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Mil and dh : dirty old woman pic

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Isthisweird1 · 17/05/2024 21:34

I have two dds but I can't imagine talking to a son like this and I certainly can't imagine my dm talking to my db like this....

So.. A few things a while ago over time.

I saw a pic of young teenage dh on the sofa and mil crawling towards him. On back she had wrote " dirty old woman".

Then one day we went round and before she realised I was there she draped her arms around his neck like a lover and complained of the heat ".

A family friend once said she told them, having a nice husband wasn't necessary if you had a son.

But she never complements him and puts him down which is strange?

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Isthisweird1 · 17/05/2024 22:55

Sofa. She was on the sofa on all fours crawling towards him.

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TeaandScandal · 17/05/2024 22:54

I’m trying to imagine a photo of someone crawling across the floor…

Wendysfriend · 17/05/2024 22:51

Who took the photo of the woman crawling across the floor?

Once she's still not breastfeeding him it's all grand.

Hiddenvoice · 17/05/2024 22:47

Sorry op but I think you’re reading too much into this. It sounds like they hug often, I wouldn’t question the part about the heat comment.

Her comment about going out just seems like she wants some attention and wants him to ask what she’s up to.

If you feel uncomfortable then speak to your husband about it and see what he says.

Ialwaysdomybest · 17/05/2024 22:47

So what does your DH have to say about the photo?
Have you discussed with him about how his mother interacts with him?

TeaandScandal · 17/05/2024 22:46
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Isthisweird1 · 17/05/2024 22:42
  • when she said its hot it was a genuinely hot day.
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Isthisweird1 · 17/05/2024 22:37

@BurntToACinder so, if that was my mum and db... It would have been, knock knock, door open
. "hello"..

Hello..

Come in, it's hot isn't it, with perhaps and quick swift peck on the cheek and brief squish of shoulders?

Mil opened the door and sort of hello... Drapes arms around neck and gazes.. It's hot isn't it "

Then" oh... "" -hello"... Surprised" I didn't realise you where there... " to me.

It was a very hot day when that happened so the reference to heat was about environmental heat. .

Another time she was going out and she said to oh who had mentioned something... "oh can't I go out, don't you want me too, I have to have a life as well...".

It had no bearing or context on anything...dh couldn't have cared less

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Isthisweird1 · 17/05/2024 22:34

@Woozerbug

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Isthisweird1 · 17/05/2024 22:28

Re pic, dh looked like a young teen and she was in jeans and top, not lingerie... She was crawling on all fours laughing.

It's her writing in the back.

If it was one piece of evidence if you like I would have thought odd? But perhaps no big deal...
We arrived at her house and she was like " hello darling (fine) the drapes her arms around his neck and said it's hot... In a imitate way I thought.Then a family friend told me about that comment. There's been other things but I think those three are the main ones.

But if you only heard the word she uses about him you would think she didn't like him. Always negative?

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How did she say ‘it’s hot’ in an intimate way? Do you mean like she was licking her lips or something? 😂 I don’t understand!

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Isthisweird1 · 17/05/2024 22:28

Re pic, dh looked like a young teen and she was in jeans and top, not lingerie... She was crawling on all fours laughing.

It's her writing in the back.

If it was one piece of evidence if you like I would have thought odd? But perhaps no big deal...
We arrived at her house and she was like " hello darling (fine) the drapes her arms around his neck and said it's hot... In a imitate way I thought.Then a family friend told me about that comment. There's been other things but I think those three are the main ones.

But if you only heard the word she uses about him you would think she didn't like him. Always negative?

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Willtheraineverstop · 17/05/2024 22:23

Could someone else have written the dirty old woman thing on the back of the photo? Does she have an ex husband or someone that's pissy with her?

LifeExperience · 17/05/2024 22:22

As the mother of an adult man, that's...creepy, to say the least.

NDmumoftwo · 17/05/2024 22:21

This is weird OP.

BurntToACinder · 17/05/2024 22:15

Unless in the photo she was crawling towards him wearing something provocative, then the caption could have meant anything. They might have been having a joke, she might have made a mess and was cleaning it up. It doesn’t mean it had a sexual context, it could have been innocent. Did you ask what the caption meant? I think I would have.
I think you could be reading too much into things. The only thing that seems odd to me is the husband/son comment.

Hiddenvoice · 17/05/2024 22:10

I think it’s strange but why would she write that on the back of the photo unless it was a joke that someone’s made in the past.

sprigatito · 17/05/2024 22:10

Why's everyone being so arsey, am I missing something?

TeaandScandal · 17/05/2024 22:09

Isthisweird1 · 17/05/2024 22:08

She's not from UK for context, but from another eu country.

For what context?

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Isthisweird1 · 17/05/2024 22:08

She's not from UK for context, but from another eu country.

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Isthisweird1 · 17/05/2024 22:07

@DoreenonTill8 what do you think

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Bumblebee907 · 17/05/2024 22:07

😂

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Isthisweird1 · 17/05/2024 22:06

My dm doted on db but I can't imagine her being like that but maybe that's my dm?

Maybe it's quite common for modern mums!

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