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Concerned about BF who is travelling. No contact and hasn’t been on his phone

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Sully9 · 18/05/2024 15:36

He was travelling with friends but they’ve left to go somewhere else and he’s stayed in Thailand. No contact with isn’t normal and Today it’s been 21 hours since he was last active on any social media’s. Would you be worried not sure what to do?

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EsmeSusanOgg · 19/05/2024 04:28

He may have lost his phone/ be having phone data issues because of his location.

I took would worry, but I tend to be anxious. Do you know where he most recently was?

Give it a few more hours and if you are concerned, check in with his friends (even if the have split up, they will have a better idea of where he has gone).

Moonshine5 · 19/05/2024 01:20

21 hours - seriously.
He's on a much anticipated holiday.

skippy67 · 19/05/2024 00:16

Pinkgummybear · 18/05/2024 23:38

sorry to say but from experience it’s mostly he’s met someone there and is having a holiday fling. Temptation is everywhere. I even know someone who went to Thailand and met someone out there and they are making plans for her to come over here for them to get married

🙄

saraclara · 19/05/2024 00:04

Pinkgummybear · 18/05/2024 23:38

sorry to say but from experience it’s mostly he’s met someone there and is having a holiday fling. Temptation is everywhere. I even know someone who went to Thailand and met someone out there and they are making plans for her to come over here for them to get married

Oh for goodness sake! As soon as anyone mentions Thailand, people in here jump to stupid conclusions!

Is there a subset if tourists who travel there for the sex bars etc? Yes. But far, far more go on standard holidays and backpacking trips because it's a great country to visit. I've been several times and I know many others who've done solo backpacking trips (including men!) with zero interest in the sex scene. It's the classic backpacking country for those wanting to travel through south east Asia.

ssd · 18/05/2024 23:50

Why dont you contact his parents or siblings op

Pinkgummybear · 18/05/2024 23:40

Sorry to be blunt but it’s very true. I hope this isn’t the case for you though.

Pinkgummybear · 18/05/2024 23:38

sorry to say but from experience it’s mostly he’s met someone there and is having a holiday fling. Temptation is everywhere. I even know someone who went to Thailand and met someone out there and they are making plans for her to come over here for them to get married

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Sully9 · 18/05/2024 23:34

Well still nothing but thanks to some of you for the reassurance. We have been together for quite a lot of years now and this was something he has always wanted to do and I also hope he’s enjoying himself

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Bridgeoverrivertowhere · 18/05/2024 21:49

I sent a postcard 26 March 24 from Thailand to UK
The card arrived yesterday

Your fella missing for less than 24 hours

Hopefully he is having a great holiday !

KickHimInTheCrotch · 18/05/2024 21:08

Likely he's just off the beaten track somewhere with limited signal and trying to save his phone battery. I'm so glad smart phones and social media didn't exist when I went travelling 20+ years ago. How stifling to have to check in every day and have people stalk your socials if you want to go off line for a bit.

User1979289 · 18/05/2024 21:02

I have spent a lot of time in Thailand. You get total wifi and signal blackouts and can be out of contact for days. Happened to us in Chiang Mai and Koh Lanta.

saraclara · 18/05/2024 19:19

Does he rely on WiFi? Because if he's in a rural area, and his accommodation doesn't have it, then he'll be offline for a while.

Scarydinosaurs · 18/05/2024 18:53

Have you contacted his family?

AhBiscuits · 18/05/2024 18:51

I imagine it's a lost phone. Try not to panic.

JamesPringle · 18/05/2024 18:48

SOxon · 18/05/2024 18:44

@JamesPringle - why would anyone be be chasing a ‘boyfriend’ who has gone off to Thailand with his mates and is AWOL. When he comes back its going to be over anyway.

I'm so sorry that you're so cynical. But be kind to the OP please.

SOxon · 18/05/2024 18:46

OolongTeaDrinker · 18/05/2024 18:41

Yes I wondered the exact same thing.

OP You could contact the consulate but they would probably tell you to wait for 48 hours, but might be worth doing..

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saraclara · 18/05/2024 18:46

ILoveYouItsRuiningMyLife · 18/05/2024 18:38

Why has he decided to stay on in Thailand on his own?

I mean he’s probably not on his own…😕

Don't be ridiculous. Seriously, What's the matter with you?

I'm a backpacker and it's extremely common for groups of friends to split up. Reasons can vary from just getting sick of each other, to simply having different plans or favoured routes.
I generally travel solo, but I also have a travel buddy sometimes. We almost always only spend half to two thirds of the time together, and then do our own thing alone, to suit our preferences.

SOxon · 18/05/2024 18:45

Sully9 · 18/05/2024 15:36

He was travelling with friends but they’ve left to go somewhere else and he’s stayed in Thailand. No contact with isn’t normal and Today it’s been 21 hours since he was last active on any social media’s. Would you be worried not sure what to do?

OP there is another thread on this august site which you would do well to absorb …

SOxon · 18/05/2024 18:44

@JamesPringle - why would anyone be be chasing a ‘boyfriend’ who has gone off to Thailand with his mates and is AWOL. When he comes back its going to be over anyway.

OolongTeaDrinker · 18/05/2024 18:41

ILoveYouItsRuiningMyLife · 18/05/2024 18:38

Why has he decided to stay on in Thailand on his own?

I mean he’s probably not on his own…😕

Yes I wondered the exact same thing.

OP You could contact the consulate but they would probably tell you to wait for 48 hours, but might be worth doing..

JamesPringle · 18/05/2024 18:39

ILoveYouItsRuiningMyLife · 18/05/2024 18:38

Why has he decided to stay on in Thailand on his own?

I mean he’s probably not on his own…😕

Why would you be this mean?

ILoveYouItsRuiningMyLife · 18/05/2024 18:38

Why has he decided to stay on in Thailand on his own?

I mean he’s probably not on his own…😕

HelloMyNameIsElderSmurf · 18/05/2024 18:15

My mind would definitely go to a phone issue before anything else. Can you contact his friends? If they know where he's staying, you can contact the hotel or hostel.

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Sully9 · 18/05/2024 18:10

I’m not really sure where he’s been staying as such as they’ve been to a few different areas so changing hotels. I do know his friends have all left to go somewhere else and he’s stayed on in Thailand so he is alone

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Sully9 · 18/05/2024 18:09

Thank you for the replies. It’s not really the contact as such that’s worrying me, it’s more the not being active on anything either as he’s normally on everyday or has posted something. Just seems quite unusual

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