Reckless couple

How odd. So they continue in their ways. And so? How is it any of your business?

My dad is the same. Smoked since 13, a big drinker, eats red meat once a day, usually more than once. He's 61. Had a health scare couple of years ago, but recovered and continues in his ways. According to him, he'd rather live shorter, but with the things he loves, than drag it out sober, munching salad. His own father - my grandad - was exactly the same, big drinker, smoker, red meat until he died. Lived to 87.

It's his life and his choice, wouldn't occur to me to nag him to change, it's his business. Plus I agree with him.

He has plenty of money and private insurance, so not a 'drain'.

Non-alcoholic wine is yucky, bring a fruit basket next time 😉

You cannot fix other people. Stop trying to improve them.

OP, its literally none of your business.

You have an opinion. That is all.

pics of them on day / nights out at fried food places… he clearly has alcohol in his hand

KFC doesn't sell booze.

As far as I know, having a heart attack does not mean you cant drink, in fact it has been proven that a small amount of red wine can have benefits to that group in particular.
I often watch Mortimer and Whitehouse on their fishing show and they both enjoy small amounts of alcohol having both had heart issues. They do appear to eat a heart healthy diet which includes small amounts of alcohol. There comes a point when you have to decide if you want x number of enjoyable years or two extra ones with limited enjoyment.

Their life.

It. Is. Their. Choice.

I work with someone who has a serious health condition that they are doing fuck all to manage. I also know someone who smoked through their pregnancy. People's choices are baffling sometimes but there's really nothing you can do about it.

That sounds like a fun evening

Yes but your tone IS coming across as judging them.

you could have taken any other kind of gift if appropriate but you chose something that had a message.

It’s a waste of money anyway because non alcoholic wine is shit.

You are describing a large chunk of the U.K. population!

Look around you and see how many overweight people there are as compared to ten twenty thirty years ago.

Look at how many McDonald's and Greggs there are and how busy they are!

No point lecturing your friends they simply don't care.

Jesus Christ where have all these sticky beaks come from over the past few days?
Fear not I wouldn't be attending if I were your 'friend'

I think you need to leave them make their own choices. I know people who have been through similar and also stick 2 fingers up to it and carry on as they did before. It’s up to them ultimately.

When they whinge about their health due to those poor choices though, I have to say, I switch off from it. You need to learn to do the same. They don’t care about their own health, so why should you?

It’s their life not yours.
Inviting them over for a healthy meal and non alcoholic wine won’t be appealing to them so why bother?!

This sounds quite preachy tbh. They are grown adults and if they choose to make poor choices for their health that’s up to them. Unless they both have some learning issue which prevents their understanding of the medical advice given, respectfully - butt out!

Oh, well, that’ll make all the difference to his health and I am quite sure they will change their wicked ways immediately.

It may be annoying or frustrating to you, op, but it’s their life and their choices. It simply isn’t up to you what anyone else does with their life.

It’s very poor imo, to come on here slagging your so called friends off, and acting superior over them.

I don't understand why the OP is friends with these people. They are obviously close enough to go to each other's homes for meals. The OP is very consious of a healthy, balanced diet, doesn't smoke and presumably only drinks in moderation if at all. I can't really see the commonality with someone who posts selfies with groaning plates of deep fried Mars Bars, drinks to excess and puffs away like Fag Ash Lil.

YANBU of course!

It is absolutely reckless of them and very selfish.

It’s frustrating when you see someone slowly killing themselves but these are grown adults and how they live their lives is up to them.

When I got diagnosed with cancer I desperately wanted a cigarette and a massive glass of wine. I’ve not smoked in 20 years and hardly ever drink alcohol.
I completely get now why cancer patients smoke and will never judge again.
Everyone wants to think they can somehow ward off death with healthy choices but you can’t really. Of course caning it and smoking ups your chances of getting a life threatening disease but plenty of people like me, who excercise, eat kale and don’t smoke get sick and tons of people I know live much worse and are perfectly fine.
And ultimately people have to really want to change, you can’t guilt or shame them into it.

Mind your own judgemental business, it's really that simple. You can not smoke and drink and get hit by a bus tomorrow. People can live their life the way they see fit.

It's not easy to give up junk food, smoking and drinking for us mere mortals. Perhaps rather than fried food every night, they go out once s week (and post a selfie). Perhaps rather than smoking 10 a day, they have cut to 3 day and you just happened to catch one of them, perhaps rather than drinking every night they have cut to twice a week.

Such a nasty post

Non-alcoholic wine isn’t a gift, it’s a penance.

Plus, who wants non alcoholic wine? No one. Take flowers or something else that doesn’t make a point.

As for “serving them” healthy food and no booze, absolutely pointless for one night. All that’s going to achieve is to make them uncomfortable and wonder why you’re imposing a nanny state on them. You can find a balance if it makes you feel better - lasagne, red wine and salad vs lasagne, garlic bread, tiramisu and a crate of Peroni…

I get it, honestly. A neighbour died two weeks ago from a heart attack - very overweight and heavy smoker, only 52. Their funeral is next week. But we can’t live their lives for them. Realistically, the awful thing is he probably will die younger than he should but it’s in their hands not yours.