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AiBU to decline sun hol with relatives due to food timings?

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user1471554720 · 17/05/2024 14:29

Normally I go on hols wirh dh and 2 tween dcs in June. We go on a sun hol half board, with breakfast and dinner in a package. I always put on weight due to having breakfast, a small lunch and wine with dinner. We eat dinner at 7pm so not too late.

I am 5ft 3, 53 years old,weigh 11 stone. I follow a loose version of the 16:8 to maintain this, not eating til 12pm and eating 2 meals a day.

I don't mind putting up the weight as weather is fine over the summer and I exercise a lot with walks, jogging. It comes off over a month.

For the past few years, I have taken a second sun hol in Sep/Oct with 2 relatives one 40 years and one 70s, also half board.

I find it much harder to get the weight down after it due to winter and not able to exercise as much outside. I work fulltine and don't have loads of time for gyms.

The two relatives eat breakfast, then nothing til dinner at 8pm. I tried this and was very hungry by dinner. I suggested getting dinner early and one laughed like as if I am greedy. The correct thing for me would be to skip breakfast and eat a lunch. This would make the waiting for 8pm dinner more bearable.

I am considering not going this year, as it looks odd not eating the breakfast. If i do eat breakfast I can't fast til 8pm and eat lots of calories with 3 meals.

I don't eat out or go to pubs at home so the dinner and wine is very important to me.

Also when I go on hols with the relatives, one drinks very little. One will share wine with me and will drink more than her share. They go to pubs to get beer after but I don't love the wine in pubs so the wine with the meal is my only chance. I try ordering a different wine to them so as to get my small bottle to myself.

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Crunchymum · 17/05/2024 14:39

You seem to have quite a warped issue with food and wine?

Why is dinner your "only" chance to have wine? If someone else drinks "more than their share" Why don't you order more?

Are you seriously saying there is absolutely no wine in any pub that you will drink?

Why can't you eat 3 meals? Or pick lunch instead of breakfast if you are only wanting two meals?

Wildhorses2244 · 17/05/2024 14:37

What timings does the breakfast run?

Could a good option be that relatives have breakfast on their own, you have breakfast at 11 or something, and then all have dinner together at a time of their choosing? So more like your normal 16/8 routine?

Sharptonguedwoman · 17/05/2024 14:36

Maybe......have some fruit for breakfast so you can be sociable. Grab a sandwich or similar for lunch to keep you going till 8pm. I would go but recognise what you need. I have holidayed with a friend who can run on empty all day but I need to eat (different metabolism plus meds) three times a day. 8pm is too late for me, 7pm perfect. If you can't bring dinner forward, more fruit to keep you going.
Maybe just eat a little less if you are worried about weight?

Ladyj84 · 17/05/2024 14:36

Go away with many family and never had a problem eating different times, we all ate dinner at night together but the rest we did as we pleased

Unmute · 17/05/2024 14:35

Just don't eat breakfast - I don't see what the issue is?

bloodyplumbing · 17/05/2024 14:34

LeaveTheClocksAlone · 17/05/2024 14:34

I travel alone. Hell is other people

Looking at OPs regime I would agree!

Other people maybe not so much!

LeaveTheClocksAlone · 17/05/2024 14:34

I travel alone. Hell is other people

minipie · 17/05/2024 14:34

Just go to breakfast but have a cup of tea or coffee. Then get your own lunch.

This seems like an odd reason not to go if you otherwise enjoy the trip.

coxesorangepippin · 17/05/2024 14:33

Sounds like you dont really want to go

MaybeImbad · 17/05/2024 14:32

Honestly, if you’re on holiday, can’t you eat and drink as you please? Why can’t you skip breakfast and have lunch if that’s what you want to do? It doesn’t matter if your relatives have breakfast, you can all still enjoy dinner together.

Order and drink whatever wine and as much of it as you want.

Sorry, I don’t want to be rude but I don’t really understand the issue here.

Shinyandnew1 · 17/05/2024 14:32

I don't love the wine in pubs so the wine with the meal is my only chance

What’s wrong with the wine in pubs? There’s usually different ones to try!

Bluebell247 · 17/05/2024 14:31

You don't need to eat at the same time as other people, especially not if all of your eating habits are unusual.