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Order what you want and don’t eat others unless offered!

164 replies

Eqei · 18/05/2024 13:33

Just a lighthearted one…

A debate came up between me and dh. I wanted to see what others think.

here’s the backstory.
I love my food, I have a good appetite. So does dh.

we ordered burgers the other day. He decided he just wanted a burger, no fries, no drink.
I love a fountain drink (pregnancy craving too!) and fries are a must.
so I order a whole meal, regret not ordering a large in hindsight lol

so we order, have our food. He gets his double cheeseburger and finishes it. I’m eating my burger and fries… he then proceeds to take a few gulps of my drink and almost half my fries.

I made the point that if he wanted some he should’ve ordered them himself!!!
his response was he didn’t want any at the time…
my response is.. I never do it to him, I always order mine and eat mine. I wouldn’t take his food without asking or being offered (I did not offer!)
he agreed, he said I never do that and he’s grateful for it (the cheek!)

obviously this isn’t a make or break situation, just light hearted. I’m not a monster who kicked off. I just made the point that you should order your own sides!
it’s not that I can’t share, I ordered just enough of what I wanted - could’ve got some sharing fries and another drink if I knew he was going to do this!

AIBU or is he?

OP posts:
LookItsMeAgain · 18/05/2024 19:08

I read your post and this jumped into my mind!

Time to tell him to stop!

Episode 9 Joey GIF by Friends
exLtEveDallas · 18/05/2024 19:05

DH used to do this with a Chinese meal "No I don't want anything big, just noodles and curry sauce" - and then steal my chicken.

No matter what he asks for now, I get him a chicken curry and chips as well. Bloody man.

Applesandpairsofrocks · 18/05/2024 19:02

massive red flap op 🚩🚩

can’t believe you’re having a child with this monster 😂

work on your reflexes so they become cat like, so when he next reaches for some
of your food your able to bat him away before he so savagely steals your food

BirthdayRainbow · 18/05/2024 18:58

LauderSyme · 18/05/2024 16:42

Sorry but what is a crispy coke?

And no yanbu BUT you do realise your child-to-be may very well want what's on your plate rather than what's on theirs?

Not at all comparable 🙄

GodOfTheOldTestament · 18/05/2024 18:53

IwishMaxTheriothadanOnlyfans · 18/05/2024 18:46

I actually stabbed my DH in the hand with a fork when he stole from my plate whilst pregnant. Broke the skin and bruised him quite badly 🙈

😂

IwishMaxTheriothadanOnlyfans · 18/05/2024 18:46

I actually stabbed my DH in the hand with a fork when he stole from my plate whilst pregnant. Broke the skin and bruised him quite badly 🙈

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 18/05/2024 18:05

DoYouSmokePaul · 18/05/2024 13:37

Let me be the first to say JOEY DOESNT SHARE FOOD

Damn, beat me to it 😁
Especially with the "sharing fries for the table" 😁
He'd be getting stabbed in the hand with my fork lol

Glenthebattleostrich · 18/05/2024 17:43

For the next month, every time he gets anything to eat or drink walk over and take a bite or slurp of it then hand it back. Every. Single. Time. While looking him in the eye.

Or I can help you build a new patio.

Disturbia81 · 18/05/2024 17:37

Shan5474 · 18/05/2024 17:18

Makes me think of those people who say ‘oh no I don’t want a whole one, I’ll just have a bit of yours’. Um no, I want all of mine! So let’s order two then I can finish off yours

This!

Bloom15 · 18/05/2024 17:20

YANBU

Taking food from a pregnant woman?! Not a good idea!

Shan5474 · 18/05/2024 17:18

Makes me think of those people who say ‘oh no I don’t want a whole one, I’ll just have a bit of yours’. Um no, I want all of mine! So let’s order two then I can finish off yours

Apolloneuro · 18/05/2024 17:14

Mine does this with pick n mix sweets, so I always add extra these days.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 18/05/2024 17:06

SummerInSun · 18/05/2024 14:34

I'm actually in DH's camp on this. I like a few fries with a burger, but a whole serve of fries for one person - even though they are sold as a single person serve - is vastly more fat, salt and calories and general unhealthy goop than one person should eat at one time, especially with something that's already fairly high in fat and carbs like a burger. His mistake was not saying at the beginning "let's get one serve of fries to share".

Re the drink, even if you don't want to order a drink you ask for tap water? Of course you need some liquid with a salty meal.

You must be about the only person on God’s green Earth who thinks a tiny portion of fries should be shared.
No-one cares about fat and carbs as s treat, how joyless.

umami86 · 18/05/2024 17:04

You're a nicer person than me OP. His hand reaching out would be sharply slapped.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 18/05/2024 17:03

Stab him with a rusty fork. It’s the only response.

NotSentFromIphone · 18/05/2024 17:02

I'm really grossed out by other people drinking from my cup/bottle and I would never eat leftovers off kids plate etc so that would totally give me the ick.

I vaguely remember a bad case of impetigo going round the school when I was 5 and the 'sharing' kids all caught it, think that put me off for life!

ohyesido · 18/05/2024 16:57

My husband does this.

do you want a drink?

no I’m good, I’ll just have a sip of yours.

o rly!

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 18/05/2024 16:48

I hate it when people do that OP.
Especially when they are all smug and virtuous with their mini skinny portions and make you feel like a greedy so and so for ordering the amount you honestly feel you could eat, and all the while eyeing up your lovely fries.
The cheek of it!

MercyDulb0ttle · 18/05/2024 16:46

My DH wouldn’t dare do this.

Athough he will order a fountain Coke for me (it just tastes so much better than from a can!) and a tap water for him, and then try to grab some of my coke. Tight git.

LauderSyme · 18/05/2024 16:42

Sorry but what is a crispy coke?

And no yanbu BUT you do realise your child-to-be may very well want what's on your plate rather than what's on theirs?

Disturbia81 · 18/05/2024 16:41

SummerInSun · 18/05/2024 14:34

I'm actually in DH's camp on this. I like a few fries with a burger, but a whole serve of fries for one person - even though they are sold as a single person serve - is vastly more fat, salt and calories and general unhealthy goop than one person should eat at one time, especially with something that's already fairly high in fat and carbs like a burger. His mistake was not saying at the beginning "let's get one serve of fries to share".

Re the drink, even if you don't want to order a drink you ask for tap water? Of course you need some liquid with a salty meal.

But most of us want our full portion that we ordered.
I can't stand people who do this "I didn't want any at the time"
Or when they eat your snacks and say "well I didn't want any when you went shopping"

SonicTheHodgeheg · 18/05/2024 16:40

Taking a fry isn’t so bad but half of them is worse than cheeky

SonicTheHodgeheg · 18/05/2024 16:40

Yanbu

joey doesnt share food GIF
CountingCrones · 18/05/2024 16:38

Someone attempting that when I was pregnant would have lost the hand. You were very restrained, OP!

butterflywingss · 18/05/2024 16:34

I am exactly like you in this situation. I am also pregnant and could not imagine DH or anyone taking my food 😂 unless they want a very pregnant reaction