Embarrassing crush on one of the dads

Things like this usually occur when we are lonely. Maybe think about joining a meet up group in your area or join a group in something that interests you.
I think your feelings will dampen down when you start building connections with other people

If you made the same level of effort with the women as you are with this man, I'd be very surprised if no one would engage with you. Women who use being ignored by other women as an excuse to flirt with men are.. well...making excuses.

I think this was maybe something you should have kept to yourself . Nothing wrong with fancying someone but you are going to get comments that won’t be great .

Hes a married man , that’s the end of the story , no need to even think anymore of it . Be very careful to not make it obvious .

Exactly everyone has crushes!! It's human! I know my husband has had crushes.. it's like a fantasy and it's exciting. It's another thing to act on it... honestly I feel like a teenager lol I can't wait to see him at daycare 😂

ffs I have had crushes and that’s all they have been. I should imagine my husband has had them as well because we are human. I don’t buy into the notion that you suddenly stop finding other people attractive when you get married.

the other parents won’t have noticed op they have other things to worry about. Ignore the batshittery on here. Most of you who are condemning the op have a word with yourself. Having a crush is not the same as taking someone’s husband away.

OP its just a bit of escapism, you are allowing yourself to re-experience that thrill and excitement of the early stages of romance not because you actually really want this guy but because it offers a bit of relief from the daily grind, stressful situations and the fact that he is attractive and nice to you makes him the perfect image for your fantasies.

However you don't really know him and you aren't free to know each other in that way. He is just a man no matter how nice he seems I guarantee his wife could tell you things about him that would put you off him!

A bit of escapist fantasy is harmless as long as we know it is just baseless fantasy and that we don't let it take over our minds. If you find yourself thinking about him too often then try some mindfulness meditation instead.

girl!!! I found your post on Google and I am in the same situation. I have a mega crush on this dad and we're both taken... it never happened to me in 10 years and this guy is just really my type and he's always looking at me and smiling when I go pick up my kid at Daycare and the attraction is there and mutual. I'm can't stop thinking about him it's really intense... I just want to forget about it but it literally consumes my mind everyday... ughhhh what are the updates on your side?

Op I’m so sorry that you’re getting a hard time on here. Some people seem to be incapable of thinking in any way other than in black and white - a real lack of emotional intelligence that seems to be all over social media these days. I’m sure they think they’ve never had a bad thought or said a nasty thing in their lives and are whiter than white themselves. But having seen their complete lack of empathy in action on here I think they’re sadly mistaken.

Anyway, a crush is a crush. You’re human, these things happen. Keep it to yourself, let it fade, remain friendly but a little detached and don’t encourage the friendship to go any further. I hope you get some good empathic advice on here x

This happened to me, and the other post the PP was referring to could well have been mine.
Difference is I am married, he was single.

Not sure how he felt about me, but he was always respectful of my situation and platonic boundaries, was friendly with DH too and whatever the case I would never ever have gone there, as I have a happy life with a lovely husband and obviously it's morally wrong.

It all peaked a couple of months ago for me after he started putting a kiss on texts- i accientally did it once then he did it back having never done so before- which I guess made me wonder if there was something more on his side.That was around the time I wrote the post pn here, then I just kept thinking about him for awhile often, which i felt very guilty about, but it has really faded off recently.I don't see or contact him much anymore which probably helps things, as our kids friendship has fizzled out quite abit, and we don't collect on the same days so never see him at school.

I think i just liked the buzz of someone who i found attractive giving me attention...could that be the same for you? I think as mums we can often forget about still being ourselves too, not just a mum, so it's exciting and a confidence boost to feel like someone fanciable might have a crush on you back, even if you know you'd never take it further.
And i guess that would be even more so for someone who is single and available.

I appreciate it must feel harder as you aren't in a relationship,but give it time, pull back abit, and like my situation I'm sure it will pass for you too.
If you meet up with him for playdates etc, maybe see if the wife can come too and you may become friendly which might help you get over it.That's what I did with getting my DH to join in the playdates...made it much easier to suppress any feelings as it wasn't just 1-1

You should be embarrassed

I realised my crush had an outy belly button and I try and think of that now, outies are not bad but I didn't expect him to have one

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Nothings happened.... bit premature to call op desperate

She's done nothing wrong. She hasn't or isn't acting on. Crushes are normal

Another desperate woman who can't seem to find her own man and latches onto unavailable men. there are plenty of single men go for them and stop giving attention to men who are clearly happy with someone else. Plus, have respect your children in the same class. It's just seedy.It! Stop it.

God people are horrible. She isn't a homewrecker, she has a crush that anyone can get and is asking how to stop it. Op crushes are horrible, I have had one for ages with someone at work, only he is single and still doesn't take things further! Sometimes I think they develop because we see something in them that we want in our lives or that is missing in ourselves. I realised my crush had an outy belly button and I try and think of that now, outies are not bad but I didn't expect him to have one. Be careful because crushes can turn in to limerance and my god that is brain consuming!

Oh my god I totally feel for you. Having a crush comes out of nowhere. I hate it so much when it happens; it just makes you feel so awkward.

Sending sympathy and also acknowledgment that you've never said you're planning on acting on it & he and other parents won't have realised.

I don't think you need to avoid him, you just need to talk to other parents as much as you are speaking to him

No need to be embarrassed, OP. They just happen from time to time, sometimes in relation to the most unlikely peiole. Not to worry. It’ll pass off. Just don’t get drunk and confess your love.

“Taurusenergy · Today 20:40
Theres no harm in a crush, you don't need to ignore him he will wonder what's up and that would be more awkward
Long as you don't act on it one way you could try getting over him is picture him having a poo or scratching his balls lol I'm trying here 😂 joking aside it'll probably pass soon enough”

This. I’ve had occasional crushes. Just laugh at it. Treat it as unimportant and it will feel unimportant.

Just let the crush wash over you. It will soon fade. In the meantime, can you crush on an actor, time for a new box set?

Are you dating? You should set up a few dates and liven up your summer.

I feel like tricky crushes can be telling you something and aren't always exactly about the person you're crushing on. Perhaps its your subconscious and body telling you that you want the things that you like about him and that it's time to start dating people that bring those traits and that connection (if you're not already, and you're in a position to).

You must know that’s not how she meant it!

Some people are being really harsh over this. It’s not like she’s pushing her tits in his face! It’s a harmless crush!

God people are being weird about this. It’s so normal, I wouldn’t even worry about it. It’s not like you’re snapchatting him pictures of your tits. Just carry on being friendly and be mindful of boundaries.

One of the other mums when DS was at nursery quite clearly had a thumping crush on my DH. He didn’t even notice and I just thought it was quite sweet, tbh! DH is a lovely man.

I know, right?! The replies to this thread are both hilarious and sad. Of course crushes are totally normal, and of course it’s totally fine to have one as long as you don’t act on it with a married man. Jeez.

OP, don’t feel bad. It will pass.