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Concerned about BF who is travelling. No contact and hasn’t been on his phone

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Sully9 · 18/05/2024 15:36

He was travelling with friends but they’ve left to go somewhere else and he’s stayed in Thailand. No contact with isn’t normal and Today it’s been 21 hours since he was last active on any social media’s. Would you be worried not sure what to do?

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PollyIndia · 25/05/2024 18:29

TakeOnFlea · 22/05/2024 17:35

Mate, none of the posters trying to scare you on here have ever been to Thailand. They don't go anywhere, maybe Cornwall at a fucking push.

He's backpacking with his mates, it's common to separate and want to do different things.

Why on earth would bunking up with some woman mean he suddenly stops looking at his social media? 🤣 obviously just got no signal.

best post. It's true though, if you trust him, it's all totally plausible. If not, doesn't matter how much he messages you or stays in contact.

Famfirst · 25/05/2024 17:57

I was in Hua Hin when I was very young, there was only one hotel there at the time. I'd never go back now. Such a shame

Famfirst · 25/05/2024 17:56

I know Thailand pretty well although we tend to stay well away from the tourist hot spots and the associated goings on like phuket etc, so I can't blame him for getting out of those places, they're very far removed from the real Thailand.

Phone signal can be iffy so if he is travelling it's fair enough to expect his communications not to be as regular as normal but he should be telling people where he is going and how long for in case he does run into problems.

BoudiccaOfSuburbia · 22/05/2024 19:45

OP: had he anything to hide, I doubt he would have raised suspicion and alarm by going out of contact.

There are as many posts here testifying to bad and patchy signal as there are to men behaving badly, and it sounds as if he has left partying to his mates while he explores the country.

TorroFerney · 22/05/2024 18:01

Barleysugar86 · 22/05/2024 00:41

I went to Thailand with a male friend and he's not especially shy, but the sex workers made him very uncomfortable as they were full on and pushy and... lairy really. He had his genitals grabbed by one lady in the street. He was single but spent his holiday trying desperately to avoid them. I would expect the majority of the men there backpacking probably feel the same.

I wouldn't worry yet, I was out of service in the hills for a few days, and when scuba diving or on boat trips I'd leave my phone in my room for the day.

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They are pushy with women as well, walking up a road in Hua Hin an my husband and daughter were in front, bit of a gap. Fair play to them for leaving my husband alone who was with a young teenager but they just transferred their attention to me .

MaltipooMama · 22/05/2024 17:45

Sully9 · 22/05/2024 16:56

His mates have also posted lots of photos on instagram and it looks like they’ve met various groups of girls there and have been on the beach with them and on boats etc. I do trust him but now having doubts having read some of the posts here

OP do not listen to all the negative man-hating shit on here and please don't let it impact your relationship! Totally plausible about the phone signal and good for him if he wants to branch out from the nightlife etc, if he was cheating he'd probably be more inclined to stay in touch with you so it didn't look suspicious! Honestly don't let any of the paranoid comments impact you

WonderingWanda · 22/05/2024 17:42

Op, please don't take an notice of all the negative posts assuming he's run off with someone. He's split up with his mates who appear to just be interested in nightlife and shacking up because he is actually interested in visiting some of Thailand.....that's a a good thing!!

tennesseewhiskey1 · 22/05/2024 17:39

YABU - you dont trust him already, this won't work. FWIW - its totally possible to go to thailand and not she everything moving you know? Have you ever been to Thailand - there is SO much culture to see, temples to visit, places to see. Surprise - sometimes, there is no phone signal in these far out places.....

Littlemisscapable · 22/05/2024 17:37

User1979289 · 18/05/2024 21:02

I have spent a lot of time in Thailand. You get total wifi and signal blackouts and can be out of contact for days. Happened to us in Chiang Mai and Koh Lanta.

This. Faaar too soon to be stressing just let him get on and don't worry for at least 72 hours. He will b fine

DrJonesIpresume · 22/05/2024 17:36

Sully9 · 22/05/2024 16:59

Apparently he’s split up from mates as they wanted to stay where all the night life is and he’s gone exploring more

Sounds to me as though he got there and rapidly found out that his mates' idea of a holiday wasn't the same as his. So he has rather sensibly parted company with them and gone off on his own.

TakeOnFlea · 22/05/2024 17:35

Mate, none of the posters trying to scare you on here have ever been to Thailand. They don't go anywhere, maybe Cornwall at a fucking push.

He's backpacking with his mates, it's common to separate and want to do different things.

Why on earth would bunking up with some woman mean he suddenly stops looking at his social media? 🤣 obviously just got no signal.

FemaleRageTheMusical · 22/05/2024 17:32

Sully9 · 22/05/2024 16:56

His mates have also posted lots of photos on instagram and it looks like they’ve met various groups of girls there and have been on the beach with them and on boats etc. I do trust him but now having doubts having read some of the posts here

There's a lot of people here that seem to love spreading fear and encouraging drama. If you trust him then carry on until you have reason not to.

Teajenny7 · 22/05/2024 17:26

Glad he is safe. I hope he is enjoying exploring. Exploring is the main part of travel in my opinion.

bananaramaterry · 22/05/2024 17:08

Sully9 · 22/05/2024 16:59

Apparently he’s split up from mates as they wanted to stay where all the night life is and he’s gone exploring more

Good, hope he's enjoying it.

bananaramaterry · 22/05/2024 17:07

Sully9 · 22/05/2024 16:55

Just to update

He did get back in touch eventually and it was a phone signal issue apparently. I’m starting to doubt that things will be the same though after some of these posts on here I am quite worried.

I really wouldn't take notice of all the doom and gloom posters.

They love to wallow in misery and doom and inflict it on others.

saraclara · 22/05/2024 17:02

Sully9 · 22/05/2024 16:59

Apparently he’s split up from mates as they wanted to stay where all the night life is and he’s gone exploring more

Sounds perfectly sensible and reasonable to me. And when you start exploring you start losing phone connection.

saraclara · 22/05/2024 17:01

Sully9 · 22/05/2024 16:55

Just to update

He did get back in touch eventually and it was a phone signal issue apparently. I’m starting to doubt that things will be the same though after some of these posts on here I am quite worried.

A significant proportion of Mumsnetters love to be dramatic and to think the worst of any man. None of those posters knows your boyfriend, and I suspect they know very little about Thailand.

Please, please don't let these people and their posts affect your relationship.

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Sully9 · 22/05/2024 16:59

Apparently he’s split up from mates as they wanted to stay where all the night life is and he’s gone exploring more

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Sully9 · 22/05/2024 16:57

I do know they have also been in the Moulin Rouge in Phuket

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Sully9 · 22/05/2024 16:56

His mates have also posted lots of photos on instagram and it looks like they’ve met various groups of girls there and have been on the beach with them and on boats etc. I do trust him but now having doubts having read some of the posts here

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Sully9 · 22/05/2024 16:55

Just to update

He did get back in touch eventually and it was a phone signal issue apparently. I’m starting to doubt that things will be the same though after some of these posts on here I am quite worried.

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whiteroseredrose · 22/05/2024 07:33

I'm hoping the OP will update us.

A lovely colleague went missing in Indonesia in the 1980s. I still think about it. Hope OP's boyfriend is safe and well.

Barleysugar86 · 22/05/2024 00:41

saraclara · 19/05/2024 00:04

Oh for goodness sake! As soon as anyone mentions Thailand, people in here jump to stupid conclusions!

Is there a subset if tourists who travel there for the sex bars etc? Yes. But far, far more go on standard holidays and backpacking trips because it's a great country to visit. I've been several times and I know many others who've done solo backpacking trips (including men!) with zero interest in the sex scene. It's the classic backpacking country for those wanting to travel through south east Asia.

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I went to Thailand with a male friend and he's not especially shy, but the sex workers made him very uncomfortable as they were full on and pushy and... lairy really. He had his genitals grabbed by one lady in the street. He was single but spent his holiday trying desperately to avoid them. I would expect the majority of the men there backpacking probably feel the same.

I wouldn't worry yet, I was out of service in the hills for a few days, and when scuba diving or on boat trips I'd leave my phone in my room for the day.

penjil · 22/05/2024 00:27

Yes, come on, OP,!

Let us know what happened!

What was his excuse?! 😂

Davina1234 · 21/05/2024 22:53

Any news?

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