performance". You'd have to be completely narcissistic to assume it's for your benefit. Wind your neck in.

Booksandwine80 · 20/05/2024 13:12

Oh god yes. Every Sunday without fail we have to listen to our neighbour’s daughter performance parenting the grandchild 🙄shrieking, animal noises and general “me, me,me…..aren’t I a wonderful mother”😩🤮

MistyRoseBlue · 20/05/2024 13:10

Why didn't you say something to them ?

MrsSunshine2b · 20/05/2024 13:07

I think they would expect you to mind your own business and to have better things to do than stand around listening to their conversations, to be quite honest.

Fink · 20/05/2024 13:07

I feel hard done by. I can hear my NDN quite often, and it can be annoying, e.g. my bed is against a party wall and the noise occasionally keeps me up at night but they don't speak English so I can't earwig on any juicy gossip. It's the worst of both worlds!

1offnamechange · 20/05/2024 13:04

FluentRubyDog · 20/05/2024 12:35

You really do almost sound as if you're hinting at Dolores Umbridge being your expression guru. Come out with it - you think it's impossible to zone out noise or at least it's some superhuman power, but science behind acclimatisation proves you, at best, wrong. Sometimes we all need to pull up our big girl pants and learn to get along.

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how on earth does acclimatisation = blocking out noise?
I used to live in an area with sirens going off all the time - I might have got 'used' to it, but I still heard them, I couldn't just turn my ears off!
Baby used to cry a lot - sadly I didn't manage to acclimatise myself to stop hearing it no matter how often it happened.
Dog next door barking = yep wasn't magically less annoying the 100th time than the first!
If everyone could just 'zone out' of noises they didn't want to hear, noise complaints would be zero and headphone companies would go out of business.

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You really do almost sound as if you're hinting at Dolores Umbridge being your expression guru. Come out with it - you think it's impossible to zone out noise or at least it's some superhuman power, but science behind acclimatisation proves you, at best, wrong. Sometimes we all need to pull up our big girl pants and learn to get along.

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FluentRubyDog · 20/05/2024 11:56

Iwasafool · 20/05/2024 10:30

So you are relaxing on a sunlounger in your garden, nextdoor are talking at normal volume, how do you not hear them? Can you turn your ears off?

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Just don't pay attention? Like in any high density living area? I mean, people enjoying their garden have a right to talk at a normal volume.

Brawcolli · 20/05/2024 11:11

VeryHappyBunny · 20/05/2024 01:22

I realise I will be shot down in flames, but please explain the problem with "yeah all lives matter"? In what context was this said.

I was under the impression that all lives do matter equally - or am I wrong?

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If you realise you’ll be shot down in flames then I suspect you understand the problem with ‘all lives matter’ perfectly and just jumped at the chance to be obtuse

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FluentRubyDog · 19/05/2024 16:17

I'm cringing more at the fact you're obviously listening in on other people's conversations. I'd apply the "not my circus, not my monkeys" adage and move on with my life determined to reserve my nose for my business only.

So you are relaxing on a sunlounger in your garden, nextdoor are talking at normal volume, how do you not hear them? Can you turn your ears off?

Bromptotoo · 20/05/2024 10:20

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 19/05/2024 15:48

Two houses down? Presumably wouldn't expect YOU to hear them. Indeed unless they were shouting I wouldn't expect to hear them

Got a problem? Stick music on/headphones in rather than trying to police what private conversations people have on their private property

You'd hear my OH in that circumstance She has a loud voice and seems totally unable to moderate it.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 20/05/2024 10:17

Unashamed to say I used to be all ears during the odd blazing row next door. I was once straight on the email, agog to dh (working abroad at the time) - relating what I’d heard. ‘I’m not fucking well fucking anybody else, OK?? I’m fucking up to here - I’ve got no fucking money - ‘ etc.

All at super-volume.

The couple split and sold the house not long afterwards.

CharlotteBog · 20/05/2024 09:52

greenbeansrock · 19/05/2024 15:51

you have a racist neighbour?

I imagine most racists have neighbours. Racists walk among us, you know.

VeryHappyBunny · 20/05/2024 09:40

KikiShaLeeBopDeBopBop · 20/05/2024 07:26

Can you take this de-rail to a new thread, please

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I don't even know what your original post means!!!!!!!!!!!

VeryHappyBunny · 20/05/2024 09:27

Whycantiwinmillionsandsquillions · 20/05/2024 07:54

Ok I’ll spell it out.
He was a white middle aged man. Yes wearing his sports attire ( whilst showing no visible signs of being heavily into fitness) complaining about all the fuss the Black Lives Matter campaign was attracting.
Dd didn’t want to listen to him telling the world he needed the toilet or his racist views.

Thank you

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Doesn't mean it included screaming matches.

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 20/05/2024 08:32

It obviously isn't "listening in". Some people on this thread just love a spite session. You know which ones. Grow up. It isn't school.

And READ the post.

OP said it was a neighbour two doors away.

She said she was in the car with the window open. (On a warm sunny day in most places)

She did nothing wrong.

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Allthehorsesintheworld · 20/05/2024 08:28

Aydel · 20/05/2024 07:22

A bit different, but I live in Central Europe, in a city that attracts a lot of tourists. I was on the train yesterday evening, coming back from visiting a friend. The train was quite empty and the British couple across the aisle from me were discussing whether they thought I was Czech or Hungarian, or possibly a Ukrainian refugee. They discussed my weight (not thin enough to be Ukrainian apparently), my colouring, hair, what I was wearing. I leaned over eventually and said “Do you mind? And are you not aware that most people here speak English?” They shut up after that and were silent for the rest of the journey.

Omg that is awful. Glad you put them down.

Allthehorsesintheworld · 20/05/2024 08:25

I was waiting in a hospital department last week. 2 staff sat at a desk with PC terminal less than 8ft away were discussing test results. Obviously thought I wouldn’t understand or couldn’t hear. Yes I did and yes I could.