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Order what you want and don’t eat others unless offered!

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Eqei · 18/05/2024 13:33

Just a lighthearted one…

A debate came up between me and dh. I wanted to see what others think.

here’s the backstory.
I love my food, I have a good appetite. So does dh.

we ordered burgers the other day. He decided he just wanted a burger, no fries, no drink.
I love a fountain drink (pregnancy craving too!) and fries are a must.
so I order a whole meal, regret not ordering a large in hindsight lol

so we order, have our food. He gets his double cheeseburger and finishes it. I’m eating my burger and fries… he then proceeds to take a few gulps of my drink and almost half my fries.

I made the point that if he wanted some he should’ve ordered them himself!!!
his response was he didn’t want any at the time…
my response is.. I never do it to him, I always order mine and eat mine. I wouldn’t take his food without asking or being offered (I did not offer!)
he agreed, he said I never do that and he’s grateful for it (the cheek!)

obviously this isn’t a make or break situation, just light hearted. I’m not a monster who kicked off. I just made the point that you should order your own sides!
it’s not that I can’t share, I ordered just enough of what I wanted - could’ve got some sharing fries and another drink if I knew he was going to do this!

AIBU or is he?

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godmum56 · 20/05/2024 22:30

viques · 20/05/2024 21:47

And of course, since a symptom of tetanus is lockjaw it solves two problems at once, firstly the chip pincher learns an immediate lesson and secondly due to lockjaw they can’t open their mouth to eat stolen food again……

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how do you get tetanus off a dinner fork?

PracticalLady · 20/05/2024 22:01

My ex used to finish his fish and chips and then start eating mine, without asking first. He also, when transferring two portions of fish and chips onto plates at home, eat chips from one plate while he was dishing up, then take the other plate as his meal. What a pig!

viques · 20/05/2024 21:47

godmum56 · 20/05/2024 19:24

I refer you to my "bring your own sharpened fork" comment 😬

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And of course, since a symptom of tetanus is lockjaw it solves two problems at once, firstly the chip pincher learns an immediate lesson and secondly due to lockjaw they can’t open their mouth to eat stolen food again……

godmum56 · 20/05/2024 19:24

honeyrider · 19/05/2024 23:38

Touch my food feel my fork.

I refer you to my "bring your own sharpened fork" comment 😬

PoshHorseyBird · 20/05/2024 13:36

Bjorkdidit · 20/05/2024 13:30

You seriously think throwing away 95% of a portion of food is a sensible solution to this?

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No it was obviously a joke!!!

Bjorkdidit · 20/05/2024 13:30

PoshHorseyBird · 20/05/2024 12:59

It's when people help themselves to your chips then say 'I only wanted a couple!' Well buy a portion of chips, eat two, and throw the rest away! (Or tip them on my plate!) 🤣

You seriously think throwing away 95% of a portion of food is a sensible solution to this?

DivergentTris · 20/05/2024 13:18

EQEI DOESN'T SHARE FOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!😡

I'm with you this would drive me batshit!

SpringerFall · 20/05/2024 13:05

Or the, im on a diet so won't order my own I will just take most of yours

PoshHorseyBird · 20/05/2024 12:59

It's when people help themselves to your chips then say 'I only wanted a couple!' Well buy a portion of chips, eat two, and throw the rest away! (Or tip them on my plate!) 🤣

pollymere · 20/05/2024 11:31

I recently went out with DH and he ordered something that came with fries. I asked if I could have a few before I ordered my dish that didn't have fries. I certainly wouldnt have just assumed. I ate three fries. If I drank someone else's drink it would be that I desperately needed it and then I'd have offered to buy them another drink.

MyDearOliveDuck · 20/05/2024 10:33

I am trying not to see her any more. She is also embarrassing as she once asked people at the next table to share their water with her. They looked uncomfortable but agreed. In her defence she told me that she is autistic.

SallyWD · 20/05/2024 10:06

I'm with you OP! My DH's family are completely different when it come to food. They're not British so there are cultural issues at play. Basically they want to share everything and under order. If 5 of us go to a restaurant they want to order three meals maximum and then share! This is my idea of hell! I just want my own full plate of food.

Pigwig10 · 20/05/2024 09:53

My husband did similar once, very early on in our relationship. I stabbed the back of his hand with my fork. Safe to say he has never done it again. Happily (mostly) married now for 25 years 🤣🤣.

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Eqei · 20/05/2024 08:21

theprincessthepea · 19/05/2024 23:50

I agree. Especially if I have ordered exactly what I want/need and someone wants to take some because they’ve ordered a smaller portion - gets on my nerves. Mainly because I don’t often ask people for their food because I don’t want someone else’s food.

My partner has learned to leave me and my food - I’m now breastfeeding and the hunger is worse than pregnancy haha

Yeah I’m still breastfeeding and pregnant… not a great combo 🫣

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theprincessthepea · 19/05/2024 23:50

I agree. Especially if I have ordered exactly what I want/need and someone wants to take some because they’ve ordered a smaller portion - gets on my nerves. Mainly because I don’t often ask people for their food because I don’t want someone else’s food.

My partner has learned to leave me and my food - I’m now breastfeeding and the hunger is worse than pregnancy haha

honeyrider · 19/05/2024 23:38

Touch my food feel my fork.

Theeffingcleaner · 19/05/2024 23:33

My kids always end up having my food and it annoys me but they are kids, I have given the death stare a few times tho but to no avail!

my OH is definitely a Joey does not like sharing whatsoever but will kindly help himself to everyone else’s and will even take food without asking is this being eaten? The greedy pig he is🤣

im surprised you didn’t kill him especially being pregnant and eating for two❤️

JosiePosey · 19/05/2024 22:42

SummerInSun · 18/05/2024 14:34

I'm actually in DH's camp on this. I like a few fries with a burger, but a whole serve of fries for one person - even though they are sold as a single person serve - is vastly more fat, salt and calories and general unhealthy goop than one person should eat at one time, especially with something that's already fairly high in fat and carbs like a burger. His mistake was not saying at the beginning "let's get one serve of fries to share".

Re the drink, even if you don't want to order a drink you ask for tap water? Of course you need some liquid with a salty meal.

Err no, why should the other person have half a portion if they want a while meal to themselves?

You finding them too calorific is your problem. Ask for a 1/2 portion or leave half but don't expect others to have less.

I announce beforehand if I'm not prepared to share and if sides are wanted, people had better order their own because they won't be having any of mine.

Poodleydoodley · 19/05/2024 22:26

JustMeAndTheFish · 19/05/2024 20:22

How is he with a Chinese?? My pet hate is ordering what I want to eat and then someone suggests putting all the food in the middle of table to share. Just no. My food and I’m eating it!

Go Nessa!

DoughBallss · 19/05/2024 22:15

I always get FOMO when I see something I didn’t have, now to the point where my fiancé will anticipate it and order large if I decided not to have something. Tbf he does offer though, I don’t think I’d just take his food

Havinganamechange · 19/05/2024 22:13

I adore my DH and kids but I don’t share when it comes to take out 😂😂😂

Surgarblossom · 19/05/2024 22:09

FiveLamps · 18/05/2024 13:35

Is that you Smithy?

🤣🤣🤣

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Eqei · 19/05/2024 21:53

MyDearOliveDuck · 19/05/2024 17:39

I have a 'friend' who i occasionally meet for lunch. She always picks food off my plate and takes sips of my wine. She doesn't order wine herself as she drives home. I get the bus. She then quibbles over the bill. I find this so annoying that I haven't met with her for over a year.

I’m sorry, why are you friends with this person 🫣

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Eqei · 19/05/2024 21:52

JustMeAndTheFish · 19/05/2024 20:22

How is he with a Chinese?? My pet hate is ordering what I want to eat and then someone suggests putting all the food in the middle of table to share. Just no. My food and I’m eating it!

Oh he has to order his own dish for Chinese, loves a spicier dish - I mean I would too but I purposely order my standard dish so I know he won’t take any 🤣🤣

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Emmerald · 19/05/2024 21:02

JustMeAndTheFish · 19/05/2024 20:22

How is he with a Chinese?? My pet hate is ordering what I want to eat and then someone suggests putting all the food in the middle of table to share. Just no. My food and I’m eating it!

I totally agree! There's certain Chinese dishes that I want all of it, others I'm happy with a share. I do make it known before ordering and luckily I'm not alone in my friends as we all do this.

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