AiBU to decline sun hol with relatives due to food timings?

It sounds like you're 12 years old. Very bizarre carry on.

I got told it by a doctor who was helping me with menopause weight gain.

2.5 glasses of wine on 16:8 is more than double what is recommended. For someone who seems so rigid about not eating breakfast but needing the small bottle of wine, you appear to have bigger issues than inflexibility with intermittent fasting. If you are consuming alcohol within your window and going to sleep less than 4 hours later, you might as well eat the breakfast as the alcohol won't be proceseed will prevent you losing weight more than eating a decent breakfast and light lunch and expanding your window to 12:12 for a week will.
Only eating two meals in your window isn't healthy either and if you are starving between them that is because you are forcing your body back into fasting when it's not supposed to be. You should be eating every 3 to 4 hours in your eating window of 8 hours, it takes some getting used to but you should never be starving on intermittent fasting. Leaving 6 hours between meals defeats the purpose of 16 hours fasting.

OP, you work full time and have a family to care for. Your holidays are for your enjoyment and comfort. Skip the holiday if it isn't enjoyable. It doesn't matter why it isn't enjoyable, and whether you or your relatives should eat 1 or 10 meals a day at certain times or whatever. It is irrelevant what anyone thinks about your regime, you know you and you know what works best. You sound like you work hard and put in lots of effort generally, you owe yourself to at least be able to relax and enjoy yourself on a holiday.

Fruit is going to shoot her blood sugar

are prople really still propagating this pseudo science shit? This is how people like the op get into the mess the op is in. 🙄

OP your posts are very confusingly conflicted. Eg it’s expensive to drink out v wine in pubs is crap v I never drink at home v I only drink at home.

whatever the truth of the matter is you have very strangely rigid eating, drinking and exercise rules that you cannot flex or relax on holiday. Your holiday companions sound equally rigid. It sounds utterly joyless.

That isn’t suitable for 16:8

Fruit is going to shoot her blood sugar. She needs protein (egg probably), having fasted for 16 hours since the previous night’s dinner.

the issue is struggling with hormonal weight gain. It’s horrible, believe me.

I'm not getting why OP can't eat out or have a wine when she's not on holiday?

That is my conclusion, @pootlin

I agree.

I’m guessing everyone berating OP has poor health.

It makes them feel worse to see OP so disciplined so they are trying to bring her down as well.

I haven't eaten three meals in any one day in 25 years. It's not uncommon.

It’s a “sunny holiday” in a warm location, often at an all-inclusive resort. I put a much longer answer for someone about six comments above your question.

I think she sounds diligent and dedicated to good health.

It's not ok to put on weight when one already is battling weight-related medical conditions.

Christ almighty the words hol and hols are just 😱😱😱no idea why but they really are irritating !

It absolutely IS controlling her life.

You sound unhealthily obsessed about eating times and weight. It’s ok to eat when you want, it’s ok to put some weight on.

Every bit of this post and the follow-ups made me sad, from the food rigidity to your relatives sneering about other people’s eating habits & bodies.

If you don’t want to go on holiday with these relatives, don’t go on holiday. It honestly doesn’t sound like you do. But if you want to go, find a meal schedule you can tolerate for a few days and tell them theirs just doesn’t work for you.

I think you are making it all unnecessarily complicated! I am 5ft 6” and weigh 10.3 stone. I used to weigh 11 stone in sept last year. I am consistently losing weight as my target is 9.5 stone.

The key to losing weight and keeping it off is portion control and keeping your metabolism up. So have 2 eggs for breakfast ideally with mushrooms, tomatoes any other veg, no toast. Drink black coffee, no sugar or just water. Walk for 15 mins, about 30 mins after your meal. This helps with keeping your blood sugars stable. Keep active. At lunch grilled fish/chicken and lots of salad. Drink lots of water and stay hydrated. Again after 30 mins walk for atleast 15 mins. Then have a small fruit if you are hungry in the evening like some berries or an apple. Drink more water. At dinner time, eat protein and veg and small measured qty of carbs (Ideally the equivalent of half cup). You can eat one scoop of ice cream and wine at dinner but maybe restrict qty to 2 glasses. Walk again 30 mins post dinner. You will be less deprived and will actually lose weight. Thank me later! Most important stick to portion size for carbs.

Bloody hell.
You sound high maintenance and not a lot of fun.
Going on on holiday should be pleasurable but not a chore.

What's a sun hol? Am I being thick?

It all sounds like a lot of stress over nothing, really. You sound awfully controlling around food and drink, too. Can yu not just relax with all of the rules while away? Would it really hurt to have 3 decent sized meals a day for a week?

They comment on overweight people, that's not nice. Plus you think you will look greedy if you order more wine, what's the point of travelling with such relatives? Vacations should be fun.

My god, don’t go. It sounds so utterly joyless in every respect.

Food is not controlling her life. It works better for her to skip breakfast and then have lunch and dinner, while her relatives want to eat breakfast and nothing else till late dinner.
She is contemplating not going on holidays with these relatives.
At 53, many people cannot eat like they did in their 20s.