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Embarrassing crush on one of the dads

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Cumbrianlassie · 18/05/2024 19:20

I’ve got a crush on one of the school run dads. His child is in my son’s class and they’re friends.
He always talks to me on the playground. We easily chat and to be honest he’s the only one who really does engage with me. Also at other events like parties and extra curricular stuff. I feel most comfortable speaking to him over the other parents, especially mums.
He’s actually very good looking too and definitely my type 😳
I feel like a school girl.

He and his wife are very much in love from what I can see and a happy little family.

I just need to get over this , and wondering if I’m alone, has anyone had similar? So embarrassed!

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Cumbrianlassie · 18/05/2024 20:35

I definitely won’t be giving any indication. I can’t help a crush. I’m hoping it’s just a passing phase , soon to be over!

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Roundroundthegarden · 18/05/2024 20:35

bossybloss · 18/05/2024 20:26

Can I just warn you that the other parents will have noticed! I would nip this in the bud as your child is at school for many years!!!!

This. You most definitely have let it slip which is embarrassing for you. Please respect his wife and most importantly your child who this would be awful for if you acted on it.

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Cumbrianlassie · 18/05/2024 20:34

No that wasn’t me on the other post.

I just don’t know how to avoid without being rude. I’m going to try and say hello, be pleasant but then rush off. I just don’t want to be stand off ish as our kids are friends too.

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VelvetTurtle · 18/05/2024 20:32

Have you posted this twice as there is another post exactly the same on relationships, if so you are starting to sound a bit obsessed. No this has never happened to me but none of the dads at my kids school are attractive (to me)

Muthaofcats · 18/05/2024 20:31

Yes sounds super embarrassing. Let’s hope you don’t give any indication; I bet he’d be freaked out and feel super uncomfortable that his friendliness has been taken this way and you’ll get a horrible reputation which will really affect your child. Pull yourself together and avoid if you have to.

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Cumbrianlassie · 18/05/2024 20:27

@bossybloss Noticed what? We just chat on the school playground and occasionally at parties.

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bossybloss · 18/05/2024 20:27

…I mean noticed he is the only one who engages with you .

DirtyCheeseBurger · 18/05/2024 20:27

You just have to make sure you never show it and never act on it.

bossybloss · 18/05/2024 20:26

Can I just warn you that the other parents will have noticed! I would nip this in the bud as your child is at school for many years!!!!

IncognitoUsername · 18/05/2024 20:24

The thing about a crush is that they just happen. Years ago I had a crush on my boss. He never knew and it passed after a while. I was at a very low point in my life then and he was supportive. He was married so I knew nothing could come of it.
As long as it stays a secret crush and you don’t start finding reasons to be alone with him or thinking it could be something more then there’s no harm in it.

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Cumbrianlassie · 18/05/2024 20:17

Anyone? Or am I alone in my embarrassment 😂

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