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To not allow DS to have the colour floor he wants?

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Nc4ThisObvi · 19/05/2024 06:14

DS is 19, his room needs new flooring.
Going to replace old carpet with laminate. Asked him to have a look on website and out of all the options he chose the 1 thing I hate, grey laminate 😂
I hate grey. I hate grey laminate even more.

He's not contributing to it financially.

I've shown him some other slightly less grey shades, more wood tone with grey but he's not having it.

Its a large room and will cost over £500

AIBU?

YABU - It's his room let him choose
YANBU - It's our house and you're paying, let him choose a different shade

To not allow DS to have the colour floor he wants?
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Strictlymad · 19/05/2024 07:25

No it to have a go op, we’ve all done it, but it’s hard when you ask someone to choose with no guidance, they pick, then you say no! 😬 either he can pick which he has- or you say it’s one of xyz I’ve narrowed down which one? Now it’s a sticky situation! Fwiw we have ash I think laminate and it’s grey ish (I don’t want orange brown lol) but still looks like wood

Willmafrockfit · 19/05/2024 07:21

how about a white lie, that it is it not available
or a promise that he can have grey walls or a grey rug?

BendingSpoons · 19/05/2024 07:20

Tell him it needs to be a compromise option. It's a big chunk of money for something that will hopefully last years. If he really won't budge, can you just shelve the discussion for a bit and one of you might feel differently?

StripeyDeckchair · 19/05/2024 07:18

I absolutely hate grey laminate.
It looks like it's dirty all the time and sucks all the colour from the space.

The grey trend is bloody awful and the sooner its over the better. Grey flooring will date very quickly.

I'm looking at perfectly lovely, pristine condition houses that are decorated top to toe grey & they are so depressing. I'd have to redecorate throughout but if I factor that into the price I'm unreasonable.

Catsmere · 19/05/2024 06:33

For what it's worth (nothing, I know 😄) that's a nice colour, OP!

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 19/05/2024 06:32

Nc4ThisObvi · 19/05/2024 06:20

He is appreciative! He's a good lad.
Definitely so but he's just adamant that's the colour he wants.

Which is annoying me since when we were originally going to have carpet down he said he didn't want a grey carpet but brown.

But now he won't have brown/natural laminate but grey 😂

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Fair enough! But there’s a big difference between, for instance, him choosing a wall colour you don’t like which can be painted over, and expensive permanent flooring. As someone suggested a rug seems like a compromise.

HumanbyDesign · 19/05/2024 06:32

Well I put YABU but purely because you asked him to choose what he wanted with no provisos and have then told him no! 😂

I would have told him the laminate colour - I too absolutely Hate grey laminate - and asked him to choose a rug....

Maybe apologise for misleading him and do the above?!

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Nc4ThisObvi · 19/05/2024 06:29

Willmafrockfit · 19/05/2024 06:27

how much to carpet the room?

The carpet was quoted 450, so I'd rather have laminate for the same price.

I've said this as a comprise?

To not allow DS to have the colour floor he wants?
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Willmafrockfit · 19/05/2024 06:27

how much to carpet the room?

CheshireDing · 19/05/2024 06:24

Maybe just go back to a carpet then ?

WelshWannabe · 19/05/2024 06:23

I would have chosen 3 options I liked, then given him the choice out of those 3.

Tell him, you're vetoing the grey, and to pick one of these instead.

Catsmere · 19/05/2024 06:22

Suggest if he wants his own colour, he buy a rug? Does he have enough money for that?

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Nc4ThisObvi · 19/05/2024 06:21

Catsmere · 19/05/2024 06:20

He's 19, how long will he be living at home anyway? If he's not paying, he should have the final say. There needs to e a compromise - a colour neither of you hates, at least!

Probably a long time the way housing is these days!

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Catsmere · 19/05/2024 06:20

He's 19, how long will he be living at home anyway? If he's not paying, he should have the final say. There needs to e a compromise - a colour neither of you hates, at least!

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Nc4ThisObvi · 19/05/2024 06:20

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 19/05/2024 06:17

Your house, you’re paying, you choose. A tiny bit of appreciation from him for new flooring wouldn’t go amiss.

He is appreciative! He's a good lad.
Definitely so but he's just adamant that's the colour he wants.

Which is annoying me since when we were originally going to have carpet down he said he didn't want a grey carpet but brown.

But now he won't have brown/natural laminate but grey 😂

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AGodawfulsmallaffair · 19/05/2024 06:17

Your house, you’re paying, you choose. A tiny bit of appreciation from him for new flooring wouldn’t go amiss.

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