AiBU to decline sun hol with relatives due to food timings?

Blimey OP, you're making this ridiculously complicated. Just eat a hearty breakfast, have a sandwich for lunch and then get sloshed over dinner. That's what I'd do. You say one of your relatives likes to quaff the old vino, so why don't you just order a bottle each and you pay for both if cost isn't a problem. I bloody would. I agree that wine in pubs can be a bit hit and miss but there's usually something half decent. Do you only drink £80 a bottle Chateux Neuf de Neuf at the hotel or holiday park? Why don't you have a nice gin & tonic or even a cocktail at the pub?

Alternatively just don't go on the holiday.

Tea and coffee are fine when fasting, without milk.

I'm sorry but...what??

Eat when you want. Drink when you want.

You're really putting this much thought into mealtimes?! So much so that you'd rather not go abroad?

I try ordering a different wine to them so as to get my small bottle to myself.

If a small bottle of wine is 18.8 cl, then that's 153 kcal. Not so much.
What is a small bottle of wine to OP, does anyone know?
I wonder if something besides the food schedule may contribute to the weight gain.

Just don’t Have breakfast

just do have lunch

the sky will not fall on your head

your relatives can eat when they want to

you can eat when you want to

why are you all keeping a claustrophobic close eye on eachother’s eating and drinking?

Probably not really the right board for you OP as the majority of people here who are suggesting just have some fruit, tea, coffee etc. are not familiar with the intermittent fasting that you are trying to do. I've been doing the same since September last year and have lost 30 pounds doing it, I really wouldn't want to put it back on either. If your relatives are not supportive of your choices, then no, I wouldn't be going either

This.

Why the hell do you give so much credence to what your relatives will say about your eating pattern?

Are you not an adult? Fully grown, making all your own decisions? Eat whenever it is better for you to eat? Don't give a damn what they think. Eat when it is best for you, don't eat when you're not hungry - eat when you are? What is the big deal?

If they judge you - that displays their character not yours. Tell them to jog on.

I'm like you, if I eat breakfast I'm hungry all day, unless I have a huge full English, but otherwise I can not eat until lunchtime and then I'm fine. Food makes me hungry!
I would definitely struggle get through until 8pm no matter how much breakfast I ate. Aoni sympathise completely.
But I would also just do what I wanted on holiday and not let other people dictate my schedule. I'd have a long lie in while they eat breakfast, have lunch at about 2pm and join them for dinner.

I agree. You don't all have to be eating together all the time. Skip breakfast, eat lunch, have 17 meals a day - do what you want, nobody else in your group's going to be that interested.

Take some protein bars with you to get you through the lunch-dinner gap.

Honestly, it doesn’t sound fun to be on holiday with any of you.

Why are people so rigid about what/when they eat and what/when other people eat?

If you don’t want breakfast. Don’t have it.

It’s weird. And I could imagine choosing whether to holiday with people in my life based on their wine selection.

This whole thread is weird.

You clearly aren't in much need of a holiday - or sunshine!

Just eat what you want, when you want it. It's a resort not a prison!

They don’t sound like fun people to go on holiday if they’re going to judge you. I wouldn’t bother.

None of this seems like a good reason to miss spending time with loved ones.

I'm 5'1", 63 and don't eat breakfast unless I'm on holiday and about to head out for a very active day. Eating if you don't want to and it doesn't suit you 'to be sociable' is nuts ... I just drink tea.

Just act like a grownup and make your own food choices - have some lunch, whether they want any or not, and then dinner.
Sometimes on holiday if we're not sure if we'll be able to get lunch easily we'll carry some protein bars - that sort of thing may make the logistics easier.

Stop worrying about what people will say

you know what works for you

can you not just ignore your relatives?

I am all for maintaining a healthy weight and making wise food choices but this makes for a very depressing read.

If you will insist on remaining this strict with food even whilst on holiday then as others have said I am not seeing the issue with you not eating breakfast or just having some fruit. I have just returned from a week away and I am not a breakfast eater - I joined the others and just had a coffee.

You follow 16:8- so you normally fast 16 hours 8pm to 12pm the next day?

yet you can’t go 11 hours 9am till 8pm?

what do you do on holiday? I have found the best way to keep weight stable is activity. If you just lie in the sun you will gain weight unless you cut your food intake. If you spend the day swimming, walking, shopping, paddle boarding, sight seeing, taking advantage of any activities you will have much more freedom around food without gaining weight.

recent holiday I went on- 15-25k steps a day. Ate 3 meals, out all night. Gained no weight.

If your diet/food choices are controlling your life to the point you can't go on a holiday, then I think you need to reconsider your approach. Food shouldn't control your life

I don't understand why you can't just eat what you like - skip breakfast and grab your own lunch. I go on holiday with a group of girls every year and we eat out together each night but during the day just eat according to our own schedules to an extent. Some might have a sit down lunch, some not. I don't really eat breakfast but like going for a wander for a coffee etc. We're all adults and accept e tune is different.

I don't get what's the issue? You can eat whenever you want, wherever you are.

Have fruit for breakfast
Get a sandwich for lunch
Proper dinner

Really not seeing the issue