Order what you want and don’t eat others unless offered!

hello smithy. Nice to have you with us on mumsnet

How is he with a Chinese?? My pet hate is ordering what I want to eat and then someone suggests putting all the food in the middle of table to share. Just no. My food and I’m eating it!

When I was in my late teens my mum always appeared to eat like a sparrow. Never appeared hungry ever but would always nick your food and spoil your plate. My Dad would always make me 2 fried eggs on top of two slices of fried bread before I went out with mates to line the old stomach. Whilst it was being dished up in the kitchen she would always cut off a slither of bread and pop both of my yolks before it arrived with me. Drove me round the bend to the point I started hovering as it was being made and went out stinking like a frying pan just because I hated having my meal messed with. To this day I don’t share my food and if anyone tries to pinch off my plate they get it both barrels. I think it’s plain nasty, entitled and rude.
My mum and sister when we go out actually pick off each others plates to try stuff and share meals too. Can’t stand it 🤣🤣

You're pregnant. Next time, order double fries and a double fountain.

He'll see it as saving you from yourself.

You'll see it as becoming an experienced married person, and knowing him better than he knows himself.

Greedy

Chips are just for nicking off other people. That’s why chip shop portions are so big.

This kind of shit drives me mad. It’s usually people who say, ooh I couldn’t, how can you eat all of that? that go on to steal half your naan.

No. No. I won’t stand for it.

I would have been furious and I've never even been pregnant

I have a 'friend' who i occasionally meet for lunch. She always picks food off my plate and takes sips of my wine. She doesn't order wine herself as she drives home. I get the bus. She then quibbles over the bill. I find this so annoying that I haven't met with her for over a year.

@Bjorkdidit If you can't finish a meal each then yes you are not typical, most people can. So it's good sharing works for you but that's not usual.

I mean, you do sound like teeny tinies if neither of you can eat a whole restaurant meal 😁

Unless you live in America where the portions actually are huge!

Presumably that's an agreement between the two of you though? Not one of you saying "I don't want any" and then taking what you know you're going to eat?

Also, when I was pregnant and the sickness had finally subsided (up to halfway through I couldn't keep anything down), if anyone tried to take my chips I would have eaten them too!

We also share the sides etc. The portions are huge, it surprises me when people say 'I want the whole portion myself' because its so much food (genuinely, we're not teeny tinies at all).

Even big eater DP can't eat a whole takeaway or restaurant meal and I genuinely only want a few chips or whatever, so we're a perfect match in this regard.

If I ordered my own, I'd be leaving about three quarters of it so it makes sense for DP to give me a few chips as I'm only eating what he would leave anyway.

😂😂 I like your style.

@LookItsMeAgain @LauderSyme Some said crispy means fizzy so it’s a fizzy Coke, but I thought it was someone trying to say “crisp, ice cold Coke” because she did said “crispy iced cold Coke.” And “crisp ice cold” is a way they market a lot of drinks (beer, water, etc).

Well I really appreciate my DP tonight!

He knows I have a small appetite but my eyes are always bigger then my belly so I usually order more then I can eat. He never asks for bites, takes food off my plate or hints for my food even when he’s finished and he knows I likely won’t. He waits till I put my knife and fork down and say I’ve had enough, then he checks several times I mean it then tucks in.

The only thing was it backfired last week, we went for a meal and I ordered steak which was expensive, he wanted the same but knows I usually leave half so ordered a burger (his second best choice)
However… on this occasion the steak was absolutely amazing, I let DP try some (which in hindsight was cruel) then for the first time in years I finished my meal! I struggled a bit with the last few bites and did offer them, DP said he just couldn’t take me up on it because he knew I must be enjoying it to have eaten that much.

Well the steak was obviously on his mind because less than a week later he’s taken me to the same place tonight and ordered it for himself!

He has his faults but I’m actually feeling the love for him right now knowing he could be the kind of evil monster who would steal my food regularly.

I love how you haven't forgotten his outrageous behaviour 50 years later 😂😂😂

Same and I’ll offer if I’m overfaced but that’s my choice!

for me its the egg fried rice thats my hill so to speak

My dh used to do this with chips from the chinese takeaway. He started off by hinting that they looked nice, so I put a few on his plate, then asking 'is that all I get then?' I told him that they were my chips which I had ordered because I wanted them and frankly I wanted all of them and he was lucky I was polite and gave him any. Next time, he decided to dish the food up (first time ever possibly) and gave himself at least half. That was it. I took all my chips back and accidently some of his food as well. After this he did learn and now orders his own. I don't care about chippie chips but chinese chips are sacred!

I will share food. With certain people we sometimes agree to order different food and switch plates half way through- especially deserts.

But the day someone reaches across and takes food from my plate or glass uninvited is the day they are dead to me.🤬

No, the saying is ‘ordering what you want to eat so that you don’t have to eat someone else’s food is caring’.

I feel like I’m in the minority but myself and my DH share food and drinks all the time. It’s really common for one of us to buy sides and the other will help themselves 😬 after all, sharing is caring 😂

Reminds me of my dh when we went shopping. When I was buying treats (ice cream/crisps/chocolate) I always asked him what he wanted. Nearly always said nothing, so I just got what I wanted. However, more often than not, when I went to get my “treat” it was gone. If I moaned to him (which I did), he would just say “you hadn’t eaten it, so thought you didn’t want it”. No, I hadn’t eaten it, as we only did the weekly shopping yesterday!

Plus if we both wanted crisps, I would get a cheese and onion multipack, while he got prawn. What did he do, yes he ate the cheese and onion ones , so I would go into the cupboard to open my crisps to find them open and only 1 or 2 packets left. The prawn ones…..not open yet! If I complained, he would say “I just fancied cheese and onion, but I don’t mind you having some of my prawn ones.” I loathed prawn crisps and he knew it!

Men 🤬😤