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To think there needs to be a public inquiry into child development

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MaryMaryVeryContrary · 19/05/2024 11:53

It really seems like we have a looming societal crisis in terms of child development and therefore the quality of the public in 10-20 years time. Experienced teachers across the board seem to be reporting an overwhelming increase in delayed, aggressive and disruptive children. I’m extremely worried about how this will impact society when they become adults - it seems (as a guess) at least a tenth of children will be incapable of work of any kind, and many more will need copious amounts of support to live any kind of responsible life.

AIBU to think we need an urgent public inquiry into this and what is going on? It seems to be the elephant in the room and anybody who tries to discuss it is shouted down.

I’m sure some of it is due to cuts in services but surely that can’t account for it all - it’s very sudden and extremely alarming.

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Seeline · 19/05/2024 12:26

I think some decent parenting wouldn't go amiss.
When out and about there seems to be very little parenting and a lot of screens.
Babies being pushed in prams with adult staring at a screen or bellowing a one sided phone conversation.
On public transport with a screen propped up in front of them in a buggy, or in cafés with screen propped up in the table.
Running around in the park causing chaos with carer sat oblivious scrolling on phone
There appears to be very little human interaction going on, and even less acknowledgement of other people and how they and their child's behaviour may be impacting others.

Kitkatfiend31 · 19/05/2024 12:25

YANBU The decline in children's mental health and number of children not attending school. is huge. Parenting, academic pressure, screens? Who knows what the main cause is but a formal review would be a great start.

Seashor · 19/05/2024 12:24

I’ve got my own theories too. Nothing proven but having been in the education sector for a very long time I’ve seen a shift in parenting, families, housing, work ethic, blame culture, diet, exercise, SEN provision, play and language and none of it is a healthy mix.

TeenDivided · 19/05/2024 12:24

School doesn't suit all children.
A good number of the poorly behaved children will do just fine when out of the school environment doing something less stressful for them.

Lexie365 · 19/05/2024 12:24

I completely agree.

Ohgollymolly · 19/05/2024 12:23

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stayathomer · 19/05/2024 12:19

BusyCM
I don't see much disruptive behaviour, I've been a cm for 15 years and have my own teens....most children are polite, well behaved, kind, engaged.... most of the time.
Well you’re very lucky, in my son’s school there’s someone suspended weakly, regular stories of pupils telling the teachers to eff off, breaking things, messing with dangerous equipment (eg woodwork saws, setting fires with Bunsen burners). My son doesn’t go to the bathroom in his school or use the lockers. And I hear it everywhere. And this is a ‘good’ school!!! I sometimes feel sorry for the kids sometimes though, son will say they’re nice but just mess, it’s like they can’t help it. I always think ‘at what point did it get to this for them and how will their story go’

ps yes I know that sounds weird and sappy, but my son would say if they were just assholes!!!

mitogoshi · 19/05/2024 12:18

I agree op that there is an issue, I have my own completely unproven theory as to why but people won't like it - however my friend who a child development specialist working for camhs completely agrees with me - it's screens, not just for the youngsters but their caregivers ignoring them for too much of the time. She also thinks young children do too many organised activities and not enough free play in the 1-4 age group. Her dc are teens, one neurodiverse, so she does understand that side but she isn't convinced that congenital neurodivergence is the who story, she thinks we are requiring toddlers brains, I'm not necessarily convinced but something is afoot

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Cluborange666 · 19/05/2024 12:08

I agree. I think it’s a mix of overworked parents (capitalism) and a really unchildfriendly education system (I work in education). Also very poor mental health services.

BusyCM · 19/05/2024 12:08

I don't see much disruptive behaviour, I've been a cm for 15 years and have my own teens....most children are polite, well behaved, kind, engaged.... most of the time.

The odd child with 'problems' either goes on to have an ND diagnosis or has a disruptive home life with ineffective parenting. I wouldn't say this has particularly increased though.

There is a very passive style of parenting at the moment which gives parents more trouble in the long term but the children react well to my routine, boundaries and behaviour modelling so I don't get involved, they will soon realise!

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 19/05/2024 12:07

PerfectTravelTote · 19/05/2024 12:05

How are you defining the "quality of the public"?

An overall view of health, prosperity, productivity and safety.

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PerfectTravelTote · 19/05/2024 12:05

How are you defining the "quality of the public"?

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 19/05/2024 12:02

There has been a huge rise in speech delays, children starting school unable to do basic things, classroom aggression, school non attendance, severe mental health problems, anxiety…

Reported uniformly by almost all teachers, early years workers as well as studies and articles (you can have a peruse).

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WhyDoesItAlways · 19/05/2024 11:59

WhyDoesItAlways · 19/05/2024 11:57

There seems to be a lot of anecdotal evidence and made to stats in your OP. Can you back up your assertions with any sourced data?

Sorry typo - made up stats* What makes you think 1 in 10 won't be able to work?

WhyDoesItAlways · 19/05/2024 11:57

There seems to be a lot of anecdotal evidence and made to stats in your OP. Can you back up your assertions with any sourced data?

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