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To not allow DS to have the colour floor he wants?

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Nc4ThisObvi · 19/05/2024 06:14

DS is 19, his room needs new flooring.
Going to replace old carpet with laminate. Asked him to have a look on website and out of all the options he chose the 1 thing I hate, grey laminate 😂
I hate grey. I hate grey laminate even more.

He's not contributing to it financially.

I've shown him some other slightly less grey shades, more wood tone with grey but he's not having it.

Its a large room and will cost over £500

AIBU?

YABU - It's his room let him choose
YANBU - It's our house and you're paying, let him choose a different shade

To not allow DS to have the colour floor he wants?
OP posts:
AgnesX · 19/05/2024 08:39

It's an easy win. I remember my mum allowing me to choose the decor in my bedroom.

( My dad was indifferent and went with the flow).

fieldsofbutterflies · 19/05/2024 08:39

I wouldn't put any kind of laminate flooring down in a bedroom - it's so noisy.

Blarn · 19/05/2024 08:36

Is it an upstairs bedroom? The laminate floor will mean it's a lot noisier downstairs with no carpet to soften sounds.

Sharptonguedwoman · 19/05/2024 08:35

I think you have to give in. Sorry but I do. Give your boy the laminate he wants and when he's lefty home buy a huge colourful rug.

Morechocmorechoc · 19/05/2024 08:33

Laminate in a bedroom....carpet is so much warmer. He is 19 so won't necessarily be there much longer so you have to like it too

AmiShitsaline · 19/05/2024 08:32

I wouldn’t replace until he moves out, he can have a rug

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 19/05/2024 08:32

I'd let him pick to be honest. If he is going to be there for the foreseeable future then why not. It wouldn't bother me what my kids bedroom looked like.

fridaynight1 · 19/05/2024 08:28

Choosing a colour from an online picture is a sure way of ending up with something totally different .
If you want a colour you can both agree on you need to get samples and see what the colour looks like in the room.
Be sure to only show him the samples you would be happy with. That way he thinks he’s chosen the floor but you have really .

ohthejoys21 · 19/05/2024 08:27

pizzaHeart · 19/05/2024 08:25

You gave him free choice and now you are going back on it, it’s not fair.
I would try to achieve a compromise but softly and with respect not from the point “I’m paying” .

^^This. He knows you're paying, no need to mention that.

pizzaHeart · 19/05/2024 08:25

You gave him free choice and now you are going back on it, it’s not fair.
I would try to achieve a compromise but softly and with respect not from the point “I’m paying” .

LoveSeptember · 19/05/2024 08:18

I like the one you posted as a compromise (hate the grey!) . He can choose the paint and soft furnishings.

Spirallingdownwards · 19/05/2024 08:17

Same as the other voter because you asked him to choose and then said no.

I would have probably not even asked for this item but presented your choice as his new floor and what paint/bedding did he want to go with it.

Explain you need something more neutral that will go with future changes of decor so it needs to be the wood with the hint of grey rather than straight grey

trampoline123 · 19/05/2024 08:14

I'd personally give him a choice out of a few options you like.

It would be a no on the grey from me.

Catsmere · 19/05/2024 08:12

Soontobe60 · 19/05/2024 07:58

Actually, I wouldn’t even put laminate down in a bedroom! It’s cold underfoot in winter and is very noisy. Carpets don’t need to be so expensive - just get a cheap one for now and once he moves out, have the flooring of your dreams!

I agree. My last place was a granny flat in Queensland, all laminate flooring, nice colour but bloody awful stuff to walk on. I ended up getting colourful rugs. I can't imagine a hard floor in a bedroom in Britain! 🥶

Catsmere · 19/05/2024 08:08

StripeyDeckchair · 19/05/2024 07:18

I absolutely hate grey laminate.
It looks like it's dirty all the time and sucks all the colour from the space.

The grey trend is bloody awful and the sooner its over the better. Grey flooring will date very quickly.

I'm looking at perfectly lovely, pristine condition houses that are decorated top to toe grey & they are so depressing. I'd have to redecorate throughout but if I factor that into the price I'm unreasonable.

I so agree! I'm in a rental unit (retirement village) that has white walls and godawful grey carpet. It's low pile, so easy to keep clean, but that's all it's got going for it. It's so dull. Only grey flooring I've ever liked was the carpet in one childhood home, probably 1960s Axminster, that had clusters of roses scattered on it.

Soontobe60 · 19/05/2024 07:58

Actually, I wouldn’t even put laminate down in a bedroom! It’s cold underfoot in winter and is very noisy. Carpets don’t need to be so expensive - just get a cheap one for now and once he moves out, have the flooring of your dreams!

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 19/05/2024 07:56

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 19/05/2024 06:17

Your house, you’re paying, you choose. A tiny bit of appreciation from him for new flooring wouldn’t go amiss.

This.

Your house, your money, your rules.

GalileoHumpkins · 19/05/2024 07:55

Why did you ask him to choose if you don't want to let him have what he wants? You should have just made the decision yourself.

NewLifter · 19/05/2024 07:52

You told him to choose, so let him choose. How often really will you even see it?

MumChp · 19/05/2024 07:51

Why did you ask if he can't choose?

I wouldn't ask. I prefer same floors in different rooms.

GrumpyPanda · 19/05/2024 07:45

Team son. I hate hate hate these laminate fake woods, plus it's just too cold underfoot. But if you want to distract him from it, have you also looked at linoleum? Might come out quite similar in price, and there's some quite stunning colors available these days.

Yellowhammer09 · 19/05/2024 07:40

He can paint the walls and buy a rug, but no way would I let my child choose flooring in my house that I hated. I wouldn't even entertain
compromising, OP 😆

qwertyqwertyqwertyqwerty · 19/05/2024 07:38

I think tell him you should never have given an open option because you really don't want the grey, you want a wood colour. Explain you have to have one eye on resale of the house and the long term.

But agree with the posters above - don't give a free choice in future if you then won't accept the answer.

AgentJohnson · 19/05/2024 07:37

If he’s going to be living in that room for the foreseeable, then let him have his grey floor. DD’s room has way too much furniture in it but she’s 17 but it’s her room and I don’t have to live in it.

autumn1610 · 19/05/2024 07:33

If he’s adamant on Grey he pays for it. That would be my take

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