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Order what you want and don’t eat others unless offered!

164 replies

Eqei · 18/05/2024 13:33

Just a lighthearted one…

A debate came up between me and dh. I wanted to see what others think.

here’s the backstory.
I love my food, I have a good appetite. So does dh.

we ordered burgers the other day. He decided he just wanted a burger, no fries, no drink.
I love a fountain drink (pregnancy craving too!) and fries are a must.
so I order a whole meal, regret not ordering a large in hindsight lol

so we order, have our food. He gets his double cheeseburger and finishes it. I’m eating my burger and fries… he then proceeds to take a few gulps of my drink and almost half my fries.

I made the point that if he wanted some he should’ve ordered them himself!!!
his response was he didn’t want any at the time…
my response is.. I never do it to him, I always order mine and eat mine. I wouldn’t take his food without asking or being offered (I did not offer!)
he agreed, he said I never do that and he’s grateful for it (the cheek!)

obviously this isn’t a make or break situation, just light hearted. I’m not a monster who kicked off. I just made the point that you should order your own sides!
it’s not that I can’t share, I ordered just enough of what I wanted - could’ve got some sharing fries and another drink if I knew he was going to do this!

AIBU or is he?

OP posts:
Youdontevengohere · 18/05/2024 16:32

SummerInSun · 18/05/2024 14:34

I'm actually in DH's camp on this. I like a few fries with a burger, but a whole serve of fries for one person - even though they are sold as a single person serve - is vastly more fat, salt and calories and general unhealthy goop than one person should eat at one time, especially with something that's already fairly high in fat and carbs like a burger. His mistake was not saying at the beginning "let's get one serve of fries to share".

Re the drink, even if you don't want to order a drink you ask for tap water? Of course you need some liquid with a salty meal.

But the OP didn’t want one fries to share. She wanted her own fries. So that wouldn’t have been a solution.

SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth · 18/05/2024 16:30

SummerInSun · 18/05/2024 14:34

I'm actually in DH's camp on this. I like a few fries with a burger, but a whole serve of fries for one person - even though they are sold as a single person serve - is vastly more fat, salt and calories and general unhealthy goop than one person should eat at one time, especially with something that's already fairly high in fat and carbs like a burger. His mistake was not saying at the beginning "let's get one serve of fries to share".

Re the drink, even if you don't want to order a drink you ask for tap water? Of course you need some liquid with a salty meal.

You make that decision for other adults?

Remarkable!!!

Sparklfairy · 18/05/2024 16:29

SummerInSun · 18/05/2024 14:34

I'm actually in DH's camp on this. I like a few fries with a burger, but a whole serve of fries for one person - even though they are sold as a single person serve - is vastly more fat, salt and calories and general unhealthy goop than one person should eat at one time, especially with something that's already fairly high in fat and carbs like a burger. His mistake was not saying at the beginning "let's get one serve of fries to share".

Re the drink, even if you don't want to order a drink you ask for tap water? Of course you need some liquid with a salty meal.

Then he should have ordered his own and given what he didn't want to his pregnant partner. Obviously.

LardoBurrows · 18/05/2024 16:28

35965a · 18/05/2024 14:06

I am firmly team ‘Joey doesn’t share food.’ Kill him.

Yep me too. If you touch my food you will end with a fork through your hand.

therealcookiemonster · 18/05/2024 16:27

patio time

JustMarriedBecca · 18/05/2024 16:27

Is that a fountain "all you can drink" drink?

If so, YABU not to cheat the system by sharing a drink as £4 for a glass of sprite is outrageous (looking at you Nandos)

However, it would be his last drink as I'd bury him under the patio if he tried to eat my chips

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 18/05/2024 16:26

I know a few people like this. Regardless, they have to have some of what you are eating. It is about power, not hunger.

ChocolateBiscuitsandaCuppa · 18/05/2024 16:24

MrTiddlesTheCat · 18/05/2024 14:04

I believe that the extreme provocation murder defence covers this.

"Madam, you are charged with the murder of your husband in McDonald's. How do you plead?"
"He helped himself to half my fries uninvited!"
"Case closed! You're free to go."

If anything, the person helping themselves to someone else's food without invitation should be detained until they prove they can be trusted out in society.

CuloGrande · 18/05/2024 16:20

DH did this to me once so I always order him extra fries now to prove a point 😂

DelythBeautyQueen · 18/05/2024 14:49

You are definitely not being unreasonable. I would be cross too.

I think it's partly a chip thing. A lot of people seem to think that chips are a communal food and that it's OK to take them off another person's plate. Why? Would they break off a bit of pie from your plate if they fancy it? Would they pick at the bits of salad from someone else's plate? I don't think they would. So why us it OK to do it with chips?

MrsClatterbuck · 18/05/2024 14:40

Dh learnt early on that nobody touches my food upon pain of death. Now my appetite is not what it was I do actually ask him if he wants certain items of my plate. We do sometimes share a dessert or he will offer me some of his dessert but I only have a couple of spoonfuls as I'm not really supposed to for health reasons.

TyneTeas · 18/05/2024 14:39

SummerInSun · 18/05/2024 14:34

I'm actually in DH's camp on this. I like a few fries with a burger, but a whole serve of fries for one person - even though they are sold as a single person serve - is vastly more fat, salt and calories and general unhealthy goop than one person should eat at one time, especially with something that's already fairly high in fat and carbs like a burger. His mistake was not saying at the beginning "let's get one serve of fries to share".

Re the drink, even if you don't want to order a drink you ask for tap water? Of course you need some liquid with a salty meal.

But he didn't ask first, that is the point and the problem. He just assumed and decided on behalf of someone else which is pretty rude

SummerInSun · 18/05/2024 14:34

I'm actually in DH's camp on this. I like a few fries with a burger, but a whole serve of fries for one person - even though they are sold as a single person serve - is vastly more fat, salt and calories and general unhealthy goop than one person should eat at one time, especially with something that's already fairly high in fat and carbs like a burger. His mistake was not saying at the beginning "let's get one serve of fries to share".

Re the drink, even if you don't want to order a drink you ask for tap water? Of course you need some liquid with a salty meal.

TyneTeas · 18/05/2024 14:33

The night I met my DH he witnessed a fierce falling out between me and a friend who didn't want chips then tried to help herself to mine.

She said she hadn't ordered any as she only wanted a few and didn't think it would be a problem. I wanted all of the chips I ordered. All of them!

If she only wanted a few she could have asked if I wanted to share or ordered some and just eaten what she wanted. But I was Not Happy that she decided I would be sharing without asking.

lazyarse123 · 18/05/2024 14:32

DH used to do this in McDonalds notice I say used to. He never wanted fries but would eat half mine and couldn't understand the death stare he would get. Now I just order him some and still he says "but I only wanted a few' what part of me wanting a full portion was so difficult to understand? stupid arse.

CoffeeBeansGalore · 18/05/2024 14:30

If/when you go again & he says I don't want fries/drink/whatever you state categorically You are not having any of mine. Do you want to change your order???
If he insists no then you keep your stuff well out of his reach. And do not let the greedy bugger have any.

CharlotteCollinsneeLucas · 18/05/2024 14:28

The only thing YABU about is allowing him to eat that much of your food while reasoning with him about how it's not on!

ILoveYouItsRuiningMyLife · 18/05/2024 14:25

Omg I think my husband would lose a finger if he tried that with my chips 😒

Original poster
Eqei · 18/05/2024 14:23

GodOfTheOldTestament · 18/05/2024 14:13

Is this really “light-hearted?” Or were you actually “fuming?”

i wasn’t fuming at all, I may have been usually but I somehow was very calm lol

OP posts:
GodOfTheOldTestament · 18/05/2024 14:13

Is this really “light-hearted?” Or were you actually “fuming?”

AhBiscuits · 18/05/2024 14:13

Sounds like a good way to end up with a fork in the back of his hand.

DancefloorAcrobatics · 18/05/2024 14:10

@Eqei I assume you'll be building a new patio in the back garden....

Lavenderandbrown · 18/05/2024 14:09

Not only do I not share my food I don’t like my food touched by anyone but me. I will share with DH if he asks and my DD but rarely.

35965a · 18/05/2024 14:07

Eqei · 18/05/2024 13:52

Your responses are so funny thanks all!!!

im new so what is LTB??

Leave the bastard 😂

35965a · 18/05/2024 14:06

I am firmly team ‘Joey doesn’t share food.’ Kill him.

joey doesnt share food GIF