To think friend is jealous over weightloss?

I 100% get you OP... I'm a little jealous of all the posters on here who have never had to deal with these competitive begrudgers in their lives.

Best of luck with your weight loss journey

I have a friend who is slim and she's always eating healthily or at the gym but she regularly goes on rants about people losing weight by injection or tablets. She goes on about how it's the lazy way and how people aren't putting effort into losing weight anymore.

Could this be your 'friends' opinion? I think mine is incredibly jealous that people can now lose weight by tablets/injections.

I would like to state that it isn't my opinion at all. Congratulations on your weight loss OP and I hope you manage to get down to the size you want to be.

friendships during / after weight loss can be difficult.

I lost ~3 stone and have maintained it, halfway to 4 stone now. A slim friend has become an acquaintance only as was trying to force me to eat, I’ve now realised she had me as the fat friend and couldn’t bare to eat more than me. She is a bit younger than me, and would always get attention off men when going out, she got offended when on a holiday a man she fancied came up to me (I’m a lesbian).

Even close friends have made comments, it seems to stem from a place of jealousy / projection or just because of the extreme diet culture.

I lost the weight after going on adhd meds, never expected to but my binge eating was due to the adhd.

I have a close friend who I was a similar weight to pre weight loss, who has gained as much as I’ve lost and refers to us both as overweight, both as greedy, both as fat. We used to both talk about ourselves in this way, which is quite sad. This friend maintains that she doesn’t eat much / can’t understand why I’ve lost weight etc.

I tried and failed to lose weight for years, there is nothing worse than someone whose lost weight saying how easy it was, so I choose to ignore a lot of comments. Predominantly the worst issues have been from friends and ex friends who are and always have been very slim, and probably have disordered eating. In my experience it comes between choosing to ignore it or ending the friendships.

You (and I mean this as kindly as I can) sound a bit bat-shit.

You and you not-a-friend aren't actually friends anymore and you expect her to give a shit because you've started a weight loss program.

She (quite normally for a person who isn't friends with you) isn't gushing over your weight loss (which as you say isn't noticeable) and you take to the internet to anonymously slag her off.

I mean, I can see why she drifted away from you, as you say, it was way before you started your weigh loss program, so probably was to do with your personality rather than the number on the scales.

I get you @walkthroughtulips I honestly don't think that slim people are usually jealous a fat person losing a couple of stone or more. But a few are. I have experienced (in the past) when I have been 12 or 13 stone - and I started to drop to 11 and a half stone, then 11 stone, then 10 and a half stone, then 10 stone; a few of my 8 and a half and nine stone friends and colleagues etc starting to get a bit snippy, and telling me to stop losing weight as it 'doesn't suit me.'

Like you said, some slim people, especially perma slim - seem to get a bit antsy and snippy and irked when their 'fat friends' start to get slimmer, especially if they are a little bit prettier than them. They don't want them to be more appealing to look at than they are. You've had a really hard time on this thread. I get you. I know what you're talking about.

But I think that maybe people are probably having a go at you because they don't feel jealous of fat people losing weight. But yeah, some people definitely are jealous and don't like their fat mate losing weight, and having a new confidence, and GASP! looking better than they do themselves!!!

You aren’t clear at all what the issue is though OP and that poster is right you are so chippy and rude it sort of makes it clear why your ‘not friend who you don’t care about’ might not be so keen.

muting this now.

Of course I can. But then I'm not the one asking for opinions on a public forum.

You're really prickly, OP. Just forget so-called friend (and this thread?) and enjoy your weight loss.

@walkthroughtulips

I did.

Did you read any of the other posts (other than your own?)

It's just I don't agree with your projection onto your friend/not friend.

You've a long way to go until you are slim, at the moment it's a pipe dream, I would be like me saying "my friend is jealous I'm going to be rich and famous because I've applied to be on BGT"
Good luck either way, don't go looking for drama/roadblocks/difficulties when there aren't any. People can drift apart or not want to be friends for a million reasons, doesn't have to be anything to do with your current weight or the weight you are aiming to be.

I do get that sometimes women can be very competitive over looks and everything really. And if that changes it can change the dynamics between friends.

But, if you are having to go to your GP to get medical help to lose weight then I assume you are fairly overweight? In which case the 1st stone (although congrats to you) is not remotely noticeable and is obviously the easiest stone to lose.

So I can't see that jealously is in play here.
I imagine she feels awkward mentioning it as obviously you are Unhappy with your weight and want to be slimmer (like she is)?

Did she at least comment on how good you look or how much weight you've lost? If not it would seem strange to just message out of the blue. Is it something you both spoke about at all?

It's not uncommon for people with better lives to be jealous or make snide comments. I think some people just don't grow out of the mean girl thing.

A friend once told me I was still fat after weight loss when I was just over 8 stone and about size 6-8.

edit* I forgot to say she was slightly smaller.

Bit mean

I have read all your posts

You don’t sound that nice a friend either tbh. You haven’t said one thing about this so called friend that you actually like. You are trying very hard to get people to help you find the bad in her over a comment that may or may not have some more meaning than a simple text.

Im not sure of this is your own insecurity and jealousy or you just aren’t a great friend but maybe just move on from this group as it’s not really bringing you any joy.

There are also Office Feeders people who bring g in sweets and cakes but don't eat any themselves. People are then obliged to eat the cakes and sweets .Strange people!

I think you’re being a bit self-obsessed OP; it is highly likely she’s just interested in your journey. If she’s a complete cow, that would be different, but nothing in your posts suggests that she is?

I agree.

I've seen it a lot since Ozempic/wegovy becoming well known.

Celebrities or just members of the public who have an active social media account. Some "you look great, congratulations" comments but an awful lot of "ozempic" comments. It's bizarrely seen as 'cheating'.

Such a weird mindset isn't it.
Like when a lot of the older generation think women should go through vaginal childbirth with no pain relief etc. Why!? There's something sadistic about wanting others to suffer, rather than being glad there are better ways now.

Hmm I'm really skinny and have a few friends who struggle with their weight and I don't even consider it as a fleeting thought. If they were to lose weight I'd be right behind them. If your friend does have a stick up her arse it's unlikely jealousy of your weight loss as such but more that she's an asshole. One colleague had a gastric sleeve and I was really excited to see the transformation, it's been amazing so I was interested, and kept in touch during that year more than I normally would. Cheering her on really. You need to ask yourself if this person really is a friend or foe in more general terms

I've noticed a very strange side-effect of the 'weight loss' drugs or even bariatric surgery, in that a lot of people seem to be annoyed by them.

Because they lead to 'easy' weight loss which isn't in fact easy as the side effects can be terrible, but a lot of people seem to want fat people to suffer losing weight.

They want to see self-denial, misery and punishing work-out schedules and only then, will they respect the weight loss.

Or you were always jealous that she didn't need to lose any? Because honestly as a slim person, I'm disappointed that you feel the only thing attracting you as friend to this person is your weight?
She wanted you around so that she could look better? You think everyone is that shallow?
I couldn't care less about what people think about the way I look and I sure as hell hope that my friends of all sizes think more of themselves as people than to think I only want them around to look better.

Personally I think your self esteem issues are the problem in this relationship OP and I genuinely hope you can work through them and see yourself for the person you are inside. Looks and material possessions are superficial side effects of life. Appreciate yourself more

She's clearly making an effort? but maybe if there is something in your thought process, they also have worries regarding weight and body issues?. I've seen some of the responses on this thread and I'm disappointed. The "I've been overweight and I know what you mean" I'm currently what most people would consider slim, however I know I'm not slim for me I was 8 stone and now I'm over 9 stone. To some people this wouldn't be much of an issue and people laugh when I mention it, but it matters to me. Slim friends arnt jealous of weight loss, why would they be? It's not your slim friends fault they are slim people and they are allowed to have body image problems aswell.