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I walked in on my boyfriends friend watching adult content

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Xmasvibes · 19/05/2024 12:13

Hi, I have been with my current partner for 4 years. His best friend of 9 years has been in a 2 year relationship but they argue and break up every single weekend.

this results in his friend being parked outside my house, sometimes in the early hours of the next day. I told my partner I do not want to get involved with his friend and his girlfriends arguments as every single time I reply to her messages I just get dragged into the drama.

his girlfriend will hound my phone asking for his whereabouts ect voice note after voice note and call my phone. Basically they are both ALOT at times. But don’t get me wrong we do get on at times.

i allowed my partner have his friend stay at my house last night on the sofa . We all had a little drink, as I walked past his friend he put his arms around my waist not holding me but he placed his hands there. I thought it was a bit weird but I just chose to ignore it.

I woke up this morning, I went downstairs to get a drink and my kitchen is connected to my living room so no choice but to go into the living room. His friend was asleep but porn hub was on the tv. I immediately went to tell my partner but he just laughed it off. I just find that weird, idk but my boyfriend doesn’t see it as a problem. Am I overacting ?? We are all 25 years old

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Testina · 19/05/2024 13:50

You are so programmed to let men behave inappropriately, that you actually title your thread about the porn and not the unwanted touching! Which I think is worse, but both are bad. You don’t watch porn in someone else’s house and you sure as fuck don’t leave it running. But you absolutely do not touch a woman without her permission.
I would not have him stay in my house, and I would block his girlfriend’s number too.

JMSA · 19/05/2024 13:32

You could have come downstairs any minute, and he didn't care if you caught him.

Ialwaysdomybest · 19/05/2024 13:03

Oh that is disgusting on every level.
I certainly wouldn't want him ever staying in my home again and given what you've said about being dragged into the relationship problems of him and his girlfriend I would be having a serious conversation with your boyfriend about distancing yourselves from the pair of them.
I think the fact your partner laughed and didnt see the porn as a problem is very concerning. Sounds as though his friend is more important to him than your feelings and the disrespect his friend has shown in your home.

jeaux90 · 19/05/2024 12:57

Gross, I would not have anyone in the house that watches porn in it, specifically pornhub which has been proven to have videos of trafficked women and girls being raped.

Also block the girlfriend or at least mute her.

BranchGold · 19/05/2024 12:52

Yuck.

Is it your home or you share it jointly with your boyfriend?

AuContraire · 19/05/2024 12:50

Yes, it's weird. Imagine getting yourself off in the public room of someone's house.

It's so disrespectful, and I can tell from what you have said that he has a problem with both his self-control and also women's boundaries.

Awful man. No wonder his girlfriend struggles, but she needs to walk away.

Allfur · 19/05/2024 12:50

Thats massively disrespectful, what a dick

Hermittrismegistus · 19/05/2024 12:49

I hope you've put your sofa covers in the wash!

Arewethebadguys · 19/05/2024 12:46

Weird AF. There's an expectation in my house that guests don't watch porn/enjoy their own body in my living room! I wouldn't let that creep stay over at my house again and I'm fairly liberal when it comes to most things.

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