Baked 23 cookies, dh ate 8 of them

Well, not in any convincing way; this is from the OP:

Only apologised when I called him out for it. Ugh.

But I should clarify that the post I originally quoted of @Crepester was not in fact her first post. It was just the first one of hers that had caught my eye. She’d already had quite a few unsupportive things to say by then 😂

Anyway I think DH did apologise.

@Crepester

I see cookie gate is still rolling on 👀😂

Bit rich seeing as you’re one of the main reasons it’s still rolling on 😂

To be clear , I did also state husband baking them is an option too

To be clear, you didn’t originally state this. And your earnest participation in this thread, as you’ve pointed out repeatedly, was triggered by my quoting you early on - but I was quoting your first, breezy and irritating suggestion that OP just crack on and make more because it’s soooo not a bit deal or something. So you’re essentially back-tracking here.

The heart of this matter is very simple; it turns on that crucial issue of whether someone (in this case OP) is justified in being annoyed at someone (her DH) inconveniencing her by being greedy. Doesn’t matter how small the irritation- the principle is there. Also doesn’t matter how easy it is for you to bake more cookies (even if it’s soooooo easy). (Is it still easy if you’ve run out of time or you’ve just used the last of the butter/sugar/whatever? I’m guessing so).

He ate 1/3 of the baking intended for others. Yanbu it's rude he should have asked!

I see cookie gate is still rolling on 👀😂

I did say it's not a big deal

glad you’ve acknowledged that was said…@27Bumblebees

, breezily dismissing my irritation as if baking endlessly for my dh is the answer wasn't exactly helpful- I'm a working mum of 3, I don't have that kind of time!

To be clear , I did also state husband baking them is an option too if someone doesn’t like baking another batch. For me , it wouldn’t be an issue at all but I realise everyone is different - hence I’d proposed a couple of solutions of what I might do.

Anyway this has put me in the mood for some quick baking before work 🍪😅I use a super simple recipe from bbc food.( Search bbc oat freezer cookies if you’re interested 😆)

But you know you’re missing the actual point, right?

Spinach pies are not like sweet biscuits 🍪!
Most men would not be tempted by spinach in the same way.
Predation of sweet biscuits 🍪 is much more common.

‘Just bake some more’ I was up till midnight last night finishing baking some spinach pies I make for my work lunches. If Dh decided to eat half of them I wouldn’t be responsible for the consequences.

ok legally I would be, but morally - nuh uh.

Sorted. Missingpop can take ‘some sodding cake’ as well. I think we have ourselves a solution!

Clearly a pilfering cheat! Obviously not the recipe for a happy relationship. Are you feeding him enough anyway? It might be a cry for help. Get out now and board the doors up (turn the oven off first though!). Go somewhere safe where you can bake in safety until you think you’re ready to try again and take the little ones too (at least those that are left).

Yes, maybe all the 'just bake some more' posters can take OP's address and send some cookies to her husband.

@Missingpop

you are clearly happy to spend your life in the kitchen baking for your husband. Op isn’t. I’m not either… I’d rather be out with my mates drinking cocktails

There are some arse-achingly long boring posts on here which are the epitome of ‘bat shittery’. I’m laughing my head off but I am with you all the way, OP. It’s simple. One person in a family of 5 makes cookies. One of the 5 is a greedy bastard and eats a third of them. Simples. 🍪

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I don’t think the idea is that the total number baked has to be cleanly divisible by the number of people in the house.

The main purpose was lunchboxes: 3 children, 5 days… 15 cookies. And then the rest shared out in a roughly fair way. It’s not rocket science.

Let’s see what we think:

Yep, and when the cookies are baked for a specific purpose (kids' lunchboxes).

23 seems an odd number for 5 people tbh

But 2Old2Tango was talking about greediness, which is not quite the same as ‘how much you can manage’.

There’s a bit of a misunderstanding running through this thread I think. To me it’s not about whether it’s overindulgent or overeating to have 8 cookies in 2 hours, it’s whether it’s greedy and selfish to have 8 out of 23 when there’s another adult and 3 kids in the family.

You really think if a man had baked cookies for kids lunchboxes and his wife ate a third of them that people wouldn't eviscerate his wife?

You don’t know it. You think it. I don’t agree. So where do we go from here? I guess you’d need some evidence 🤷‍♀️

We do know that.
Sometimes people say "if a man posted" and say something far fetched 😂but this isn't far fetched at all and trying to pretend otherwise is disingenuous.

My Ds could've eaten far more in one sitting

You forgot a few other judgements of behaviour that MN posters excel at identifying : abusive ( can on occasion look just like being unkind, or even just not getting on, to the uninitiated).

Passive- aggressive ( some dish this out so regularly that they just refer to it as “pass-agg”) ( again requires a trained eye or can look like just avoiding conflict or preferring not to be outright rude. I guess the latter two ( being rude and liking conflict) are examples of “ agg-agg” which would appear to be a preferable behaviour, especially as it can wear its cloak of respectability: “ having boundaries.”

Finally gaslighting, which has overflowed its original use and now means just “ telling a lie.” It can include the poster simply not wanting to believe what the “ gaslighter” is saying.