Concerned about BF who is travelling. No contact and hasn’t been on his phone

To be fair it’s not the lack of contact that’s making me suspect he’s not alone. Or the fact that it’s Thailand.

it’s the fact that his pals have gone on without him and he has chosen to remain behind. I find that really strange.

Absolutely!
Op's partner is obviously balls deep in someone else half her age rather than simply having no WIFI.

@Sully9 When my son went for a year out in NZ/Canada, he used to phone me- I went to see a friend 25 miles away.

I mentioned to son I was staying there for a night.

When I got there, she invited me to stay for longer, and unbeknown to me, my son was out of his mind with worry, as he couldn't contact me due to bad phone reception. {to be fair son used to have to sometimes help me out of bed in the morning due to severe slipped disc at that time}

He'd sent his GF's father round to my house and they were literally about to break in.

All down to poor WIFI.

The old adage ''No news is good news'' is often true.

Hope you hear from him soon, and that your mind is put at rest.

Ignore this fucking stupidity.

I appreciate this wasn’t actually your first thought!

I would be almost certain it’s a tech problem, it happens and even with all the best laid plans can happen suddenly. Hope you hear from him soon!

Leave the lad alone, he won't want to be bothered all the time. No wonder he's turned his phone off.

He's off having a good time, and it makes me wonder why you're not there, OP?

I wouldn't be happy about my boyfriend going off to Thailand with his mates, or even by himself.

This!

I'm constantly staggered by the ignorance and low expectations of some mumsnetters here

The vast majority of visitors to Thailand do not have sex with prostitutes.

Why do people just assume cheating. Good god.

My husband went incognito on a trip once - he lost his phone. Simple.

I reckon it's a phone issue too. I'm sure he'll be in contact soon,hard not to worry when you're half way across the world.

Maybe going forward he could update you of itinerary.

When we were on Thailand we all took a photo of each others passports and sent them to our parents at home. Every parent had 6 passport photos on emails lol. We did it was as we were on koh tao and tourists were being killed so jt wasn't ott at the time. We also provided our itinerary and updated changes so they knew which hostel etc

It's probably just lack of signal, but I can understand your concern OP. I hope it's all ok.

Such a weird reply...

If someone's partners wanted to go to the shop for a packet of crisps they would be accused of having an affair on here but it is normal not to be in constant contact

Being neurotic does not keep anyone safe and if my partner had a go at me because I didn't contact to their standards they would called controlling by me, the excuse 'but I have anxiety' means that anxiety should be addressed not the other person having to change what they do

Holidays mean not always in constant coverage areas either but of course being dramatic seems to work more, and they say females are calm and level headed not!

Maybe he is trekking or on an island.I backpacked alone in Thailand a couple of times and went back recently with family.Completely normal to have no signal.Also completely normal to go to Thailand NOT to have sex with prostitutes.Hope you are OK after some of the posts on here Op and he is back in touch soon.

Some of the responses to this post show exactly how toxic women can be (yes, some PPs may be male).
They have trashed Thailand as some massive sex shop, and believe that any male who visits, merely visits to shag themselves senseless or bring home a subserviant woman as a wife.
Then they pounce on the OP for being concerned (too early) or naive
🙁

He’s probably too busy enjoying himself. If he wanted to get in touch he would, from computers in hotels and hostels to buying a cheap phone and SIM, where there’s a will. I say this as someone who didn’t contact her Mum for three weeks because I didn’t want to shell out the 10 dollars for 10 minutes in the dial up era.

Thailand is a huge country, He could be snorkelling in Koh Samui or hiking in Chiang Mai. The different pace and opportunities have probably made mindless scrolling and SM redundant.

I had my phone stolen there so it’s highly likely a phone issue

I can imagine I’d be just as worried as you! I feel the same if DH hasn’t contacted all day when at work lol! There is always a plausible explanation! Am sure there’s just no signal.. would be most likely reason. Don’t listen to others about affairs!

Hes somewhere remote with no signal. Can you see his friends presence online?

@WaltzingWaters is right. A friend and I went to a remote island off Panama for three days. I thought to warn my family that there might not be any phone signal there. My friend didn't. He arrived back in civilization to a torrent of anxious messages.

Eldest was backpacking last year in Thailand with partner. Quite a few times there was no activity on phone due to no signal/wifi.

I spent a long time backpacking and it’s very normal to find yourself staying in an area with no signal and thinking “crap, should have warned family this could happen and I’ll be awol for a few days til I get back to a built up area”.
Also normal to lose phone/have it stolen, go out on a big party day/night without taking phone, lose phone charger, or just not want to be on his phone (although he should have warned you if he wanted a bit of time out from using his phone).

Do you have him on find your phone? If yes you could ring the place he was in last.

It seems highly unlikely that he's gone off with another woman. Honestly, some people are so nasty and unkind!

I would ask his friends and family if they've had any news from him. Try not to worry!

For a sudden complete loss of communication I think it’s far more likely to be a phone / signal issue than jumping to this conclusion OP. If he was trying to conceal a holiday fling from his long term partner surely he’d have sent a quick text to put her off and stop her wondering what’s going on.

Hopefully you will hear today. Try not to worry he probably has no signal.

I hope you've heard from him and all is well.

He is in holiday, he will check in when he wants, he is not a child