"Lower-classes"

This is very true.

Miner is a very respectable Trade.
Nothing at all wrong with hard working people doing the very best for their Families.
Was watching a video of the construction of World Trade Center on the anniversary of that disaster recently, and my goodness, the physical strength and endurance the construction workers had.
Work is a lot more mechanised now, but men doing hard physical labour would have worn out their bodies much earlier than those who just pushed pens all day.

I grew up very working class but went to uni and dh and myself are now relatively well paid professionals. We live on a new build development where the houses across the road are social housing. I no actually quite like it, it keeps us real and stops us living in our solvent bubble

Id laugh at her (to her face). Stupid snob.

Very rude. Cannot stand people like this. No tact or regard for anyone else. Parents whose darlings are too good to associate with anyone else.

How funny. I often find it quite hilarious that some people actually still think like this. Usually by people with no obvious signs of great wealth or with an estate worthy of the landed gentry. A new-build detached 5-bed house on some characterless cul de sac is often their sole claim to any 'class'.

How embarrassing for her to be such a snob. I'd have just said, 'well I live there and think it's fantastic'.
It reminds me of a project I once did for a consultancy client, the end client was a very impoverished local authority.
The first briefing went well, lol, the consultant couldn't stop slagging off the borough (client) and how it was crap and the people who lived there were no marks. Assuming we'd all just laugh along?!
My boss happened to be a lifelong resident of said borough, and after an hour of his condescending comments, she finally said 'oh I I've lived x borough for 40 years'
The guys face went bright red.

Well there’s low class and there’s no class. She sounds like the latter.

Awful. Snobbish, tacky and utterly tone deaf.

Hard to know whether it’s a deliberate dig or if she just has no self awareness. Either she is nasty or lacks any social skills. I wouldn’t respond or give any indication that this comment even registered with you but quietly file her under “arsehole”.

Tell her the bright kids will shine no matter where they are educated.

@daisy2245 what do the results say from the school and is their a link as to who or why the results are lower ?

This is what i would have said.

I wish life was so black and white. Here there are bad ones and here are good ones. Not really. In the affluent areas live also rich mafia mobs, snobs, abusers and parents who don't care for the education of their kids. So honestly how narrow-minded is that?

Wow. Have you done this “friend” her favour yet? if not, I don’t think I would be.

Dear “Friend”,

I have been reflecting on our conversation the other day and think it may be best for you to find alternative arrangements.

I am saddened that despite you knowing how difficult our family situation has been over the years, you would make a point of speaking about the area of our new home in such a poor light.

It is unfortunate that you feel we are no longer “good enough” for X school. I wish you luck in finding other like minded, judgemental friends in the future.

She has shown her true colours keep a wide berth in future. I originally come from a very undesirable area so I've come across so much of this BS. I'd put money on the fact her DC aren't doing well and she is automatically blaming the school rather than her DCs ability

No-one mentioned perfect except you?!

Any kind of response would be better than nothing and perhaps the OP wouldn’t still be annoyed if she’d responded.

Well she's clearly not that bright.
Even if some students are "bringing the results down" (lets go with her reason that its class based) that has zero to do with her child's results, the teaching or anything else.
A schools results are an average....if that average was being brought down by a group of "lower class" students then everyone else would be doing just as well as they would anywhere.

Now....if she was concerned about the behaviour of a certain group that would make more sense. Things like drugs and bullying happen in every school regardless of class, but we all know that certain areas have families where criminality is multigenerational and some parents genuinely don't care about school or behaviour. Not everyone in a certain area will be like that, but people like that tend to live in those areas.

Or if she was concerned about the school policies, practices and teachers obviously but that has nothing to do with catchments and class.

I think she miss spoke and wasn't saying everyone in your area is lower class, or that anyone working class is bringing the school down. I think she was saying there is a subset of families that she doesn't want her kids mixing with, and they live in a certain area.

I would also point out that lots of people have very different ideas about the names of areas.
People who have lived here years have no idea really where one area ends and another begins.
It's also common for people to adopt the name of a neighbouring more affluent neighbourhood. We laugh at houses advertised as being in X, which is more desirable when really they are very much in Y which is not at all desirable.

It's complete bs and such an ignorant way to think anyway. I think you could easily find more broad minded friends

I would have laughed and said no it's fuck wits like you doing that

Women didn’t lose the ability to speak but it’s very common for people of both sexes to think of the perfect response AFTER the moment has passed.

I find it really weird that the response is to lay into the OP for not having a perfect scripted response to a rude remark she wasn’t expecting.

I’d keep a wide berth of her.

it wasn’t until I was an adult that I realised that some of my school chums’ mums had discriminated against me because we lived in a ‘bad area’ and Dad was a coal miner. (Dad owned our flat; most of the other families rented.)

We were perfectly respectable. I think it grieved some of them that I was doing so much better at school than their offspring.

You don’t need a CF like that in your life, OP.

Oh for goodness sake. This is nearly every thread on Mumsnet lately.

When did women lose the ability to speak?

I wonder if it’s the result of so much texting and messaging etc.

Don’t tell us you just stood there and said nothing?

At least you said something like, “Bloody cheek, that’s where I live “ right??