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Embarrassing crush on one of the dads

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Cumbrianlassie · 18/05/2024 19:20

I’ve got a crush on one of the school run dads. His child is in my son’s class and they’re friends.
He always talks to me on the playground. We easily chat and to be honest he’s the only one who really does engage with me. Also at other events like parties and extra curricular stuff. I feel most comfortable speaking to him over the other parents, especially mums.
He’s actually very good looking too and definitely my type 😳
I feel like a school girl.

He and his wife are very much in love from what I can see and a happy little family.

I just need to get over this , and wondering if I’m alone, has anyone had similar? So embarrassed!

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Cumbrianlassie · 18/05/2024 21:57

No, I don’t think he’d be interested in me anyway. His wife is beautiful and has a great body (not in a weird way).
I just meant I wouldn’t even consider the idea of taking it further, although it would never happen.

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0tterish · 18/05/2024 21:51

You are all bonkers

AnneLovesGilbert · 18/05/2024 21:50

TeaandScandal · 18/05/2024 21:47

No way you’re going to break up his family?
That’s nice of you…. You seem pretty certain he’s there for the taking?

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Indeed.

AnneLovesGilbert · 18/05/2024 21:50

0tterish · 18/05/2024 21:49

Why is everyone being so horrible?! We all have crushes! She said she's not going to do anything and wants to stop the feelings, I've certainly been there.

We don’t.

0tterish · 18/05/2024 21:49

Why is everyone being so horrible?! We all have crushes! She said she's not going to do anything and wants to stop the feelings, I've certainly been there.

TeaandScandal · 18/05/2024 21:47

Cumbrianlassie · 18/05/2024 20:38

I’m not going to act on anything, it’s the absolute last thing I’d do. No way am I going to break up a family. They’re very much in love as far as I can see.
I think I’m just having a silly crush.

No way you’re going to break up his family?
That’s nice of you…. You seem pretty certain he’s there for the taking?

Sunshineclouds11 · 18/05/2024 21:43

Crushes happen! On married men or not!

Still chat op, would be weird if you just stopped all of a sudden.

You know not to act on it and you'll soon get over him 😅

I was crushing on a man who I was with in my 20s and I saw a picture of him on Facebook and something put me off. You need to find something you don't like about him.

bossybloss · 18/05/2024 21:41

FuckOffTom · 18/05/2024 21:03

No need to be nasty to the OP here I don’t think. You can’t help a crush and she clearly wishes she didn’t feel that way and doesn’t want to do anything about it

To be fair…. I think people are trying to be helpful.

RenoDakota · 18/05/2024 21:35

This is a wind up.

Blahdymcblahdyface · 18/05/2024 21:32

So you’re a single mum making eyes at another woman’s husband. Grow up and stop that nonsense

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Cumbrianlassie · 18/05/2024 21:27

@LittleMonks11 Not at the moment why?

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LittleMonks11 · 18/05/2024 21:27

Do you have a partner?

Theothername · 18/05/2024 21:12

Crushes come out of nowhere but you should do what you can to pour some cold water on it, especially when dc could be collateral damage.

Focus on something small you don’t like, or picture him farting, picking his nose or cutting his toenails. And lean in to a celebrity crush with a Netflix binge to take the edge off.

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Cumbrianlassie · 18/05/2024 21:09

I certainly wouldn’t act on it, it would be totally immoral and ridiculous.
It is nice to have someone to chat to on the school run anyway. I just need to try my best to rid myself of this silly crush l.

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Didimum · 18/05/2024 21:07

OneLemonOrca · 18/05/2024 20:53

I hope the wife notices looks you up and down, links arms with her husband, hair flips and walks away with him and their children in their happy marriage with neither looking back

Who pissed in your cornflakes this morning?

FuckOffTom · 18/05/2024 21:03

No need to be nasty to the OP here I don’t think. You can’t help a crush and she clearly wishes she didn’t feel that way and doesn’t want to do anything about it

Mumofmarauders · 18/05/2024 21:01

OneLemonOrca · 18/05/2024 20:53

I hope the wife notices looks you up and down, links arms with her husband, hair flips and walks away with him and their children in their happy marriage with neither looking back

But surely that would be really nasty when the OP hasn't done anything to indicate (and in fact doesn't want to) that she would ever think of acting on the crush?

OneLemonOrca · 18/05/2024 20:53

I hope the wife notices looks you up and down, links arms with her husband, hair flips and walks away with him and their children in their happy marriage with neither looking back

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Cumbrianlassie · 18/05/2024 20:48

Yes the parties are kids parties!

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bossybloss · 18/05/2024 20:46

I am assuming the parties are kids parties and you don’t socialise with him without the children !

bossybloss · 18/05/2024 20:45

Cumbrianlassie · 18/05/2024 20:27

@bossybloss Noticed what? We just chat on the school playground and occasionally at parties.

They will have noticed that he is the only one “who really does engage “ with you ….. your words!! You are flattered and now have a crush on him ( your words).

Taurusenergy · 18/05/2024 20:40

Theres no harm in a crush, you don't need to ignore him he will wonder what's up and that would be more awkward

Long as you don't act on it one way you could try getting over him is picture him having a poo or scratching his balls lol I'm trying here 😂 joking aside it'll probably pass soon enough

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Cumbrianlassie · 18/05/2024 20:38

I’m not going to act on anything, it’s the absolute last thing I’d do. No way am I going to break up a family. They’re very much in love as far as I can see.
I think I’m just having a silly crush.

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takemeawayagain · 18/05/2024 20:37

There's no problem chatting to him at all, it'll look much weirder if you suddenly start looking uncomfortable and rushing off every time he comes along. Just treat him like you'd treat anyone else and it'll be fine. The other mums probably haven't even noticed.

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Cumbrianlassie · 18/05/2024 20:36

@Roundroundthegarden

Let what slip? We just talk on the playground for 5 mins - I think he feels awkward maybe around the other parents or feels he doesn’t know them well I’m guessing? And just says hello and a brief chat because we’re both standing there.

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