AiBU to decline sun hol with relatives due to food timings?

@badatdecisions

you are wrong

do you not know that some people have slower metabolisms than others?

Your relatives sound like misery gutses and judgy pants. I don't understand how going away with them would make you happy. One of them guzzles most of the wine in a sneaky way and then they only grudgingly give you a tiny space in the room which you have to share with them FFS. How nightmarish! And that's before they start making or implying criticisms about your weight/how much you eat/drink etc. Honestly, they sound horrible. I would hate a holiday like this. I think you should thank them for the invitation (if that's what it is) but say that this kind of holiday doesn't work for you any more.

Did your teachers not explain context?

Doubtful, I would actively fight anyone who suggested skipping lunch.

It's not healthy to overeat 2 meals and skip one to pretend to be a martyr about it.

Maybe you should stay at home and not put a downer on your relatives holiday.

I’ve seen a lot of things called first world problems before, but I’ve never actually seen one with my own eyes before now.

What's a 'sun hol'?

Maybe this poster could take your place on the holiday, sounds like they’d get on very well with your relatives.

Go to breakfast and make a sandwich with the bread and sausage for later ate at when you want!!

This!

Just do 'you'.... no need for this senseless hand wringing over mealtimes

well, precisely…

@user1471554720 I have a great idea.

Skip this nightmare of a holiday with your judgmental relatives.

Use the money to see either a therapist or a dietician who is used to working with food issues.

What I heard SO strongly in this was “my treat,” “it’s my treat,” “I don’t want to share MY treat,” and that is such a cry from a child who was ignored by family members and learned to have a treat when they hurt inside.

You need someone to help you stop thinking about any foods as treat. You need a healthy non-holiday relationship with wine. And you might even lose more, because if you’re starving yourself of certain vitamins or plateauing, you may need something that’s missing, NOT to deny yourself more!

So, please, do talk to someone who knows food; try some meal plans. Don’t let this be the rest of your life. And use the money you would have spent on this vacation from hell to do it. I wish you so, so, SO much luck!!!!

This.
I’d be hangry as hell if I ate at 8am and then not until 8pm 😳
Just delay breakfast as above.

It’s not about you.

Your two meals must be massive if it's for maintaining 11 stone (before anyone has a go, the lower end of a healthy weight at 5'3' is 7 and a half stone, I'm also the same height) and 11 stone is overweight.

When I was 11 stone I ate 3 meals a day plus chocolate.

I would have smaller meals and take/buy some snacks.

or just change your diet/lifestyle in general since it doesn't seem fun at all for you

These food rules and all this greedy talk is seriously unhealthy. Eat when you want to eat, not when others tell you to.

Sorry, but you need to get over yourself. I’ve just lost 4.5st. Hoping to add another stone to that by the time we go on the family holiday in July, so totally understand the panic of deviating from the eating plan.

I won’t quite be at goal by that point, but I will adjust my diet and expectations to ensure I don’t shit on everyone else’s holiday. Likely this will involve black coffee for breakfast and fruit/salad for lunch and relaxing in the evening. I will drink whatever shit hotel wine my DH and DD order and say cheers to my 16yo as he chugs a lager… he’s worked his socks off through glandular fever, 3 bouts of covid in 3 years and not given up on his GCSEs (wants to study medicine); my DH has worked his fkn arse off to pay for it and to support me and our kids through this; my DD has battled huge MH demons (ASD/ADHD/and more) to even still be here… so my lardy arse can hold off for a couple of weeks while I enjoy them all.

There are more important things than a fkn diet.

Surely on holiday you eat what you want to eat? Why can’t you just eat fruit for breakfast or eggs, neither are going to make you gain weight? You don’t need to have a fry up or danish pastries? Same with other meals, you don’t have to eat the unhealthy options?

I like to eat healthy, it’s hard work losing weight as you get older so I wouldn’t want to ruin it but stuffing my face for a week but I wouldn’t let food take over my holiday. Just chose the healthier options.

You have a food issue. You just eat when you want to eat. You don’t need to eat breakfast just because they are likewise they don’t need to eat lunch. Just after you will all eat together at dinner.

Agree. I do 16/8 but relax on holiday and just have a small breakfast, a small lunch and a normal dinner. I walk around a lot and don't generally put on weight on holiday. If I do, it's about 2lbs.

I haven't read the whole thread but I'm exhausted just reading the OPs comments. Sorry OP but you sound hard work. Fair enough if you want to skip breakfast and eat by a certain time, drink restaurant wine and get your timed jog in, but you can't expect others to fit in with you. You do you and they can do them I say! Your schedule sounds quite rigid for a 'holiday'. I wouldn't fancy going away with someone with such a strict mindset.

Hi OP, I think it's worth having a chat with your relatives and saying that this year you'll get your own room, and sort your own board out due to your dietary requirements. It sounds like you're all close, and yes family may whine but I bet they'd prefer you to be there to enjoy the time together rather than you not go because you want to skip breakfast and have an earlier dinner.
Good luck, enjoy the holiday x

Do you have to go on the holiday with relatives? Sounds so dreary! I do intermittent fasting, too. In my late 50s, 5 foot 1 and also over 11 stone. I am trying hard to get this weight down. If I don't have breakfast then I can be fine and go without until lunchtime. Strangely, if I do have breakfast, I am ravenous by lunch! The mealtimes don't work for you. Even if they did, your relatives sound weird in their attitudes and mocking of others. What do you do on the holiday in between breakfast and dinner? I personally would not go and just enjoy the June holiday.

Order two large glasses of wine and don’t get involved in sharing a bottle.
Try and have the odd meal out during the year so the eating on holiday isn’t such a thing.

yabu for not eating the way it works for you.